so i get called cute, but nvr hot...WHY??!?!

  • rogerfederer

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    Mar 21, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    what do i have to do to be hot?? Do i have to b a bad boi? A dick?? Be more masculine?? The reason ppl call me cute is bc im small and tiny and i try to b bigger than i am and im short and weak and i dress girly. They always say it so patronizingly. Like they would b talking to a dog or baby. I want to b hot for once. I want to b the thing everyone is talking about. Am i just not attractive enough or have the right personality for it?? cuz i have a ton of confidence i show but everybody ends up still thinking im just stupid ole "cute"icon_twisted.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_twisted.gificon_evil.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 21, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    rogerfederer saidwhat do i have to do to be hot?? Do i have to b a bad boi? A dick?? Be more masculine?? The reason ppl call me cute is bc im small and tiny and i try to b bigger than i am and im short and weak and i dress girly. They always say it so patronizingly. Like they would b talking to a dog or baby. I want to b hot for once. I want to b the thing everyone is talking about. Am i just not attractive enough or have the right personality for it?? cuz i have a ton of confidence i show but everybody ends up still thinking im just stupid ole "cute"icon_twisted.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_twisted.gificon_evil.gificon_twisted.gif


    Well I don't know you personally but sir...with an ass like that, hot is the word that would come to mind for me (not like my opinion matters, lol).
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    Mar 21, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    Remove the ball! THEN you'd be HOT!icon_wink.gif
  • Generaleclect...

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    Mar 21, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
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    I get that sometimes - more cute than hot. If I watched The Butch Factor correctly, yep, muscle definitely helps. But everyone's different.

    Also, yeah, you're hot... but I get the feeling you know that already. icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 21, 2012 6:11 AM GMT
    Meh, I get called cute instead of hot and I think I might be developing the same problem as you. Haha, I'm kidding. Maybe people assume we like being called cute because of how young we are. I dunno.
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 21, 2012 8:46 AM GMT
    I read an article, granted this was about straight women, but it said they tend to look for "hot" guys for temporary things and "cute" guys for marrying. I would assume that some of that carries over with gay men too, so keep that in mind ;-)
  • davidsticky69

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    Mar 21, 2012 10:59 AM GMT
    Because cute is the new hot icon_biggrin.gif

  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 21, 2012 11:03 AM GMT
    Be glad you are referenced in a positive way. I appreciate being called "hot, cute or handsome"... many guys get few compliments out there so be happy. Seriously.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Mar 21, 2012 11:32 AM GMT
    I know the difference between cute and hot you are talking about. I was just talking with a buddy over the weekend.

    Look at the pics of yourself in the yellow shorts when you have scruff and you lost the boyish grin (especially in the reclined pic) .... you look "HAWT" hot. In the other pics you look like a handsome age 19 boyish guy .... which you are. .
    Point - You can have it both ways. You want someone to think you are hot? Then loose tje boyish grin and go for the sultry stare and preferably with a two or three day scruff. Once you hook them with that look revert to the boyish grin and their dick will get hard ..... "hot" then "handsome."
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    Mar 21, 2012 12:16 PM GMT
    Woe is you. Imagine the guys that get called "troll". Lol I never thought being called "cute" or "hot" were bad things.
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    Mar 21, 2012 12:35 PM GMT
    Don't like using the word hot. It almost seems like dirty talk, and I feel kinda perverted saying it. :/.... To me.. Cute is the best thing I can say to you. Then again I don't use the word like "eh.. He's cute, I guess". I'm more along the lines of "MY GAWD HE'S SO CUTE *drool*"...
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    Mar 21, 2012 12:43 PM GMT
    HowHotKC saidI know the difference between cute and hot you are talking about. I was just talking with a buddy over the weekend.

    Look at the pics of yourself in the yellow shorts when you have scruff and you lost the boyish grin (especially in the reclined pic) .... you look "HAWT" hot. In the other pics you look like a handsome age 19 boyish guy .... which you are. .
    Point - You can have it both ways. You want someone to think you are hot? Then loose tje boyish grin and go for the sultry stare and preferably with a two or three day scruff. Once you hook them with that look revert to the boyish grin and their dick will get hard ..... "hot" then "handsome."


    what he said
  • muscletruk

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    Mar 21, 2012 12:50 PM GMT
    I think the fact that you ask the question show a little lack of confidence. just say thanks. "HOT" will come in it's own time. and as to the young cute thing, I still get cute
  • Diceroll

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    Mar 21, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    rogerfederer saidThe reason ppl call me cute is bc im small and tiny and i try to b bigger than i am and im short and weak


    If you feel patronised when someone calls you cute, could it be that you're insecure about your height/size? I used to be the same when I was your age (I'm 5'6) but as I got a bit older I got more comfortable with it. When people call you cute there's a good chance they're not trying to patronize you at all - it's all in your head.
  • dabcrt

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    Mar 21, 2012 1:09 PM GMT
    UMM............the ass pic says HOT. ( couldn't see past that)icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 21, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    you have a very fragile self esteem don't you?
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    Mar 21, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    yeah mate, take the cute. Hot will come.

    I'm told I'm hot (especially with a beard) and handsome by my STRAIGHT team mates, and my female friends think I'm handsome and a 'catch'

    BUT NOT THE GAY GUYS. GRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 21, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    "cute" is just another form of "Hot" Don't get hung up on the semantics of it. People still find you attractive and that's more important.
  • swogdog

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    Mar 21, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    Stop smiling in your pics. If you smile, or look genuinely happy from the inside out, people will call you cute or beautiful. Instead try not smiling, or even better don the infamous "I hate you, now fuck me" look. Then people are sure to call you hot.
  • rogerfederer

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    Mar 21, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    thanks everybody....ill stop smiling so much. and be butchier, try harder to stop being so likeable and try to be that one time fuck kinda guy
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    Mar 21, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    Hot guys fill in the vowels to their words.
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    Mar 21, 2012 9:25 PM GMT
    One word, "bacon."

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    Mar 21, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidOne word, "bacon."



    BACON IS ALL WORDS
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    Mar 21, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
    Well, that soccer-ball photo you have on your profile is pretty damn HOT if you ask me!!!

    And as someone else said, be glad you're being called something positive. I seem to get "handsome" alot. Though today, i got "ridiculously hot" so I'm feeling pretty good..haha.

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    Mar 21, 2012 9:34 PM GMT
    jackthejock saidI read an article, granted this was about straight women, but it said they tend to look for "hot" guys for temporary things and "cute" guys for marrying. I would assume that some of that carries over with gay men too, so keep that in mind ;-)


    Yeah I read something similar too. It was talking specifically about how women find muscular guys attractive for a fling/one night stand but they don't trust them for a long term relationship and pick 'regular' men for that.

    http://www.reuters.com/article/2007/07/10/us-sex-muscles-idUSEIC04599320070710