Cum is disgusting. Thoughts?

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    Mar 20, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    I think cum is absolutely disgusting. I'm not sure why I feel this way but I do. When I'm watching porno's I always have to finish up before the end because I can't stand to see cum anywhere.

    I know it sounds odd because I think that's the biggest turn on for most men, but I just can't seem to stand it.

    Does anyone else feel this way? Is it something that will pass as I become more aware of my sexuality? When "in the moment" will it even matter?

    Thanks
    Josh
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    Not really knowing you, sounds like you might have some psychological issues with being gay, body image, having gay sex, and accepting body fluids as a part of having sex. You might want to talk with someone close to you who you can share with, or a counselor. You might just grow out of it also, but as I said hard to know.
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    Mar 20, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    Some people fetishize what others think is gross.

    If life were redesigned, I'd opt for climax without the mess.

    Being vanilla doesn't mean you don't accept being gay.
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    Mar 20, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    How do you react when you cum?
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    Mar 20, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidNot really knowing you, sounds like you might have some psychological issues with being gay, body image, having gay sex, and accepting body fluids as a part of having sex. You might want to talk with someone close to you who you can share with, or a counselor. You might just grow out of it also, but as I said hard to know.


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    Mar 20, 2012 7:23 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidNot really knowing you, sounds like you might have some psychological issues with being gay, body image, having gay sex, and accepting body fluids as a part of having sex. You might want to talk with someone close to you who you can share with, or a counselor. You might just grow out of it also, but as I said hard to know.


    That's a good point I never thought of that. I think accepting body fluids as a part of sex is the issue. I'm also not confident in myself when it comes to sex

    theantijock saidSome people fetishize what others think is gross.

    If life were redesigned, I'd opt for climax without the mess.

    Being vanilla doesn't mean you don't accept being gay.

    I see what you mean. My physical attraction men is still there, but cum is just so gross :S


    jim_e saidHow do you react when you cum?

    Well when I do cum (which is like once every 3 days) it feels good. I don't care to cum on my chest or whatever. I guess it's just the thought of another mans cum that grosses me out.
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    Josh1992 saidWhen I'm watching porno's I always have to finish up before the end because I can't stand to see cum anywhere.

    That's curious. Seeing another man cum frequently takes a guy "over the top." And that includes straight guys watching straight porn, as well as gays guys watching the gay kind.

    I dunno if it's because men tend to identify with the guy on the screen, imagining they're in his place, fantasizing the actor's role, so that when the guy on screen cums, the "audience" cums with him. But I've seen this happen regularly and I do it myself.

    So when you say you avoid that cum shot on camera it does seem out of the norm. There may be something underlying at work here, like maybe you were "caught in the act" one time and traumatized by it, or picked up some aversion to bodily fluids in some other way when young, not just with semen.

    You're relatively young, so this could easily pass. This doesn't mean you need to start taking facials from half a dozen guys at once, but semen is a natural body fluid that a man produces, that he will witness from himself, and if he's gay, will witness from other men.
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    Mar 21, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    I get disgusted by it too. But I got used to it somewhat. I think it's the slimy, sticky texture. I can't stand some pornography because of this.

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    Mar 21, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Josh1992 saidWhen I'm watching porno's I always have to finish up before the end because I can't stand to see cum anywhere.

    That's curious. Seeing another man cum frequently takes a guy "over the top." And that includes straight guys watching straight porn, as well as gays guys watching the gay kind.

    I dunno if it's because men tend to identify with the guy on the screen, imagining they're in his place, fantasizing the actor's role, so that when the guy on screen cums, the "audience" cums with him. But I've seen this happen regularly and I do it myself.

    So when you say you avoid that cum shot on camera it does seem out of the norm. There may be something underlying at work here, like maybe you were "caught in the act" one time and traumatized by it, or picked up some aversion to bodily fluids in some other way when young, not just with semen.

    You're relatively young, so this could easily pass. This doesn't mean you need to start taking facials from half a dozen guys at once, but semen is a natural body fluid that a man produces, that he will witness from himself, and if he's gay, will witness from other men.


    I often wonder if it's because I have low testosterone. It could be that I'm a "late bloomer" but then again I don't want to feel like that and wait around when I could have a serious problem :
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    if anyone has problems with cum, let me know, i'll do all the swallowing instead of you.
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    Mar 24, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    Koaa2 saidNot really knowing you, sounds like you might have some psychological issues with being gay, body image, having gay sex, and accepting body fluids as a part of having sex. You might want to talk with someone close to you who you can share with, or a counselor. You might just grow out of it also, but as I said hard to know.
    I hope you don't have kids who don't like broccoli.
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    Mar 24, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    Josh1992 saidI think cum is absolutely disgusting.
    Me too. Everyone's taste buds are different. Some will like the taste; some won't. Welcome to diversity. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 24, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Josh1992 saidI think cum is absolutely disgusting.
    Me too. Everyone's taste buds are different. Some will like the taste; some won't. Welcome to diversity. icon_biggrin.gif


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    Mar 24, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    I love cum and really get into imbibing and otherwise incorporating a guy's cum into my body. I have a cum fetish. Cum must be inside me somehow for sex to qualify as sex. I'm not requited if cum is wasted outside me. Maybe I have a different variant of the poster's aversion to seeing cum. After all, if the cum is inside me, I don't see it. icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 24, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    Don't worry about it, I don't like other men's cum either. It repulses me. Love my own though and always eat it so as to avoid cleaning up.
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    Mar 25, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    For me the best part of porn is to watch the cumshot scenes. I love watching a guy shoot his load, especially in person. icon_twisted.gif Don't worry though if you're not crazy about cum. My boyfriend isn't crazy about it either and every time he ejaculates he's practically running to get tissues or paper towels while he's still shooting because he needs to clean it up quick LOL. Guess if you don't like cum you probably don't like precum either. I think it's hot.
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    Mar 26, 2012 7:13 AM GMT
    I love it when my bottom sucks it

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    Mar 26, 2012 2:01 PM GMT
    Josh1992 saidI often wonder if it's because I have low testosterone. It could be that I'm a "late bloomer" but then again I don't want to feel like that and wait around when I could have a serious problem :

    I doubt you have low testosterone at 19. Get morning wood, and spontaneous erections at other times of the day? Find it easy to get hard enough to masturbate, and when you do, is your ejaculate volume comparable to what you see in pornos? And do you shoot at least a few inches, rather than dribble? How often do you think about sex, and want to jerk off? Daily or at least several times a week?

    Saying yes to most of these is not absolute clinical proof of a normal testosterone level. But it should give you some confidence, based on your sexual performance, that your level is not your problem. And if still in doubt, have a doctor's office do a blood draw for testosterone to confirm.

    Also, 19 is far from being a late bloomer in the gay world, so I doubt that's a factor in your reaction, either. Rather, as I indicated earlier, I would look at psychological causes. Not that everyone must be the same, a range of responses is normal, and some guys in this thread have indicated their own dislike of semen under certain circumstances.

    But your reaction seems more extreme, where you can't even watch it in a porno video. That could later interfere with gay sexual activities with other men. You might just try to watch more porn, and see if you can recondition yourself to eliminate your strong aversion.

    As an aside, I might mention that when I was your age I sometimes got a very strong reaction to sexual imagery, but only after having cum. Like a switch being thrown, within seconds of an orgasm the same erotic material I had used to excite me now revolted me, and I'd quickly store it away out of sight.

    A guilt response? I never did learn the answer, and by my twenties it no longer happened. Maybe related to what you're experiencing, something that will disappear over time? But just guessing from my own life, not an expert on this subject.
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    Mar 28, 2012 10:43 AM GMT
    Josh1992 saidI think cum is absolutely disgusting. I'm not sure why I feel this way but I do. When I'm watching porno's I always have to finish up before the end because I can't stand to see cum anywhere.

    I know it sounds odd because I think that's the biggest turn on for most men, but I just can't seem to stand it.

    Does anyone else feel this way? Is it something that will pass as I become more aware of my sexuality? When "in the moment" will it even matter?

    Thanks
    Josh


    its because maybe u are a pure top or maybe it's something resembling to a dirty thing u disgust ;)

  • Apr 16, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    that's called a sexual hang up. u have a very religious upbringing or did your parents scold you for having to go potty? lol

    it doesnt seem normal to me, no offense

    its your seed. if you were straight, your semen woulld help make a new human life.

    its your love juice, your man milk. how could you not like the look of it

    im not making fun, but you may have some deep self loathing as a man or as a gay man, that you feel this way