gymguy1 saidI got my HIV results today. Reality didnt set in until last night. What if I was positve? What would I do? I sat in the doctors office and was shaking. He came in and gave me my negative status. He was surprised I was so nervous because I always practiced safe sex and I have never shared needles (drug free).
So my question I guess is, if I was this freaked out by taking this test and I live a reletively low risk life style. ... Why do some people insist on living a high risk lifestyle? Is it the rush of just having spontaneous sex with someone with no protection? Not caring if you become infected or just think your invinceble. I am not knocking anyone that does this. I just would like to understand more.
Well I am glad to hear your results came back negative. I did notice that you said the doctor was surprised that you took the test because you always practice safe sex. Just to let you know I got the same response when I first took the test in 1989 even though I was having unprotected oral sex.
As it turns out that person's reaction gave me a false sense of security which I will always pay for. So if you are giving a guy a blowjob and he does not have a condom on, then it is low risk, not zero risk.
Why do guys engage in risky behaviour? I think several factors are working in combination, some more than others.
- there are some people who don't believe that HIV causes AIDS (I know that sounds incredible but it is true);
- some guys will feel pressured into engaging in unprotected anal sex feeling if they don't the person will not want sex with them. They believe the assurances that the person is HIV-;
- some gay guys take recreational drugs and/or alcohol at parties, bars, etc., that impair their judgement resulting in engaging in high-risk behaviour.
- ignorance on what is potentially dangerous behaviour for contracting HIV. For instance not all guys check the inside of their mouth for cuts before giving head. They are not aware that pre-cum can have a high concentration of HIV.
- guys can get depressed and lonely and try and deal with it by having casual sex with other guys at bathhouses, or pick up guys at bars or parties. Even though they may try and protect themselves, the higher the number of sexual partners the greater the risk.
- guys in a relationship who are both HIV- will start having unprotected sex. Nothing wrong with that if the monogamy remains intact. Unfortunately some guys weaken and start cheating, resulting in infection, and infection of the partner (I know of at least one guy that got infected this way).