I attended my first lesbian commitment ceremony in Seattle in 1996. It had no legal standing, but was a lovely expression of these women pledging to regard each other as their loving spouse and life partner. And none of us expected to be arrested over it.
It was performed by a somewhat rebellious Lutheran pastor, who ministered to the GLBT community. It was held in the back yard of some mutual gay friends, and I spent a day preparing the place along with them.
And when I learned the day before that the couple had "forgotten" about engaging a professional photographer (I think they actually couldn't afford one), I got one for them, a gay friend of mine, who's still a photographer you can hire in Seattle to this day.
He didn't charge them for his labor, a gift to them and favor to me, doing formal portraits along with candids of the ceremony, while I covered his actual expenses, including a bound photo album. Meanwhile I put my TV degree to good use by personally videotaping the whole thing, likewise at no cost to the couple. They cried openly when they learned what they were receiving as a wedding gift, from perfect strangers, and gay guys at that.
This was only my first year since coming out, more of the remarkably great fortune I had in being exposed to the good & beautiful side of the gay world, right from the beginning. I would advise the OP (troll or not) to encourage & attend such a ceremony in California, until the real thing is restored there.