Am I bi or gay?

  • easterndude69

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    Mar 20, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    This is some question I've been wrestling with myself for some time now. I will be completely honest I do find some attraction in women not so much their titties(call me weird but they dont do much for me), but their asses and legs and smooth bodies. However, I've never had sex with one. I'm down to try hooking up with some, but I don't usually pursue a relationship with a girl. I should also add that I have more guy friends than girl friends. I just think guys are more fun and more appealing and I can relate to them more with sports, working out, physical labor, etc. I will say I'm somewhere between masculine and feminine because I like manly stuff but I think like a woman I'm sensitive, gentle, and emotional. I'm also mostly submissive sexually. However, I do have my masculine tendencies as well such as being really horny and sex-driven. I just feel that I'm more intimate with guys and may not understand or connect with girls too well. So I guess I'm mostly masculine with some feminine traits maybe 60-40.

    I mean I'll grind on girls at the club, but it only turns me on a little not nearly as much as even just dancing with a cute guy would(much less grinding with one!). I would much rather end up with a guy than a girl in the end. I only look at gay porn never any straight or lesbian porn. I do check out some hot girls, but if there's a hot guy with them the guy catches my eye. I'll even admit that I've been hesitant with trying sex with women sometimes the picture of sex between a man and a woman grosses me out.

    So with all this said, do u think i can still consider myself bi or am i gay? Or do u think i just need to have an experience with women to know? Some straight guys say that once I get the pussy that's all I'll ever want or I'll like it once I try it. But I don't wanna force myself with something that doesn't do much for me.
  • Suetonius

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    Mar 20, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    hornydude01 said
    I only look at gay porn never any straight or lesbian porn.

    The test: Rent gay and straight porn films. If you get hard watching gay films, and not while watching straight porn films, you are gay. IDoesn't mean you can't have sex with women if you want to.
  • easterndude69

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    Mar 20, 2012 7:25 PM GMT
    I guess I could try that what if the guy on top catches most of my attention in the straight videos?icon_lol.gif I've watched only a little straight porn with friends(yeah now I contradict myself but I have watched A LITTLE) and I mainly just notice the guy doing the sex and kissing and his physical features more than the girl.
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    Mar 20, 2012 7:39 PM GMT
    Does this really bug you so much? Why do you have to define it?

    If you're in the mood for girls go for girls, if you're in the mood for men go for men. When someone asks you you could still say you're bi so they won't be surprised when you show up with a girl/man.
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    Mar 20, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    I still think about the same thing as well some days but am comfortable and content and pleased to call myself queer. On the Kinsey Scale I would label myself as 3.5-4/4.5 in most, if not all, cases. There are some women I see who are very hot and I have no problem commenting on a woman who I find sexy/attractive/cute.

    I also find that calling yourself predominately gay is a good way to describe yourself. I alternate between that and queer.

    Lastly, we are all sexual beings and most people, according to studies done on human sexuality, fall somewhere in the middle between 100% straight and 100% gay and that gray/middle area makes lots of people uncomfortable, particularly 100% straight and 100% gay people.
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:00 PM GMT
    You're just slutty. No big deal. icon_wink.gif
  • vbportugal

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    Mar 20, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThe way to tell whether or no if you are gay is to examine your hand
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    I am a heterosexual man or homosexual woman according to that chart.
  • KOSMOS4

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    Mar 20, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    I'd say you're gay--what little sexual attraction to women you have seems 2b entirely symbolic. Your depiction of distaste when imagining a girl and guy together further reinforces this. Although fantasies are an interesting beast. I know I'm gay; I'm unquestionably attracted to males and not at all to females. Yet my fantasies are, and have always been, about straight couples.
  • easterndude69

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    Mar 20, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThe way to tell whether or no if you are gay is to examine your hand
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    My index is longer than my ring finger. Yep I'm gay!
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThe way to tell whether or no if you are gay is to examine your hand
    homohands.jpg


    I guess I'm not really gay ..
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    I guess Im a heterosexual women...

    so am I transgendered icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    Suetonius said
    hornydude01 said
    I only look at gay porn never any straight or lesbian porn.

    The test: Rent gay and straight porn films. If you get hard watching gay films, and not while watching straight porn films, you are gay. IDoesn't mean you can't have sex with women if you want to.


    Some gay guys still get off straight porn (there's a dick or several dicks in it). So I dont think that's a very reliable test...

    From your description, it sounds like you're gay. Only you know, and the truth is it sometimes takes a while to get used to the idea that you are 'gay.' So you start to wonder... Well am I REALLY gay.... or have I just not found the right girl?

    But truthfully... if you were into women, you'd be plainly into women. You'd see them on the street frequently and be attracted to all the things that straight men typically like about women....

    I think you have your answer. No harm in exploring if you want, but definitely dont force yourself into anything you dont want to do. Just follow your instincts here.
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    All the freaking straight guys that watch straight porn, are watching a guys dick, so they are gay. If they disliked it, then why do they watch a guy have sex with a women, if they are straight they should only watch lesbian porn. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    stop putting labels on yourselves people, what is wrong with you all icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 20, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    graphicabc saidAll the freaking straight guys that watch straight porn, are watching a guys dick, so they are gay. If they disliked it, then why do they watch a guy have sex with a women, if they are straight they should only watch lesbian porn. icon_lol.gif


    I disagree... I bet you if you did an eye tracking study you'd find a straight guy's eyes focused on a different area of the screen (the female) as opposed to a gay guy who watches the man, even in straight porn.
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    Mar 21, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    Ckfeezy said
    AMoonHawk saidThe way to tell whether or no if you are gay is to examine your hand
    homohands.jpg


    I guess I'm not really gay ..
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    Mar 21, 2012 12:14 AM GMT
    haha i guess I am straight then...

    in all seriousness you are what you want to be
  • vbportugal

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    Mar 21, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    vbportugal said
    AMoonHawk saidThe way to tell whether or no if you are gay is to examine your hand
    homohands.jpg



    I am a heterosexual man or homosexual woman according to that chart.

    Look at the other side of your other hand ... are you gay now?


    Well yeah obviously that is going to happen... but a longer ring finger is an effect of higher levels of testosterone during growth which is why heterosexual men and homosexual women have longer ring fingers.
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    Mar 21, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThe way to tell whether or no if you are gay is to examine your hand
    homohands.jpg

    I'm not a very good artist, so I couldn't draw any of them correctly.

    Does this mean I'm non-sexual? icon_eek.gif