Straight/bi guy looking for similar people in my situation...

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    Mar 18, 2012 7:46 AM GMT
    Hey Guys--

    I'm new to Real Jock, but have had a good experience thus far. I've come across a point in my life where I'm not really sure what I want in life. I know that I have so many good qualities that both guys and girls like. I know that I want a wife and kids, but also have an attraction to men too. I have never messed around or been in a relationship with another guy. I've only been in real relationships with women, and both times I really put my heart and self out there and ended up breaking up sooner than a year! I know that when I'm out at bars and I see a hot guy, I get super excited. I get the same feeling though when a really sexy girl walks past me. I'm more willing to flirt with girls than I am with guys. Since I've had bad experiences with women, I am willing to give a relationship with a guy a try. I am not one that acts gay (or even curious). If you saw me walking on the street, you would think that I was like any other guy walking by. I guess what I'm asking is are there any nice guys out there that are in my type of situation that would be willing to try a relationship. I am in California, so other Californian's are preferred, but not required. I encourage you to check out my Real Jock page, and get to know a little bit about me and my likes and dislikes. I am really wanting to give a relationship a try, so I wrote as much about myself as I possibly could in my profile. I hope to hear from you guys soon, and thanks for your input!

    Additionally, I have been on other websites to try to meet people that are in the same situation as me. Most of the websites like Chat Roulette, I end up with a penis in my face, which is not a good first impression when trying to start a relationship. I have joined Match.com, and have met a lot of people, however most of them are flakes. I hate flaky people, and flaky relationships. What am I doing wrong? This website seems to be more professional in a sense to start a relationship. I don't think I've come across the right person as of right now. I hope to in the near future...
  • ohioguy12

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    Mar 18, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    I understand when you say that you know you want a wife and kids, but do you think some guy would want to start a relationship with you if there is that ceiling to which the relationship could be?
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 18, 2012 1:08 PM GMT
    idol3392 saidHey Guys--

    If you saw me walking on the street, you would think that I was like any other guy walking by.


    That's how most guys are. This whole straight-acting-you-couldn't-pin-me-as-gay-bull is tiresome.

    So you want to find another guy who identified as straight and wants to settle down with a woman but who wants a relationship with a man "for now?" Good luck. If you want to find a married man who wants to have a some man on the side, though, you need not look farther than Craigslist.
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    Mar 18, 2012 1:17 PM GMT
    The age old questions.....who am I? and what is right for me?
    Trial and error is one approach, but it has consequences for all involved.
    Your questions are natural part of growing up and maturing...and gave birth to all the "personal ads" sites! Just relax.....get comfortable in you own skin with being straight, bi , gay, trans, asexual or anything else. Make friends first and then realize the strength of relationship with that person and let it flow.....
    they are not instantaneous...more like a river that grows from the combination of many other water sources....

    In reading your post and your profile...it is easy to see that you are "curious" but very much considering yourself straight....just the style of your content....
    relax and get to know what you like. Is the thought of intimate contact with a man interesting, intimidating or exciting? Relationships, gay or straight are based on COMMUNICATION......but sex.....you either like or not.....is it exciting to see a HOT guy sporting wood or do you prefer a vagina or both or neither? Long distance relationships are hard to make work....I would not recommend them to anyone, especially as a first experience.
    Do your homework, ask yourself some HARD questions, good luck making the answers work for you...
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    Mar 18, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    welcome to rj duuuuuude icon_smile.gif Takin' on the gays!!!! You got serious thrill issues bro!!! Awesome!!

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    Mar 18, 2012 1:41 PM GMT
    idol3392 said Most of the websites like Chat Roulette, I end up with a penis in my face, which is not a good first impression when trying to start a relationship.


    It isn't? Have I been deceiving myself all these years? DAMN icon_evil.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    You're not straight or bi, you're gay. Accept it.
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    Welcome to RJ half brother. If you know you are bi don't let other force you into thinking you are gay, as many try to do. I'm pleased you have your head on your shoulders at such a young age and do not suffer from the confusion many bisexuals here claim to be inflicted with. A confusion knowing from a young age that I am a Bona Fide Homosexual, have never been afflicted with.

    If you do want a wife and kids, be careful in your choice, because you can be truthful and have both if you take your time and pick the right women. It's when you creat a facade, and a lie, that things can go wrong and latter on in life, you end up with no wife and your kids resenting you for your actions, and for what you did to their mother.

    So once agin welcome to RJ and enjoy the ride.
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    Bunjamon said

    So you want to find another guy who identified as straight and wants to settle down with a woman but who wants a relationship with a man "for now?" Good luck. If you want to find a married man who wants to have a some man on the side, though, you need not look farther than Craigslist.
    THIS!^

    hey OP, you gots some real problems! Sucks to be you!
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
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  • dj12

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    Mar 18, 2012 7:21 PM GMT
    TropicalMark, seems like you got the problems. Sexuality isn't black and white, and people discover their sexuality in their own time.
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    Mar 18, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    Marry a bisexual woman and host orgies. Problem solved. icon_biggrin.gif
  • wellwell

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    Mar 18, 2012 8:16 PM GMT
    dan_x saidYou're not straight or bi, you're gay. Accept it.


    ...Dood, can't you read?
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 18, 2012 10:00 PM GMT
    My boyfriend considered himself straight until he was 25 and had his first man on man experience. He also used to be engaged to a woman who left him for another guy. After that breakup he made profiles on dating sites looking for both me and women and that's how we met.

    Bisexuality is real, even though society tries to deny the existence of bisexual men. Some people also try to claim that a bisexual person can't be monogamous because they'll always want both men and women, but that just isn't true. Bisexual means being attracted to both men and women. If you're the type of person who wants to be with one person then pursue that and be open to the idea that the one person for you may be a man or may be a woman. Or if you're not the type of person who can be monogamous then be honest about that too. There are straight people, gay people and bi people who have successful monogamous relationships and there are successful straight people, gay people and bi people who have open relationships.

    Just don't be that asshole who tells a woman he is faithful and then goes online and fucks dudes that isn't fair to anybody.
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    Mar 19, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    All I have to say to you is good luck sorting out your sexuality and what you want out of life (and can realistically achieve). It isn't always easy.
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    Mar 19, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
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