How to tell if a guy is into you

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    Mar 19, 2012 5:58 AM GMT

    I guess these are my questions:

    1. How can I communicate interest in someone without scaring them away by being too forward?

    2. When is it appropriate to tell someone that you have feelings for them and want to date them?

    3. How can you gauge someone's level of interest in you as a romantic partner without asking?

    4. If you do ask someone if they're interested in you, how do you word it tactfully?
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    Mar 19, 2012 6:44 AM GMT
    Go with the flow and be yourself. It shouldnt be this hard.
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 19, 2012 6:57 AM GMT
    For me it is all in the eyes, if somebody looks into your eyes when you talk that is a good sign. Also their body language can help with that too, if they turn their body towards you then that is a good sign.

    If I guy I liked said he liked him and wanted to date I would be thrilled and try and schedule it right away.


    1) I would simply say, "I like hanging out with you, would you be interested in going on a date?" it's casual, but honest and clear. You don't want to send mixed messages

    2) I think it is best to tell people right away. When I was a Jr in college there was this freshman I knew from some activities and we clicked right away, I was secretly in love with him. This went on for months and we became good friends, one night after a party I drunkenly confessed my feelings and he basically said that he liked me right away too but now that we were friends he didn't want to ruin our friendship (by that time we had many mutual friends too) I was crushed, and for the record it ruined our friendship anyways

    3) That's pretty difficult, it is better to find a casual way to ask.

    4) see #1
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    Mar 19, 2012 12:50 PM GMT
    well your good looking so that helps with the perception of the person you are going after...first impression helps.

    I like when someone comes up and just says hi and starts chatting with me. Make small chit chat and if they are interested they will keep up the conversation. Also...making an effort with your friends also gives them points

    2) In my experience if you are having a good time, texting seems to be step #2 and if they seem to really want to talk and interested in talking..why not set up a date and hang out....the chemistry will do the rest and if there are sparks..you'll know it!

    3) I would say the "actions speak louder than words" can help you here. At the end of the day do THEY seem to want to make an effort. Do they want to txt you before bed...when they wake up...these things have given me hints. This guy woke up early JUST to text me good morning after our first date. That got major bonus points icon_smile.gif

    4) hmmm wording is hard. I feel like your trying to hard to make it happen..it should just flow nicely...You don't need to be on a schedule or follow a book of what to do. Just see if they mingle well with you and if you two really seem to get along well. In my experience I use humour..I would say something you want to get out in the open but use humour. Make a joke out of it. For example: if they are looking at you in the eyes...I'd say kidding "I know..you likkkeee me..you wanna kissss me" (from Miss Congeneality) and most times they say...I really do..or laugh and smile and keep looking at you with a grin.

    Don't put so much pressure..if it doesn't flow right..it wil icon_smile.gif Hope this helped
  • DCEric

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    Mar 19, 2012 12:54 PM GMT
    You can't. Direct communication removes the drama and makes things simple. If you scare someone away by being too forward, they were going to get scared at some point anyway. Save yourself years and stress. Communicate clearly.
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    Mar 19, 2012 1:04 PM GMT
    Flirt and watch his reaction. Make eye contact and see if he meets your gaze or looks away. Find non-creepy occasions to touch him (arms and shoulders probably best area) and see if he does it back or is awkward about it. Hug when saying hello and goodbye and see if the response feels warm or forced.

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    Mar 19, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    When you feel ready go ahead. Recently I waited a bit too long to ask a guy out on date and then by the time I did, he had started seeing someone.
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    Mar 19, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    I pretty much go with the " Is he sucking in the end of my dick?" test.
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    Mar 19, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    jackthejock said

    1) I would simply say, "I like hanging out with you, would you be interested in going on a date?"


    That is too direct for me, never mention the word "date" to me or I'll say no lol. I like to call it hanging out, it's less stressing icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 19, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    Neutral said
    jackthejock said

    1) I would simply say, "I like hanging out with you, would you be interested in going on a date?"


    That is too direct for me, never mention the word "date" to me or I'll say no lol. I like to call it hanging out, it's less stressing icon_razz.gif


    Yeah never say the D word haha. Make things as casual as you can from the start. You want to go with the flow but not rush things in any way. Even the slightest change in speed can ruin it all; trust me I know.
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    Mar 19, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    DCEric saidYou can't. Direct communication removes the drama and makes things simple. If you scare someone away by being too forward, they were going to get scared at some point anyway. Save yourself years and stress. Communicate clearly.
    THIS* couldn't say it better.
  • bmw0

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    Mar 19, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    Captain_Awesome said
    DCEric saidYou can't. Direct communication removes the drama and makes things simple. If you scare someone away by being too forward, they were going to get scared at some point anyway. Save yourself years and stress. Communicate clearly.
    THIS* couldn't say it better.


    Ditto!