Guys who don't drive..

  • Ridiculance

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    Mar 15, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
    I find it lame when guys don't drive. Partly because it's LA & everyone drives in order to get around. But I also have a fairly long commute on the 405 freeway too. It's kind of one of those "Deal breakers" as to whether we can date.

    Anyone agree with me? I mean it depends on the guy but 8 times out of 10. You get the boot
  • Buddha

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    Mar 15, 2012 6:59 PM GMT
    I totally agree. I also live in a village where we banned ubahns in a public forum. I think that people are overrating personal chemistry in a relationship, the knowledge of operating a mechanical vehicle is so much more important.
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:39 PM GMT
    I wouldnt judge any guy for not driving... I didnt bother learning myself til 3 years ago... But for me now, i couldnt imagine being without my car.. It gives you so much independence and control over when and where you go and stuff.. I dont think i have patience for public transport now...

    But i dont know maybe its a bigger deal in california, but not driving here wouldnt be a deal breaker
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    I live right outside of NYC, so a lot of the guys I meet don't drive.
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    Young_Sir saidI live right outside of NYC, so a lot of the guys I meet don't drive.


    Same here... most people in my town drive, but the closer you get to the city, the bigger a hassle it is. You would pay more in parking than people in some places pay to rent an apartment.

    That said, if you meet someone in, say, Hicksville that doesn't drive, and you live in White Plains and don't drive, you're going to spend a lot of time on a train.
  • Syphon

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    Mar 15, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    Not everyone can afford a car, asshole.
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    West coast: You NEED a car.

    Big cities in the east coast or Chicago in the midwest, not so much.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 15, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    Ridiculance saidI find it lame when guys don't drive. Partly because it's LA & everyone drives in order to get around. But I also have a fairly long commute on the 405 freeway too. It's kind of one of those "Deal breakers" as to whether we can date.

    Anyone agree with me? I mean it depends on the guy but 8 times out of 10. You get the boot
    LOL Really? Well you need to stay in LA than because almost no one has a car here in DC
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    I CAN drive, but I don't want to. I never have to take turns being a designated driver. We can all go home shit faced drunk together. It's a win-win. Live in nyc though so it's never a problem.
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    I live in SF and as a general rule of thumb, guys without cars don't do it for me.
    It's superficial and lame but I have one and don't like to play chauffeur to guy's I'm dating which frequently becomes the norm if they don't have one.

    I have a care to haul my ass where I need to be... but ultimately for dates or road trips, I like to be driven.

    I know how it sounds and I own it.
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    Ummm, surely there are higher priorities on your list for a guy than whether he drives? And, if 20% of the time as you say, he doesn't get the boot, then it's not really decisive.

    @Ariodante: Not all of the West Coast. Vancouver, Portland, and SF (city proper, less so for other areas) can be very manageable without a car.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    Young_Sir saidI live right outside of NYC, so a lot of the guys I meet don't drive.


    but how many around NYC and just outside it dont drive,NY has one of the best public transportation systems
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    I know,i have a best friend i know all my life and dose not know to drive or want to learn.But here its a bit simpler Belgrade is well connected by bus lanes and i dont mind or think its stupid or something.
  • drypin

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    Mar 15, 2012 8:43 PM GMT
    I know just what the OP means. I have a motorcycle, and if a guy is too much of a pussy to get his motorcycle license and and a bike - and I'm not talking about one of those pansy-ass Harley's with a bucket seat where you sit like you're on the toilet reading the Sunday times - then a guy just isn't worth my time.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    I can drive but have never gotten a license. I live near the city centre so everywhere I need to go is within walking distance or there are trains running everywhere. So I don't see the point in owning my own car. Besides I don't drive I'm driven icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    Don't drive.. always worked and lived on the subway line. For the past 3 years been working at a location where I can walk to work in 25mins. Also I live downtown so I can walk to pretty much anywhere I need to go. And prefer to be driven. So you'll never get that "you never let me drive" argument from me. icon_wink.gif
  • sloughwest

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    Mar 15, 2012 8:54 PM GMT
    It doesn't matter to me if guys don't drive. It does matter if they can't drive!

    Can't drive = I can't be bothered to be prepared

    You never know when you may need to drive, so you should at least get the license!


    (Excluding guys who try but keep failing or can't for disability reasons)
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:58 PM GMT
    I'm a student at a small east coast college (read: can't expand easily because surrounded by a neighborhood on all sides) so we have really, really limited parking, and as a result having a car at my disposal is not really in the cards anytime soon... so I find that kind of attitude a little disappointing :/ Just cause I take the train doesn't mean I'm not a worthwhile guy?
  • Ridiculance

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    Mar 15, 2012 8:58 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidI live in SF and as a general rule of thumb, guys without cars don't do it for me.
    It's superficial and lame but I have one and don't like to play chauffeur to guy's I'm dating which frequently becomes the norm if they don't have one.

    I have a care to haul my ass where I need to be... but ultimately for dates or road trips, I like to be driven.

    I know how it sounds and I own it.


    Exactly. If I have to come pick you up every single time then it kills it for me.. I own it as well. I mean even if you don't have a car, at least have a license so I know you CAN drive. And if I lived in NYC or DC I would look at things differently I'm sure. But in LA, a car is your lifeline. There's some places the bus won't go..

    Btw, I'm only 19, I drive a 1997 Nissan piece of crap and commute 40 miles a day to work. It's not about the car itself, but more the responsibility of driving, being able to put gas in your car, and meet me for dinner sometimes after work instead of me having to come all the way to pick you up.

  • Ridiculance

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    Mar 15, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    And I know some amazing guys that don't drive, so that's why I said 80%. But in my experience guys who do make the relationship not as one sided.
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    Mar 15, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
    njmeanwhile said
    Young_Sir saidI live right outside of NYC, so a lot of the guys I meet don't drive.


    Same here... most people in my town drive, but the closer you get to the city, the bigger a hassle it is. You would pay more in parking than people in some places pay to rent an apartment.

    That said, if you meet someone in, say, Hicksville that doesn't drive, and you live in White Plains and don't drive, you're going to spend a lot of time on a train.


    Do you know how many people I used to have to show my license to in college because they didn't believe I was from a place called Hicksville?
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    Mar 15, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    For me being a shallow cunt is a deal breaker.

    You might fit into that category.
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    Mar 15, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
    intensity69 said@Ariodante: Not all of the West Coast. Vancouver, Portland, and SF (city proper, less so for other areas) can be very manageable without a car.


    Portland is manageable without a car only if you have a gun.
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    Mar 15, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    I'm not too bothered by it, although guys over 6'3" may have an issue riding in my car with the top up. I'm a very dominant driver and a horrible passenger in fact, mainly because most other drivers make me very nervous. So dating a guy who doesn't know how to drive or doesn't have his own car isn't as much of a problem with me unless he were to start treating me like a personal taxi service.
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    Mar 15, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    I hate when people with cars complain about people who are walking/biking/busing.

    Isn't it enough for them to be happy in that they get to drive a car to wherever they want to go? No effort, no sweat, twice (or more) as fast, protected from the weather, can carry large items, not dependent on buses which can be late, never needing correct change, never having to check schedules, being able to go to places that can only be reached by car...

    "GRRR this pedestrian carrying groceries in a snowstorm is making me wait 2 seconds longer to make my right turn. When I start going again, I'm gonna VROOM the shit out of this car to make them feel bad for hindering me!"

    It's also better for the planet if we use the car less.

    I think it's great when a person with a car gets together with someone who doesn't, as it opens up a whole lot more possibilities for the one without. 2 people taking buses to meet up is sad.