Do you find it hard to continue a conversation with a guy?

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    Mar 18, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    There have only be a few guys I've manage to hold conversations with, I'm getting a bit lonely icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidOnline or in person?


    Online
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    Mar 18, 2012 2:24 PM GMT
    Of course, I do. I walk away from the computer while I'm using it all the time. So I rarely get involved to the point of getting mad or over excited. If I had some guys to hang out with on the other hand, I'd get lost whatever they're telling me... I'm a listener.
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    Mar 18, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    It must be Obama's fault.
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    Mar 18, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    only if they're boring
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    Mar 18, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    Not at all. I'm very inquisitive !

    Try asking them more questions about their life and their past. You will then find out whether you have an interest in common and you can expand on that. Whatever you do don't talk about yourself too much. Nothing is more of a conversation killer/boring.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 18, 2012 4:11 PM GMT
    Conversations are generally fairly easy to have... whether it continues or stops depends on several things and it's absolutely normal to stop... we are all different people... some you will find more interesting than others.
    Also depends on where you are having it and the reason.
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    Mar 18, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    It depends on the guy. Some guys click, and some guys don't. You have to have something to talk about, and you have to have similar personalities on some level. Just keep trying until you find the right guys to talk to.
  • mybud

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    Mar 18, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    If you tie your social life to online interactions...you're basically fucked....Like some of the others have stated...Sometimes there's a connection...Sometimes not..Read through the profiles.....Find guys with common interests..Bam you're in...
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    Mar 18, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    How To Have a Conversation.

    1. Locate conversation partner.
    2. Approach individual mentioned in previous step.
    3. Say "Hello, name name is Mike, what's your name?"
    4. Engage in conversation.
    5. After an appropriate amount of time, end conversation by saying "It was nice to talk to you."
    6. Depart.

    Hope that helps.
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    Mar 18, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    I have difficulties, online or in person, because its all the same nasty crap, yesterday, especially told me this. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    It should only be difficult when you're speaking to someone who
    1) only answers with a yes or no
    2) never asks anything about you
    3) doesn't respond at all

    Otherwise, you might just be over thinking what you should say. Try adjusting your filter.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 18, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidHow To Have a Conversation.

    1. Locate conversation partner.
    2. Approach individual mentioned in previous step.
    3. Say "Hello, name name is Mike, what's your name?"
    4. Engage in conversation.
    5. After an appropriate amount of time, end conversation by saying "It was nice to talk to you."
    6. Depart.

    Hope that helps.


    LOL... I never was good at following instructions... but a conversation, yes...

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    Mar 18, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    I think you like me have to work on your confidence. I am finding the more my confidence with people grows - the less intimidated I feel and the easier it is to hold a conversation.

    You're a great guy, I hope things work out for you.
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidHow To Have a Conversation.

    1. Locate conversation partner.
    2. Approach individual mentioned in previous step.
    3. Say "Hello, name name is Mike, what's your name?"
    4. Engage in conversation.
    5. After an appropriate amount of time, end conversation by saying "It was nice to talk to you."
    6. Depart.

    Hope that helps.


    when comes the sex?
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    Mar 18, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    Conversation in the 21st Century:

    "Hey"

    "S'up?"

    "Bored. Just kickin."

    "LOL. Same here."

    "What ya doin now?"

    "Just chillin."

    "Cool"



    ...

    Conversation ends without any closure.
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    Mar 18, 2012 7:25 PM GMT
    No. I pride myself on being a great conversationalist.. and I try to be knowledgeable in a multitude of subject matters, so that I am able to join almost any conversation.. at anytime.. anywhere.. with anyone. I've had amazing conversations online. I've never found it hard to hold a conversation. I make it my business to read profiles if someone sends a message. If there is none, that's fine. I'll continue with beginning a conversation with them until they give me a reason not to. A conversation should not have to be forced. It should flow without effort.

    If someone doesn't wish to converse with you (and you are an intelligent, interesting, nice, respectable, non creepy person, and gave them no obvious reason to not hold conversation), then it's probably because they are honestly busy.. orrrr they want to "cut to the chase", in which they should have saved you both some time and said that up front. They are more than likely talking to someone else who they are working on also. Keep your standards and expectations HIGH. Don't entertain a beautiful man with a blank mind unless you strictly want to interact with him for his physical beauty.

    There is no shortage of beautiful, intelligent, available men who can stimulate your mind with conversation just as well as they can stimulate your body with fornication. You just have to not settle for anything or anyone less than what and who you deserve. period. Even if just for friendship, it shouldn't be forced. it should be able to pretty much pilot itself. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 18, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    some of us type the same way we speak - which can be a lot for guys who talk a lot (like myself icon_redface.gif ) while others just type short phrases of what they're thinking... if you run into the latter, recognize it and just go with it. Don't be offended. Also, I have a tendency to get distracted when at the computer - end up walking away and forgetting I'm online. Many others do the same.
  • JCstar

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    Mar 18, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    like old saying, just be your self, that is the best filter to find people that are compatible with you.
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    Mar 18, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    I sorta hate conversing with people through emails here. It's fine if someone asks me some type of informational question. But if a guy strikes up a conversation with me out of the blue, it often fizzles after 4 replies. Not sure what the deal is. It's not like I say anything lewd in my responses. Or am I supposed to show cock pics after the second reply? icon_lol.gificon_confused.gif

    But I think k3l3k0's comment might be the reason. The other guy probably found another distraction.
  • Webster666

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    Mar 18, 2012 8:11 PM GMT
    mikeinslc saidThere have only be a few guys I've manage to hold conversations with, I'm getting a bit lonely icon_sad.gif




    My experience has been that there are some people with whom I never run out of topics for conversation, while with many others, we have almost nothing to talk about. When it's a partner, that makes it especially difficult.

    Don't give up.
    Keep trying until you find those guys with whom you have a lot in common to talk about.
  • Suetonius

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    Mar 18, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    If all else fails, try a convo IRL. (phone/skype/etc.)
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    Mar 19, 2012 7:48 PM GMT
    Webster666 said
    mikeinslc saidThere have only be a few guys I've manage to hold conversations with, I'm getting a bit lonely icon_sad.gif




    My experience has been that there are some people with whom I never run out of topics for conversation, while with many others, we have almost nothing to talk about. When it's a partner, that makes it especially difficult.

    Don't give up.
    Keep trying until you find those guys with whom you have a lot in common to talk about.


    This is th third time I have had problems in these apartments I live in. I will never talk to ANYONE (I might talk to a female) especially good looking guys... ever again. I just got burnt mercilessly by a trash bag and Im pissed of now. So no more conversations with em. icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 19, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    I love to chat and can chat about anything.

    But it also depends on the personality of the guy you're chatting with, some are more interactive than others. Never force a conversation and don't set up expectations. Always be yourself and casual.

    Also a sense of humor always gets it going.
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    Mar 19, 2012 8:04 PM GMT
    Neutral saidBut it also depends on the personality of the guy you're chatting with, some are more interactive than others. Never force a conversation and don't set up expectations. Always be yourself and casual.

    Also a sense of humor always gets it going.


    This pretty much sum most of it for me. Some guys are just good at making and continuing on the conversation while others doesn't give much to work with. If things are good, just go with it. If not, oh well, find the next guy.