Are you always ready for sex in your relationship?

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    Mar 18, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    I know that "hell yeah!" might seem like the first answer. But seriously think about it. If your boyfriend/partner/etc. said randomly, "Let's have sex right now," would you do it?

    My boyfriend is the type of guy that when he wants to have sex he'll initiate foreplay and say things like "Take your clothes off," or "I wanna see your cock," etc. I am ALWAYS ready and willing, no matter if I'm tired, not necessarily feeling well, not initially horny, etc. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has to be in the mood. For example, I might initiate foreplay one time and he says, "I'm really tired," or "I have a headache," etc. and that's the extent of sex that night. It's not constant, but frustrating for me because, well, I wanna have sex! My previous boyfriend was even worse. He would never initiate anything, and the excuses he'd give me not to have sex are too many to list here. Talk about a low sex drive.

    I guess what I'm getting at is are you like me and is it easy for you to get into the mood to have sex with your boyfriend/partner/etc. any time of day? Or does it take more for you to get into the mood? I've always considered myself having a high sex drive so perhaps that is the reason I feel like I can easily get into the mood and have sex whenever.
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    Mar 18, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    Gay sex isn't what's shown in porn. It takes a bit of planning. If I have an upset stomach or feeling bloated, no way am I having sex.

    I'm less concerned about frequency, more about how long can the guy last. I've been with guys who's always horny, but only last 10-15 mins through the whole thing so I really don't see the point of having frequent sex.
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 19, 2012 8:31 AM GMT
    my man has a much higher sex drive than me. I like to have sex 4 or 5 times a week, he wants it every day and twice on a lot of days. I like him and want him to be happy, but if I'm not in the mood I just can't do anal, topping or bottoming so then we just do some oral or frottage. If I'm really not in the mood then I'll just lay next to him and kiss him while he jacks off and then swallow his load.
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    Mar 19, 2012 8:53 AM GMT
    Yes. although my boyfriend is 10 years younger and insatiable!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 19, 2012 9:06 AM GMT
    I can usually be up for sex almost anytime, but my partner has his moments when he just isn't in the mood, its cool, honestly. It isn't
    the frequency at times, its the quality as well....
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    Mar 19, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    Op, are you a top? If so then your bfs you should know that bottom's can't have sex 24 7. We are not women that have an extra hole to stick it in. Bottoms have a window period that revolves around meals so you need to educate yourself abut on that