My boyfriend dosent like any of our favourite sex positions anymore!!!

  • blueillusion

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    Mar 18, 2012 11:34 AM GMT
    Hi Guys,

    I dont understand!

    My boyfriend of a year and a half has suddenly changed his mind about all the sexual positions that we used to enjoy.

    He used to love it on his back with his legs up. He also used to love it when he was on his side as well as flat on his stomach and me close and deep behind.

    Now he hates all these positions and winges and complains about how much it hurts when we do it.

    The only position he wants to do is him riding me when I lay down. I dont like this postion as i dont do any of the thrusting and I cant feel it as much. Im not sure if its a control issue for him or what, but i dont understand how he can not like any of the positions he used to love.

    Has anyone been in a similar situation?
  • ohioguy12

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    Mar 18, 2012 12:56 PM GMT
    Try something new http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/
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    Mar 18, 2012 12:57 PM GMT
    He's bored.
  • DCEric

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    Mar 18, 2012 1:00 PM GMT
    kaoi saidHe's bored.

    This.
  • muscletruk

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    Mar 18, 2012 1:00 PM GMT
    try doing him against the wall or on the floor or in the shower from what ever angle
  • Gaymer

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    Mar 18, 2012 1:02 PM GMT
    Let him top for once? Gods, that sound redic boring always being on bottom.
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 18, 2012 1:02 PM GMT
    Have an honest discussion about what it is you both want. If he can't talk openly about it, it means there's something larger afoot.
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    Mar 18, 2012 1:04 PM GMT
    I'd be bored after 1.5yrs of the same positions too... Get creative!
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    Mar 18, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    Dav488 saidLet him top for once? Gods, that sound redic boring always being on bottom.
    FTW!
  • rnch

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    Mar 18, 2012 2:07 PM GMT
    blueillusion saidHi Guys,

    I dont understand!

    My boyfriend of a year and a half has suddenly changed his mind about all the sexual positions that we used to enjoy.

    He used to love it on his back with his legs up. He also used to love it when he was on his side as well as flat on his stomach and me close and deep behind.

    Now he hates all these positions and winges and complains about how much it hurts when we do it.

    The only position he wants to do is him riding me when I lay down. I dont like this postion as i dont do any of the thrusting and I cant feel it as much. Im not sure if its a control issue for him or what, but i dont understand how he can not like any of the positions he used to love.

    Has anyone been in a similar situation?



    how oftern do ya'll "bump uglies"? Sometimes too often takes the trill outta doing it....
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    Mar 18, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    Answer is in the question, in this case complaint. The old standard positions aren't making him happy, find some new ones/combinations.
  • NYCAthlete

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    Mar 18, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    Other than him being bored, if those positions are actually hurting him perhaps something is wrong. I've definitely had great positions become painful randomly (although it goes away). Otherwise he might need to see a doctor in case there's a medical issue causing the pain.

    If you think he's just whining and bored, then change it up. Get a blindfold and break out a long foreplay session of kissing his body and caressing, leaving the anal intercourse to last. Give him extra non-anal attention. Maybe he just needs to be warmed up a little longer . . . you know how old cars are!
  • DesireIron

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    Mar 18, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    He's tired of you and your relationship. Prepare for a break up.
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    Mar 18, 2012 3:05 PM GMT


    http://www.spaceandmotion.com/kamasutra-positions.htm


    Now remember! "The man should apply some unguent, so as to make the entrance easy.".. they anticipated gay sex many years in advance hahaha

    Also, try the foreplay page: http://www.spaceandmotion.com/kama-sutra-foreplay.htm
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    Mar 18, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    WOW, and I mean like WOW: from the Kama Sutra:

    When a man and a woman, who have been in love with each other for some time, come together with great difficulty, or when one of the two returns from a journey, or is reconciled after having been separated on account of a quarrel, then congress is called the 'loving congress'. It is carried on according to the liking of the lovers, and as long as they choose.

    When two persons come together, while their love for each other is still in its infancy, their congress is called the 'congress of subsequent love'.

    When a man carries on the congress by exciting himself by means of the sixty-four ways, such as kissing, etc., etc., or when a man and a woman come together, though in reality they are both attached to different persons, their congress is then called 'congress of artificial love'. At this time all the ways and means mentioned in the Kama Shastra should be used.

    When a man, from the beginning to the end of the congress, though having connection with the woman, thinks all the time that he is enjoying another one whom he loves, it is called the 'congress of transferred love'.

    Congress between a man and a female water carrier, or a female servant of a caste lower than his own, lasting only until the desire is satisfied, is called 'congress like that of eunuchs'. Here external touches, kisses, and manipulation are not to be employed.

    The congress between a courtesan and a rustic, and that between citizens and the women of villages, and bordering countries, is called 'deceitful congress'.

    The congress that takes place between two persons who are attached to one another, and which is done according to their own liking is called 'spontaneous congress'.

    Thus end the kinds of congress.


    ....And there is plenty more.. I think I found my bible!!
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    Mar 18, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    LMAO!!! how to reconcile arguments lol


    We shall now speak of love quarrels.

    A woman who is very much in love with a man cannot bear to hear the name of her rival mentioned, or to have any conversation regarding her, or to be addressed by her name through mistake. If such takes place, a great quarrel arises, and the woman cries, becomes angry, tosses her hair about, strikes her lover, falls from her bed or seat, and, casting aside her garlands and ornaments, throws herself down on the ground.

    At this time, the lover should attempt to reconcile her with conciliatory words, and should take her up carefully and place her on her bed. But she, not replying to his questions, and with increased anger, should bend down his head by pulling his hair, and having kicked him once, twice, or thrice on his arms, head, bosom or back, should then proceed to the door of the room. Dattaka says that she should then sit angrily near the door and shed tears, but should not go out, because she would be found fault with for going away. After a time, when she thinks that the conciliatory words and actions of her lover have reached their utmost, she should then embrace him, talking to him with harsh and reproachful words, but at the same time showing a loving desire for congress.

    When the woman is in her own house, and has quarrelled with her lover, she should go to him and show how angry she is, and leave him. Afterwards the citizen having sent the Vita, the Vidushaka or the Pithamarda 2 to pacify her, she should accompany them back to the house, and spend the night with her lover.

    Thus end the love quarrels.

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    Mar 18, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    And finally: the instructions for blow jobs.. as given by a male!!! (it was uncouth for women to give blow jobs... believe it or not)


    Eunuchs disguised as males keep their desires secret, and when they wish to do anything they lead the life of shampooers. Under the pretence of shampooing, a eunuch of this kind embraces and draws towards himself the thighs of the man whom he is shampooing, and after this he touches the joints of his thighs and his jaghana, or central portions of his body. Then, if he finds the lingam of the man erect, he presses it with his hands and chaffs him for getting into that state. If after this, and after knowing his intention, the man does not tell the eunuch to proceed, then the latter does it of his own accord and begins the congress. If however he is ordered by the man to do it, then he disputes with him, and only consents at last with difficulty. (!!! icon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gificon_exclaim.gif playing hard-to-get, its in the manual icon_wink.gif )

    The following eight things are then done by the eunuch (fellatio) one after the other:

    The nominal congress
    Biting the sides
    Pressing outside
    Pressing inside
    Kissing
    Rubbing
    Sucking a mango fruit
    Swallowing up

    At the end of each of these, the eunuch expresses his wish to stop, but when one of them is finished, the man desires him to do another, and after that is done, then the one that follows it, and so on.

    When, holding the man's lingam (penis) with his hand, and placing it between his lips, the eunuch moves about his mouth, it is called the 'nominal congress'.

    When, covering the end of the lingam with his fingers collected together like the bud of a plant or flower, the eunuch presses the sides of it with his lips, using his teeth also, it is called 'biting the sides'.

    When, being desired to proceed, the eunuch presses the end of the lingam with his lips closed together, and kisses it as if he were drawing it out, it is called the 'outside pressing'.

    When, being asked to go on, he puts the lingam further into his mouth, and presses it with his lips and then takes it out, it is called the 'inside pressing'.

    When, holding the lingam in his hand, the eunuch kisses it as if he were kissing the lower lip, it is called 'kissing'.

    When, after kissing it, he touches it with his tongue everywhere, and passes the tongue over the end of it, it is called 'rubbing'.

    When, in the same way, he puts the half of it into his mouth, and forcibly kisses and sucks it, this is called 'sucking a mango fruit'.

    And lastly, when, with the consent of the man, the eunuch puts the whole lingam into his mouth, and presses it to the very end, as if he were going to swallow it up, it is called 'swallowing up'.

    Striking, scratching, and other things may also be done during this kind of congress.

    The Auparishtaka (fellatio) is practiced also by unchaste and wanton women, female attendants and serving maids, i.e. those who are not married to anybody, but who live by shampooing.

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    Mar 18, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    maybe its time that someone else does him

    he is probably going to cheat on you soon. sucks for you.
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    Mar 18, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    blueillusion saidHi Guys,

    I dont understand!

    ...

    Now he hates all these positions and winges and complains about how much it hurts when we do it.

    ...



    Are you fucking kidding me? Your boyfriend complains that he's in pain/that it hurts and you're more concerned with not being able to fuck his ass out any more?

    Fucking sociopaths...
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 18, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    I think positions are a thing of the moment. Love the "pinning process against the wall" or sex on the kitchen countertop..... so many awesome things to consider during the moment.....

    And don't forget a garden tub!

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    Mar 18, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    NYCAthlete saidOther than him being bored, if those positions are actually hurting him perhaps something is wrong. I've definitely had great positions become painful randomly (although it goes away). Otherwise he might need to see a doctor in case there's a medical issue causing the pain.


    I'd want to check this out first if I was in your place or your partner's.
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    Sounds like he's not that long term keeper.

    Like Dan Savage always advises, if it ain't hot, there is always someone else out there who will.

    There is more underlying in this situation.

    Since I am a top guy who specializes in long foreplay, if a guy isn't interested, definitely time to dump him and cut your losses.
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
    blueillusion saidHi Guys,

    I dont understand!

    My boyfriend of a year and a half has suddenly changed his mind about all the sexual positions that we used to enjoy.

    He used to love it on his back with his legs up. He also used to love it when he was on his side as well as flat on his stomach and me close and deep behind.

    Now he hates all these positions and winges and complains about how much it hurts when we do it.

    The only position he wants to do is him riding me when I lay down. I dont like this postion as i dont do any of the thrusting and I cant feel it as much. Im not sure if its a control issue for him or what, but i dont understand how he can not like any of the positions he used to love.

    Has anyone been in a similar situation?


    Yes, with my ex wife. Slowly over the course of our marriage she eliminated all the sexual things we did in bed except missionary position. There was a complaint with just about every other position or practice. I wasn't willing to have my sexuality and sex life hijacked by someone who wasn't interested in the relationship's sexual fulfillment so I dumped her to return to the sex I use to enjoy with men.

    If he isn't willing to do what it takes to keep the sex life fun and interesting then dump him. Sometimes people use sex as a weapon. Could that be what he's doing?
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    blueillusion saidMy boyfriend dosent like any of our favourite sex positions anymore!!!
    Yes he does...just not with you. icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:59 PM GMT
    Is sex the only problem in your relationship, or is there something else going on as well?