A Morning Kiss (EDIT: and now, a morning breakfast)

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    Mar 17, 2012 4:33 PM GMT
    I thought I would share this. Not as boasting, I share too many of my shortcomings here for that. But as an example of what gay partners do, to encourage guys to what they can expect when they find that special man.

    So I'm waking up today, and my husband is rubbing my arms, and grasping my hands in bed. And already this is a kind of Paradise, but I love to give him a hard time.

    "What are you doing? I'm trying to sleep."

    "You're already awake. I love you."

    "I love you, too. Especially when you let me sleep."

    "You're awake."

    "No, I'm not. I hate you."

    "I hate you, too. Now hug me."

    "Oh, alright. You're such a bitch."

    The rest is censored.

    Two old gay guys, still in love with each other. I dunno, the flame still flickers, even when you get to our age. I know a lot of younger guys fear that long-term commitment. They shouldn't. It only gets better. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 17, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    I really love reading every one of your posts, Deco. You bring a lot of kindness and intelligence to RJ that so many people seem to lack. And I absolutely love reading things like this. It certainly gives me hope!

    So keep sharing and I'll keep reading! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 17, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...I has a happy now. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 17, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    Josh1992 saidI really love reading every one of your posts, Deco. You bring a lot of kindness and intelligence to RJ that so many people seem to lack. And I absolutely love reading things like this. It certainly gives me hope!

    So keep sharing and I'll keep reading! icon_biggrin.gif

    I'll do my best. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 17, 2012 4:43 PM GMT
    Moar stories about shopping while tipsy please
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    Mar 17, 2012 4:45 PM GMT
    Here's Hoping that I will be so lucky in the future.


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    Mar 17, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    rnch saidHere's Hoping that I will be so lucky in the future.

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    You deserve it. But luck combined with love. Yah gotta love the guy, and him you. You aren't roommates, but lovers, in every sense of the word. Too many guys settle down with a companion, and then wonder why the relationship is shallow. This is supposed to be your husband, the love of your life, your other self and alter ego, not merely your good buddy.

    At least once a day I day to Cxxxx: "Did I tell you today how much I love you?"

    He always answers no, which in turns prompts me to say something silly, which he expects.

    "Well, you must not have earned it."

    "Your memory is slipping."

    "There's probably a good reason."

    And so it goes, each time I try to say something original and ridiculous. And of course he loves it, with a nonsensical reply of his own. And then we kiss.

    But every day I tell him how much I love him, as he does me. And if you don't do the same with your own man, then I suggest you begin. I'll bet 99% of guys would enjoy hearing it.
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    Mar 17, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    *sighs happily*
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    Mar 17, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    I'm so glad you've said that. I am no expert on relationships by any stretch of the imagination but I always think people are doing it wrong.

    You mention to remember it's not your buddy but at the same time (I could be wrong) don't you think it could be beneficial? I think treating your lover like your best friend is a great thing. You should be able to enjoy doing simple things together like cooking, watching tv, or just relaxing. I'm sure sex is great but I just think the really important thing is to be fully connected to your partner and to just enjoy being around them :-)

    My 2 cents anyway.

    Edit: I butchered my whole point. I see most relationships (gay or straight) built on the foundation of physical beauty and sex and then wonder why it falls through so quickly.
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    Mar 17, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    *winks at Josh1992*

    Art said 'not merely your good buddy'. In other words, your buddy and a whole lot more.


    -Doug
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    Mar 17, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
    meninlove said *winks at Josh1992*

    Art said 'not merely your good buddy'. In other words, your buddy and a whole lot more.


    -Doug


    Oh I interpreted it wrong, whoops :-)
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    Mar 17, 2012 5:59 PM GMT
    meninlove said *sighs happily*

    Not surprisingly. The most respected (and legally married) couple on this site. We look to you for guidance on these things. Your own ideal marriage inspires every guy here.

    I dunno, I guess I was built to be with a man. For a long time I let others decide for me, and I went in that other direction. Went through the motions but didn't find much comfort there.

    But this morning, for some reason special I don't understand, I was reminded again that I love my husband, like no one else in my life. I think a lot of us here feel that way. Make sure you let him know it, and often.
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    Mar 17, 2012 8:04 PM GMT
    That's so romantic!
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    Mar 18, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    someday soon i hope would be nice congrates on that. and remeber nothing says love like i hate u lmao, and calling him a bitch hehe.
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    Mar 18, 2012 8:46 AM GMT
    safety43 saidsomeday soon i hope would be nice congrates on that. and remeber nothing says love like i hate u lmao, and calling him a bitch hehe.

    LOL! Yeah, it loses a bit in the translation to written text. It's something like the classic line from old Western movies: "SMILE when yah say that!"

    Yesterday (Sat) we were at a St. Patrick's Day block party a gay couple organized, they even got city permission to close off their residential street. And one of our other friends, a straight woman who drove us over there, was telling other people what a funny pair we are.

    She was comparing us to famous comedic teams, even Burns & Allen (we never did decide who's George and who's Gracie). Well, I know we're not at all that funny, but we do keep our friends laughing, even if it's just spontaneous nonsense stuff. And most importantly, we keep each other laughing.

    So be assured I never say "I hate you" in anger, it always comes with a hug and a kiss afterwards. And an unspoken invitation to say something silly back.

    And now I gotta get back to work, because we're having guests over for breakfast early, and my job is to set the table and have the cooking stuff set out. Guests will include that same straight lady from yesterday, and I've been working since 4 AM, alternating between the dining room, kitchen, and this office. And working off a lovely St. Patrick's Day hangover. icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 8:54 AM GMT
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    Mar 18, 2012 10:12 AM GMT
    OK, coffee break (an Irish one, can't go cold turkey after yesterday). Decided that since it's a breakfast table I'll do all white, for morning brightness, and square and rectangular dishes and serving ware. Got the perfect plain white rectangular butter dish w/cover, and matching salt & pepper on a base just 3 days ago on sale at Macy's that will go perfectly. Macy's can be cheaper than Target if you catch them on a sale, and the quality better.

    Found the simple stemware I'll use for the mimosas (or plain champagne or champagne cocktails as people wish), and dug out cups & saucers we haven't used in years, but will give the casual contemporary feel I want for breakfast, rather than the more severe formality of our dinners. I'll set the coffee cups out with the other dinnerware, again because it's breakfast and everyone will want coffee immediately, rather than after the meal as in the evening.

    I'll forgo the place cards, we all know each other and not really done in the morning. Everyone will have their own small vase and flower at their place, a larger grouping of taller matching crystal vases for the centerpiece. I'm toying with adding 2 glazed white nude statues, of reclining males, that suit the white motif and soften the hard right angles of the square theme. Nothing wakes up gay men in the morning like male nudes. But one guest will be a straight female, so not sure about that.

    So kinda almost ready, until my husband wakes up and I can run the dishwasher to freshen the dinnerware before I set it out, which only takes a few minutes. Oh, and I'm washing one of the stainless cocktail shakers, that I use to mix the scrambled eggs. My own innovation, and it appears I'll be cooking the eggs, including fried (I'm a wizard with a sauté pan) allowed in the kitchen for once, and I may be doing waffles, too, and the bacon.

    In fact, I may be making almost the entire meal, the rarest of things. And I've decided not to set a place for myself, I will be the cook and server only, my treat to my husband who's entertaining our condo Board of Directors, and will be "talking shop" which I hate and want no involvement. Let's hope I don't poison anyone! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 11:55 AM GMT
    But are you two old guys are still in a relatively new relationship; this could be nothing but lust.

    Now if your relationship started in your late 20's and early 30s, as mine did, and you were the two old men you are now and still still together. I feel you would of then just shared something. But new love in old age even in heterosexuals is nothing new.

    My husband and I of 20+ years started our Sunday morning just gone outside in the morning Autumn sun, landscaping our big garden, getting some Autumn jobs done together in what is becoming our most beautiful garden, our very own paradise, within paradise. We then went and had a lovely brunch together, Then we went home, and had some me time, and life goes on.

    I feel so blessed staring a relationship in my 20s that is going to be until death do us part; since I had lived before this began, I also feel I am not missing out on anything, by not slutting around, and having to do all things gay. I've been blessed to of found my soul mate when so many may never do so. The good thing about starting a life long relationship in ones 20s is it allows you to just get on with the rest of your life with a peaceful contentment. I'm sad you will never know the kind of love I have, and have had for over 20+ years. But then you also got the wives and kids and all the trimming that come with that kind of lifestyle; we got ever lasting love, and a life together.
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    Mar 18, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidOK, coffee break (an Irish one, can't go cold turkey after yesterday). Decided that since it's a breakfast table I'll do all white, for morning brightness, and square and rectangular dishes and serving ware. Got the perfect plain white rectangular butter dish w/cover, and matching salt & pepper on a base just 3 days ago on sale at Macy's that will go perfectly. Macy's can be cheaper than Target if you catch them on a sale, and the quality better.

    Found the simple stemware I'll use for the mimosas (or plain champagne or champagne cocktails as people wish), and dug out cups & saucers we haven't used in years, but will give the casual contemporary feel I want for breakfast, rather than the more severe formality of our dinners. I'll set the coffee cups out with the other dinnerware, again because it's breakfast and everyone will want coffee immediately, rather than after the meal as in the evening.

    I'll forgo the place cards, we all know each other and not really done in the morning. Everyone will have their own small vase and flower at their place, a larger grouping of taller matching crystal vases for the centerpiece. I'm toying with adding 2 glazed white nude statues, of reclining males, that suit the white motif and soften the hard right angles of the square theme. Nothing wakes up gay men in the morning like male nudes. But one guest will be a straight female, so not sure about that.

    So kinda almost ready, until my husband wakes up and I can run the dishwasher to freshen the dinnerware before I set it out, which only takes a few minutes. Oh, and I'm washing one of the stainless cocktail shakers, that I use to mix the scrambled eggs. My own innovation, and it appears I'll be cooking the eggs, including fried (I'm a wizard with a sauté pan) allowed in the kitchen for once, and I may be doing waffles, too, and the bacon.

    In fact, I may be making almost the entire meal, the rarest of things. And I've decided not to set a place for myself, I will be the cook and server only, my treat to my husband who's entertaining our condo Board of Directors, and will be "talking shop" which I hate and want no involvement. Let's hope I don't poison anyone! icon_rolleyes.gif


    This post is so gay!

    And, no, that's not a bad thing! icon_wink.gif

    I promised my partner Eggs Benedict for breakfast so I'm waiting on him to wake up.

    Like reading your posts, Art, about keeping romance alive with your guy. It makes me hopeful that the romance can last well into the golden years. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    TrueBlueAussie saidBut are you two old guys not still in a relatively new relationship; this could be nothing but lust.

    Now if your relationship started in your late 20's and early 30s, as mine did, and you were the two old men you are now and still still together. I feel you would of then just shared something. But new love in old age even in heterosexuals is nothing new.

    My husband and I of 20+ years started our Sunday morning just gone outside in the morning Autumn sun, landscaping our big garden, getting some Autumn jobs done together in what is becoming our most beautiful garden, our very own paradise, within paradise. We then went and had a lovely brunch together, Then we went home, and had some me time, and life goes on.

    I feel so blessed staring a relationship in my 20s that is going to be until death do us part; since I had lived before this began, I also feel I am not missing out on anything, by not slutting around. I've been blessed to of found my soul mate when so many may never do so. The good thing about starting a life long relationship in ones 20s is it allows you to just get on with the rest of your life with a peaceful contentment. I'm sad you will never know the kind of love I have, and have had for over 20 years. But then you also got the wives and kids and all the trimming that come with that kind of lifestyle; we got ever lasting love, and a life together.

    I'm glad you're happy. Have you ever shown us any pics of this? I do of us, in private photos to select RJ members, and about a dozen have met my husband & me in person.

    Funny, just yesterday at the St. Patrick's Day block party I mentioned above we got the same response we always get: "You guys have only been together five years? You act more like it's twenty." And of course that prompts all kinds of silly, self-deprecating replies from us.

    But as I said to my love yesterday, after one of these remarks: "We've been told that same thing from the time we were together only a single month. I guess our compatibility shows." And we kissed.

    Lust? Hardly, not at our ages. We just love each other very deeply, in a way that lust doesn't know. Will we have 20 years together like you claim? The odds are against us, we're both too old, our health too doubtful. Maybe that's why we instinctively acted like a 20+ couple from the day we met - we don't have the time to waste with preliminaries. LOL! Plus we simply know the drill, done it often enough to just fall into it, we didn't have to reinvent the wheel.
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    Mar 18, 2012 12:54 PM GMT
    Art I love hearing your prospective and your story gives me hope , to my hopeless romanticism.
    true blue you add to my hope. I'm pushing 50 but refuse to give up on happily ever aftericon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 1:01 PM GMT
    muscletruk saidArt I love hearing your prospective and your story gives me hope , to my hopeless romanticism.
    true blue you add to my hope. I'm pushing 50 but refuse to give up on happily ever aftericon_biggrin.gif

    Thanks! You do know I "married" my first partner when I was 53? He died when I was 55. I married my present partner at 58, now together 5 years. At 48 I would say you haven't run out of time yet. icon_biggrin.gif

    We think we'll be spending this Christmas in Keene at another gay couple's vacation home there. Not real close to you, but maybe something will be possible. Remind me as winter approaches, when we know for sure if we're going up to NH.
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    Mar 18, 2012 1:13 PM GMT
    It's really nice to hear stories like this. I'm tired of reading about 'my partner wants a 3-some' and 'would you cheat' topics in these forums. My partner of 3 years and I have a very similar banter with one another. I play hard to get and he keeps annoyingly telling me he loves me in the mornings. It's one of our many routines and my days would be incomplete without going through these playful rituals! Keep the positive stories coming!
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    Mar 18, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
    CuriousOne said...My partner of 3 years and I have a very similar banter with one another. I play hard to get and he keeps annoyingly telling me he loves me in the mornings. It's one of our many routines and my days would be incomplete without going through these playful rituals! Keep the positive stories coming!

    Oh, we have such silliness together, as you say, banter. But one of the goofiest was with my late partner. For some reason, I have no idea now why, we got to calling each other "Boris" as in the spies Boris & Natasha from the Rocky & Bullwinkle animated sitcom. But neither of us was Natasha, we were each Boris, totally lunatic.

    So one time we were in a Minnesota furniture store. And the salesperson showed us an upholstered sofa, the plush fabric imprinted with woodland scenes of log cabins, men fishing & hunting, and assorted woodland creatures. Just the thing for your lakeside vacation cabin in the woods, but not for us.

    "Look, Boris!" I exclaimed in a dreadful Russian accent as I pointed excitedly. "Iz Moose an' Squirrel!" quoting from the cartoon. "Yes, Boris," my husband replied. "But vhat vould vee do with it?"

    The salesperson's eyes got big as saucers, and said he had to go check something or other. We laughed all the way to our car, nothing in that awful store of interest to us.

    Yeah, have fun with your partner. You are best buddies, and laughter & banter brings you together. That's the way men naturally are, straight or gay, and being silly together will keep you in love. Trust me, it works.
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    Mar 18, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said...Yeah, have fun with your partner. You are best buddies, and laughter & banter brings you together. That's the way men naturally are, straight or gay, and being silly together will keep you in love. Trust me, it works.



    How true! contrary to what 99% of the str8 people of the world and far too many gay guys believe, a gay ralationship is NOT "just all about sex".

    My current man and I share a somewhat "abby-normal", off-the-bubble sense of humor. We make jokes and terse comments that amuse/delight us both but often makes the other peeps around us look at us somewhat strangely or in a befuddled way if/when they don't "get" our jokes.

    I've been told, somewhat enviously perhaps, by his other non-EMS friends that he will sometimes break out of his outwardly cold, grim, "first responder" shell of stoicness when he is around me.


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