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    Mar 21, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    I have been on this site for over a year and I have found it very useless. I mean the chats are not worth entering . The forums are the main reason I stay on here (plus the few random people I have met on here). How do you guys use the site (intentions) , maybe I can have some insight in what to use this site for . I have been on many sites and I am really hoping that this isn't just another hook up type site.
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    Mar 21, 2012 10:22 PM GMT
    KCBjr1979 saidI have been on this site for over a year and I have found it very useless. I mean the chats are not worth entering . The forums are the main reason I stay on here (plus the few random people I have met on here). How do you guys use the site (intentions) , maybe I can have some insight in what to use this site for . I have been on many sites and I am really hoping that this isn't just another hook up type site.


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    Mar 21, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
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    KCBjr1979 saidI have been on this site for over a year and I have found it very useless. I mean the chats are not worth entering . The forums are the main reason I stay on here (plus the few random people I have met on here). How do you guys use the site (intentions) , maybe I can have some insight in what to use this site for . I have been on many sites and I am really hoping that this isn't just another hook up type site.


    Congratulations on your very first post.


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    Mar 21, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    KCBjr1979 saidThe forums are the main reason I stay on here


    Because you post history demonstrates your ample contributions to them.
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    Mar 21, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
    Recently started looking at the forums ( 3 days ago ) , maybe I should of added that .

    Been mostly using chat and was asking others opinions on what they use their time on here is all.

    Sorry for the miscommunication . icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 21, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    I actually thought here was just a forum first so I was really happy. Then I found the dating part and got upset because other dating sites I was on were just for sex so I was hoping that wasn't the case here. Now I don't get any freaks randomly messaging me asking me if I want them to pick me up so we can have sex in their car.

    Anyway, to answer your question: I use it for the forums... and to look at the hot guy pics, which are made hotter because they're not pornstars/models/totally naked.
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    Mar 21, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    KCBjr1979 saidI have been on this site for over a year and I have found it very useless. I mean the chats are not worth entering . The forums are the main reason I stay on here (plus the few random people I have met on here). How do you guys use the site (intentions) , maybe I can have some insight in what to use this site for . I have been on many sites and I am really hoping that this isn't just another hook up type site.


    If you enjoy the forums, try to be a participant instead of a watcher. You might really enjoy it.



    Or you might really hate it.
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    Mar 21, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    MarkRoger saidI actually thought here was just a forum first so I was really happy. Then I found the dating part and got upset because other dating sites I was on were just for sex so I was hoping that wasn't the case here. Now I don't get any freaks randomly messaging me asking me if I want them to pick me up so we can have sex in their car.

    Anyway, to answer your question: I use it for the forums... and to look at the hot guy pics, which are made hotter because they're not pornstars/models/totally naked.


    Thank you Mark , I will probably stick to the forums as well . icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 21, 2012 10:54 PM GMT
    KCBjr1979 said
    MarkRoger saidI actually thought here was just a forum first so I was really happy. Then I found the dating part and got upset because other dating sites I was on were just for sex so I was hoping that wasn't the case here. Now I don't get any freaks randomly messaging me asking me if I want them to pick me up so we can have sex in their car.

    Anyway, to answer your question: I use it for the forums... and to look at the hot guy pics, which are made hotter because they're not pornstars/models/totally naked.

    Thank you Mark , I will probably stick to the forums as well . icon_smile.gif

    I don't think most guys here rely upon RJ as a dating site. Although I've read some lovely stories of partners finding each other online here. And my husband & I have met over a dozen RJers in person, for friendship & socializing. Every one a wonderful guy, absolutely honest to his profile & pics, not a single phony. Definitely a quality site.

    You do know RJ offers many resources for health & fitness? Not just in the forums, but articles and links to other resources. This isn't called RealJock for nothing.

    So as in many things, it's what you make of it, and in having realistic & appropriate expectations. And no, this is not another hook-up site. The guys here are the most intelligent, erudite, and accomplished of any gay site I have ever known. They run rings around me. Some annoying anti-gay political plants to be avoided, their goal disruption, the US Right Wing hates us so, but if you block them this site will really amaze & please you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 23, 2012 10:46 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2012 11:06 AM GMT
    Any site will be useless if you're trying to use it in place of actually getting out and meeting people IRL.
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    Mar 23, 2012 11:09 AM GMT
    I just use it for the forums, monthly reminders to download the DJ Grind podcast, and the occasional exercise-related reading. I'm not here to find local hook-ups and I didn't join the site expecting to find Mr. Right. I looked at it as a way to have access to a large pool of different (age, socioeconomic status, profession) sorts of gay people. Over the years I have been on a number of forums (SomethingAwful etc.) with a handful of openly gay users at best and there is not much diversity among them. So when I ask dating/culture questions here it is refreshing to get a variety of feedback from guys - instead of a canned response I was already expecting, or being ignored entirely. It is also nice to keep a foot in the gay community beyond tumblr, seeing as I have no gay friends IRL - and absolutely hate the dance clubs/bars atmosphere.

    I think when you have more than ten posts you will find the forums to be a good resource, and you can meet more people if you make a comment that someone deems worthy of privately messaging you to continue the conversation.
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    Mar 23, 2012 11:23 AM GMT
    I use it to get social interaction when I'm in a phase where I want some. Just as much as I can handle, and the forum won't get mad if I go off on my own for a while.

    I came for the forum and haven't found much else worthwhile.. although the health & fitness articles are valuable to most.
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    Mar 23, 2012 11:31 AM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidI just use it for the forums, monthly reminders to download the DJ Grind podcast, and the occasional exercise-related reading. I'm not here to find local hook-ups and I didn't join the site expecting to find Mr. Right. I looked at it as a way to have access to a large pool of different (age, socioeconomic status, profession) sorts of gay people. Over the years I have been on a number of forums (SomethingAwful etc.) with a handful of openly gay users at best and there is not much diversity among them. So when I ask dating/culture questions here it is refreshing to get a variety of feedback from guys - instead of a canned response I was already expecting, or being ignored entirely. It is also nice to keep a foot in the gay community beyond tumblr, seeing as I have no gay friends IRL - and absolutely hate the dance clubs/bars atmosphere.

    I think when you have more than ten posts you will find the forums to be a good resource, and you can meet more people if you make a comment that someone deems worthy of privately messaging you to continue the conversation.


    Thank you , I think after each comment the point was lost. You pretty much answered my question.

    Not looking for Mr. Right or local hook ups , would rather have decent conversations. I left for awhile and when I came back , messages were all about C2C or hooking up requests. Was trying to see if this site has changed while I was gone and turned into another sleazy site that is all about looking or finding sex.


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    Mar 23, 2012 12:06 PM GMT
    "This is a gay bar!?!"

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    Mar 23, 2012 12:51 PM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said"This is a gay bar!?!"

    No, the gay bar is that way -->

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    Mar 23, 2012 1:10 PM GMT
    There's a Chat room?

    Some of us are complete disenfranchised and RJ is a wonderful place to hang with the boys...Men from all walks of life.
    Personally, I feel more empowered knowing there are so many like minded individuals; not to mention, the motivation.