Hey folks, looking for advice?

  • Sailboat92

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    Mar 17, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    Recently out, mid 40's, live in Ct, educated,good looking, in shape, in fact, got into a 32 waist pair of shorts today, and it felt literally awesome....I'm a professional, married to 19 years,two boys,
    I am clueless on the dating scene, how to even go about it. I'm looking, but I think I'm not looking in the right areas?
    Any suggestions, for a guy who is looking to develop a key relationship, but will need to be loved and encouraged through, as I'm scared shitless too....being in the dark left me passionless, and I really want a beginning with a guy, who will be there for me?
    Thanks men!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 17, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    Sailboat92 saidRecently out, mid 40's, live in Ct, educated,good looking, in shape, in fact, got into a 32 waist pair of shorts today, and it felt literally awesome....I'm a professional, married to 19 years,two boys,
    I am clueless on the dating scene, how to even go about it. I'm looking, but I think I'm not looking in the right areas?
    Any suggestions, for a guy who is looking to develop a key relationship, but will need to be loved and encouraged through, as I'm scared shitless too....being in the dark left me passionless, and I really want a beginning with a guy, who will be there for me?
    Thanks men!
    ahh the first thing you need to do is get a divorce then start dating
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    Mar 17, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    Sailboat92 said...I'm a professional, married to 19 years,two boys,
    I wish I could be married to two 19 year old boys. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 17, 2012 5:00 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Sailboat92 said...I'm a professional, married to 19 years,two boys,
    I wish I could be married to two 19 year old boys. icon_lol.gif


    LOL
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    Mar 17, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    Sailboat92 said...I really want a beginning with a guy, who will be there for me...


    The scary reality about our species is that nobody is looking for you.

    Until I meet you, I'll have no reason to believe that I couldn't have lived without you. AND EVEN THEN I meet dozens of new people every day, most of whom will make little to no difference to me. So, once we meet, you're on. Your audition starts when I see you walk in the room--how you dress, your physical presence, your smell, your voice, your eye contact, your confidence, your handshake.

    Are you a catch? Prove it. Charm me, and you'll get a second look.

    Then, let's make a date. Somewhere I won't feel trapped. For god's sake, tip your waiter well. Smile at everyone who's passes you, so I know that you've learned empathy and humility.

    Drink just enough so that I'm not afraid that you're some cult-programmed kook but not too much that you start getting loud and gropey.

    If we decide we need a second date, choose something we can do together. Like target practice, biking, or tennis. Let me see you sweat, so that I can be assured you won't drop over from a heart attack from a little exertion.

    Then, slow with the hands and lips, out of the way of prying eyes, take my neck and show me you can be soft. If I kiss back, it's on. I hope you're a tidy person, or at least you have a nearby shower. When I see your shirt peeled off, it should make me catch my breath.
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    Mar 17, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    Sailboat92 saidRecently out, mid 40's, live in Ct, educated,good looking, in shape, in fact, got into a 32 waist pair of shorts today, and it felt literally awesome....I'm a professional, married to 19 years,two boys,
    I am clueless on the dating scene, how to even go about it. I'm looking, but I think I'm not looking in the right areas?
    Any suggestions, for a guy who is looking to develop a key relationship, but will need to be loved and encouraged through, as I'm scared shitless too....being in the dark left me passionless, and I really want a beginning with a guy, who will be there for me?
    Thanks men!


    Your proofing needs work. Your profile is terrible.