Am I homophobic for not wanting gay friends?

  • lucas8

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    Mar 20, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    I am a fitness nut, and am any fitness related website and stumbled upon this. I'm not into guys in the least bit, but I have read some of this before. And I'm reading it now.

    In relaton to the post post title below re: race, I figured now is the right time to get it out.... Am I wrong for not wanting any relationships with gay males?

    Really, it's OK here on an anonymous forum, I have known of some gay people but I don't have any gay friends. There are some obvious gay acquaintances in my social settings and some gay guys that work at my office but I always brush them off when they want to hang out. I just don't find it appealing and think we are just too different. In addition to knowing we'd have nothing in common, it seems like all they'd do is think about wanting to have sex. I have been hit on by guys and I just find it so uncomfortable. I notice obviously gay guys checking me out too, especially at the gym, and I find it extremely uncomfortable. And the whole googly eye gym thing grosses me think less of this alleged community.

    Call me homophobic or a closeted gay (i've heard this many times) if you wish but it is what it is. Maybe it will change but for now I'll admit it, I feel uncomfortable having any friendship with gay guys.
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    Mar 20, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    I guess you should examine your behavior. It seems like you are primarily concerned with gay men checking you out. Yet, I would assume you do the same thing to women. Because they are doing it to you, you feel that same uncomfortable feeling that most all women have when they are being objectified by a man.

    If you're a fitness nut, and I assume are implying you're attractive.. then you should expect to get looks from men and women. Nothing is going to change that.

    Along the the same lines, even if you're the hottest guy on earth.. it doesn't mean that every gay man wants to have sex with you. It's simply not true.

    You are missing out on some potentially good friendships by just assuming you have nothing in common with gay men and that we all want to fuck you.
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 20, 2012 12:14 PM GMT
    adam228 said

    Along the the same lines, even if you're the hottest guy on earth.. it doesn't mean that every gay man wants to have sex with you. It's simply not true.

    You are missing out on some potentially good friendships by just assuming you have nothing in common with gay men and that we all want to fuck you.


    This. We don't want to have sex with you; we probably don't think you are as attractive as you think you are yourself, and you're probably reading into the glances that people are throwing you at the gym, unless you go to a really cruisy gym in Chelsea. Your aversion to any kind of relationship with a gay man because you "can't find anything in common" with them points to a more latent phobia and an unwillingness to try finding common interests. Just as there are straight guys who would rather talk about the Sundance film festival and the secret ingredient in their grandma's spaghetti sauce, there are gay men who would rather talk about last night's game or the most recent Will Farrell comedy to hit the silver screen.

    Get over yourself.
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    Mar 20, 2012 12:21 PM GMT
    Why are you here then?

    You don't like gay guys but you are on a site for homos?

    Usually I don't pay attention to these type of idiotic posts but you sound like a complete douche and I feel I needed to highlight this.

    Have a good day staring at yourself in the gym mirror!


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    Mar 20, 2012 12:26 PM GMT
    Boys really? havent we learnt anything from first day empty profile stupid post posters?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 20, 2012 12:26 PM GMT
    I would say go fuck yourself, but you've probably already got a latex mold of your dick for that very purpose.
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    Mar 20, 2012 12:26 PM GMT
    It's your loss, not ours.
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    Mar 20, 2012 12:28 PM GMT
    Methinks the OP has a defective, stereotypical image of gay men. And perhaps some fear & insecurity.

    Plus either he isn't gay himself, or wants to delude himself into believing he isn't gay (I'm on expert on that one). "I'm not into guys in the least bit..." kinda says it all. Or could he actually not know that this is a site for GAY fitness & health? It's right in the RealJock banner.

    It is the definition of gay to be into guys, it's what makes us not straight. You don't have to be a sex fiend, but you must have a sexual interest in men rather than in women in order to call yourself gay. Whether you act on it is another matter.

    Orientation is about sexual attraction, not about behavior. The OP seems fixated on aspects of gay behavior that are unpleasant to him, and his aversion is prompting him to reject all gay men.

    Well, given enough time his lust for either men or women will win out, and he'll know what he really is, and possibly he'll turn into a homophobe running for public office or running a Christian ministry.
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:02 PM GMT
    homophonic? Someone hit a "n" instead of a "b" on his keyboard!
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:04 PM GMT
    conscienti1984 saidhomophonic? Someone hit a "n" instead of a "b" on his keyboard!
    Either that, or he really likes to play the homo. icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:11 PM GMT
    Who gives a fuck what yer comfortable with?

    This isn't the place for you.

    So go back to eating cake frosting directly from the can in yer Mom's basement while jackin' it to Lockerroom Hidden Cam Porn, douchebag.

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    Mar 20, 2012 1:14 PM GMT
    conscienti1984 saidhomophonic? Someone hit a "n" instead of a "b" on his keyboard!

    homophonic: related to the sounds made my homosexuals.

    "Tom had to close the door whenever his roommate Larry became excessively homophonic."

    "At the Pride Festival the sounds of homophonic laughter could be heard at the Margaret Cho show."
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 20, 2012 1:18 PM GMT
    Another odd conversation, much like that supposidly provided by "Smalltop1953" in another thread. There may be a number of staight guys that feel that way this person supposidly does, but they don't seek out a gay fitness site and post how they feel.

    If this poster is indeed real, I would encourage him to focus on other productive things in his life that might give him a better balance.
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:23 PM GMT
    Many of the guys I know on this site consider their sexual orientation to be only a small part of who they are. In my case, and I think theirs as well, most of my friends are straight just because of circumstances. Other guys live in gay communities and their experiences are different.

    Unless you are actively dating or in a heterosexual relationship, I suspect some of your discomfort in what you describe results from some self-doubts or uncertainties you have about yourself. That's not meant in any kind of derogatory way. Most of us have been there.

    My suggestion is not to worry about putting any label on yourself at the moment. If you want to participate in forums and get to know some folks here, that might over time give you more to chew on.
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:29 PM GMT

    Another fake OP? If the OP was so "uncomfortable" as claimed then why would he add "8" to his profile name??!

    How stupid.


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    Mar 20, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    You sound ugly. So probably best you stay in the straight world.
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    Ausuniversity90 saidWhy are you here then?


    Because he's a fictional character with a fictional story that exists only to generate web traffic on RJ to maintain its ad revenue stream, just like all the other transparent sock accounts that have taken over this site with their single digit post, pictureless profiles asking inflammatory questions followed by a "what do you think?" or "am I the only one?" etc.

    And it works. Everyone falls for it.

    That's why.
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
    guys it is easy, anyone with 1 post as their statistics are considered trolls.
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    either troll or silly straight boy who thinks that straight "fit" is any more than a gay "meh, fat".

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    Mar 20, 2012 1:35 PM GMT
    Troll
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
    charlitos saidTroll


    I bet straight girls would think you were fit icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Mar 20, 2012 1:37 PM GMT
    if you feel uncomfortable its cause you are a weak coward inside, your nothing but a scared little animal.
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    Mar 20, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    Am I homophonic for not wanting gay friends?

    The more you know....

    Homophony. That's a str8 or gay guy who comes up with fake excuses about as to why they have problems with gay people.

    or

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homophony
    ...a texture in which two or more parts move together in harmony, the relationship between them creating chords...

    by which, I suppose, you'd be dishomophonic, as you can not seem to find a sense of harmony.

    Solution: Take some chic to a performance of your local gay men's chorus. After the show, when you've got all your frustrations worked up from guys cruising you, fuck the shit out of her over and over again--being the man that you are--until you finally become comfortable with your own sexuality and then, maybe, you won't have to worry about what we do in bed.

    Your comfort issues aren't with us. Your comfort issues are with yourself.
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    Mar 20, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    And.....

    More responses treating the OP as if he was real.

    Hook.

    Line.

    Sinker.
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    Mar 20, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    Dude, there are lots of gay guys you have stuff in common with.....you just don't know that they are gay. Not all gay guys want to do you.