i had sex for the first time with another guy when i was in my mid 20s. my first time was awful- the guy was ugly and i only did it with him cuz nobody else seemed to be interested (it was at a bathhouse), and i was scared to death of meeting someone at the bars because i didnt know what to say and feared that the other guys were far more experience than me.
rushing into things is a bad idea. but waiting forever isnt so good either. you should not settle for a guy who doesnt work for you, thats true. but you will regret it in the future if you set your standards so high that no guy can reach them. but thats something you have to learn on your own.
when some guys are in their 20s, they think 30 is old. they think a guy isnt hot unless he is ripped, has 'perfect' Anglo Saxon features, and has dick that could choke a horse. every top must have a donkey dick and be a power top. every bottom must be perfectly attuned to the top's motions and expectations. you must have the right job, live in the right trendy neighborhood, have a lot of money (or pretend that you do by living beyond your means)...
oh what its like to be young!
then you reach 35 and 40-somethings become hot, and 21 y o's become 'babies.' Body hair is more acceptable, then it become downright hot. money is not such a big deal anymore. u just want a nice fairly handsome guy to spend the night and not be a total douchebag. you want to have things in common to talk about.
then you turn the big 40. guys your age are unattractive. you lust after 25 year olds. you feel your best years slipping thru your fingers. You try extra hard to keep the weight in line, work on those crows feet, and promise yourself that you will save more money so you are not stuck in this crappy city and its lame ass gay scene for the rest of your life.
at 30 you become a big hairy bear, get into raw fierce kink, dont give a shit what anyone thinks, and get 'married' to a silverdaddy who takes care of you and you both move into a renovated Victorian townhouse in a trendy gentrified district where you open a cutesy boutique or pet grooming salon.