When someone hits on ur bf are u flattered or turned on by it?

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    Mar 22, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    How do u handle it & how does it make u feel?
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    how about another choice? like pissed?

    how do i handle it? i assert myself as his boyfriend and am polite in conversation and relatively with body language but i've been told i look in that guy's eyes and i don't blink. interpret that however you want. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    How about murderous? I'm sorry, I'm Latino, you don't wanna flirt with our boyfriends! icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:11 AM GMT
    You haven't really sketched out a very complete scenario, here.

    Does the person who is hitting on the BF actually know he has a BF? Is it obvious to a stranger? It's it someone you know? What sort of environment is this happening in?

    FAIL POST. Please try again. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    Neither one of us is bothered or threatened by harmless flirtation and we both have fun with it. We both enjoy the attention and we both know limits.

    Heavy duty crotch-grabbing is a different story but we don't consider that being hit on as much as being assaulted and in THAT case we are very protective of one another.

    It has been our experience that once guys realize we are a couple they just back off from the really aggressive crap.

    It has honestly never been a serious issue in more than 13 years.
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    I'm not greedy, I share ;o
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidHow about murderous? I'm sorry, I'm Latino, you don't wanna flirt with our boyfriends! icon_cool.gif


    I agree hypno! Im irish german & its not pretty when someone knowingly disrespects me & my relationship. My ex though said it turned him on if someone flirted with me cuz he was proud of me.

    He was also a lying cheating whore, lol

    @intensity, sorry for the brief post but ive been at work 12 hrs, im tired & didnt have much time to post a whole scenario. Its just a question i see that comes up alot that people handle differently.
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidHow about murderous? I'm sorry, I'm Latino, you don't wanna flirt with our boyfriends! icon_cool.gif


    Man don't I know it. My BF (Venezuelan) will let someone know (in no uncertains terms) when they've crossed the line with me.
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:30 AM GMT
    redbull said
    @intensity, sorry for the brief post but ive been at work 12 hrs, im tired & didnt have much time to post a whole scenario. Its just a question i see that comes up alot that people handle differently.


    I'm sorry too... I didn't say that in a particularly kind way icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 7:22 AM GMT
    redbull said


    I agree hypno! Im irish german & its not pretty when someone knowingly disrespects me & my relationship. My ex though said it turned him on if someone flirted with me cuz he was proud of me.

    He was also a lying cheating whore, lol



    Who is this redbull and why is he posting my thoughts?
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    Mar 22, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    ^^^ Does this mean I can't hit on you anymore Billy? icon_cry.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    onaquest said^^^ Does this mean I can't hit on you anymore Billy? icon_cry.gif


    Reading comprehension not your strong suit?
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    Mar 22, 2012 7:32 AM GMT
    turbobilly said
    onaquest said^^^ Does this mean I can't hit on you anymore Billy? icon_cry.gif


    Reading comprehension not your strong suit?
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    Well it's 2:30 am and I should not be awake...

    I read it to mean that you didn't want people to disrespect you and your relationship - like Red Bull.

    Now, if your thoughts were the second part - that your relationship was a lying cheating whore, then I will guess that you are currently single.

    I was merely trying to make a bit of a joke.

    My apologies.
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    Mar 22, 2012 7:34 AM GMT
    Shit......get yer sexy ass to bed.........icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 7:57 AM GMT
    Meh.
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    Mar 22, 2012 8:12 AM GMT
    I've been asked more than once if it bothered me that my b/f is 'hotter' than I am. ...and yes people flirt with him all the time. I have total trust in him and our relationship and so for me it is a turn on.

    I also think there is a sort of 'game' out there of people trying to bed a partner of someone they know are in a monogamous relationship. Both of us have had offers from singles and couples over the years. We both laugh it off and then go have sweaty, messy, monogamous sex.

    You can make a situation a joy or a nightmare... its your choice
  • Scorpio1113

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    Mar 22, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    Last summer my ex and I went to pride. We both got a fair amount of flirtatious comments. I was flattered when people hit on him. I would only ever get upset if someone continued to flirt after knowing we're together. That's when I'm going to have to let you know ;)
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    Mar 22, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    i pull out my gun and start shooting the motherfucker
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    Mar 22, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    My BF is more jealous than I am. I agree that it depends on whether people do it while knowing you're with someone (esp. in front of you, which is just douchey) and the nature of the flirting.

    My ex used to like to "show me off" and encouraging strangers' attention on me in bars, and -- like Redbull said -- it turned out that was just the tip of the iceberg of kink he was into. Shame because he ended up being really successful in an industry I'd kill to work in. Damn morals.
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    Mar 22, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    I'm secure enough im my relationship, to actually encourage flirting. If it's harmless, and you know he's in love with you, then c'est la vie. I don't consider my bf my possesion. He's his own person, as am I. Bith capible of grown up cognition.Trust is key. I'm of a Russian background, hate being held down, and view the same for others. Это правда!!!
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    Mar 22, 2012 3:43 PM GMT


    Ummm I'd feel flattered but I wouldnt care to see it if it happened in person but I wouldn't get upset at my "bf" or anything it's not his fault he's HOT lol icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    Thank G-d I don't have a boyfriend.
  • Phil_UK

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    Mar 22, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    i get pissed when they know he's in a relationship, but satisfied when i rub it in their faces that cannot have him lol

    otherwise i'm flattered
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    Mar 22, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    I'm possessive. While I'm ok with my man getting attention - because we all like attention from strangers, even when we're boo'd up and happy - if someone crosses the line, he's gonna eat his teeth.
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    Mar 22, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    It really depends on a lot of things for me. I have never been one to flirt with someone unless I intend to take them out or already am and certainly not if he is in a relationship or straight. If the guy flirting with my boyfriend is clueless to his relationship satus, then he gets a pass. The onus then goes on the boyfriend and I observe how he handles it. That's more important. Anyone I would call my boyfriend would know to cut that guy off quick.