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    Mar 22, 2012 10:36 AM GMT
    Are you out there!?!? Please check out my profile and let me know if you're interested. Thanks guys!
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    Mar 22, 2012 11:47 AM GMT
    I'm sure that this desperate approach to snagging a man will be so successful for you... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 22, 2012 12:38 PM GMT
    intensity69 saidI'm sure that this desperate approach to snagging a man will be so successful for you... icon_rolleyes.gif

    I don't see what's desperate about it, nor the need for sarcastic comments. It is one way to put yourself out there and help getting known. Will it be as effective as participating forums? Hard to say, but his profile is substantial, and if this thread gets exposure to his profile, then nothing wrong with that.

    OP - Welcome to the site. Suggest participating in the forum in areas of interest to you. There will always be negative comments. You need thick skin and the ability to ignore them.
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    Mar 22, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
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    intensity69 saidI'm sure that this desperate approach to snagging a man will be so successful for you... icon_rolleyes.gif

    I don't see what's desperate about it, nor the need for sarcastic comments. It is one way to put yourself out there and help getting known. Will it be as effective as participating forums? Hard to say, but his profile is substantial, and if this tread gets exposure to his profile, then nothing wrong with that.

    OP - Welcome to the site. Suggest participating in the forum in areas of interest to you. There will always be negative comments. You need thick skin and the ability to ignore them.
    Im glad you fell for this trolls bullshit!

    Yes this is the one who wants to marry a woman and have children and a family. This is the one who just wants to fuck you john as his "sexual slave" because he isnt gay at all..

    Yep, you failed and got suckered, hook line and sinker!
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    Mar 22, 2012 6:06 PM GMT
    socalfitness said
    intensity69 saidI'm sure that this desperate approach to snagging a man will be so successful for you... icon_rolleyes.gif

    I don't see what's desperate about it, nor the need for sarcastic comments. It is one way to put yourself out there and help getting known. Will it be as effective as participating forums? Hard to say, but his profile is substantial, and if this tread gets exposure to his profile, then nothing wrong with that.

    OP - Welcome to the site. Suggest participating in the forum in areas of interest to you. There will always be negative comments. You need thick skin and the ability to ignore them.

    Will make a few more comments. It is unfortunate and ironical that while many in the gay community seek greater acceptance and tolerance in society at large, there is a high degree of intolerance within the community against those who don't fit within someone's preconceived notion of what is acceptable. There are degrees of sexual orientation, and there are different paths folks are on in their quest for self-discovery. I have no reason to assume the OP's profile is anything but honest as he could easily have left out information that might make him more acceptable to a larger part of the community. There may be many other guys who are at a similar place as the OP or would like to get to know him further based on his profile. That some feel the need to show disdain is a reflection on some ugly influences within the community as well as some personal issues.

    So I say again to the OP, welcome, and ignore the chaff.
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    Mar 22, 2012 9:56 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    You've got mental issues.... Why would you specifically post something nasty to someone who has never interacted with you on here?


    Oh, the irony is strong in this one... icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidOP: nothing good will ever be given to you...do the damn work. Do you really think Mr Nice Guy is just waiting out there for your post on RJ? --It might be "cruel" to be this blunt to you, but imo it's "crueler to be kind". Some of these fat old men who are blowing smoke up your ass aren't doing you any favours by coddling you.

    He's out there...go find him! And a "Nice Guy" will be just as happy that you tried to find him as the other way around.

    Did it ever occur to you that he is doing the work, and creating a thread might be part of that work? And what you call "coddling" is just offering a welcome. Speaking of fat old men, you're not someone to talk on either of those scores. Seeing your profile that you're dating the other guy in the thread, looks like a match made in heaven. You both like to put people down because in your own minds, that is how you try and pull yourselves up.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    I like to think I am, but "fuck you!" to anyone who thinks I'm not.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    I liked this post when I saw it five minutes ago.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
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    yourname2000 saidOP: nothing good will ever be given to you...do the damn work. Do you really think Mr Nice Guy is just waiting out there for your post on RJ? --It might be "cruel" to be this blunt to you, but imo it's "crueler to be kind". Some of these fat old men who are blowing smoke up your ass aren't doing you any favours by coddling you.

    He's out there...go find him! And a "Nice Guy" will be just as happy that you tried to find him as the other way around.

    Did it ever occur to you that he is doing the work, and creating a thread might be part of that work? And what you call "coddling" is just offering a welcome. Speaking of fat old men, you're not someone to talk on either of those scores. Seeing your profile that you're dating the other guy in the thread, looks like a match made in heaven. You both like to put people down because in your own minds, that is how you try and pull yourselves up.

    LOL! so you answer to "don't be mean to others" is to throw out insults, too? --way to stick to your convictions, asswipe, lol. And as insecure as you might be about your age, the fat comment was to SB....who couldn't even spell "gym" much less direct anyone to one.

    I stand by my coddling comment. And considering you're part of the moronic conservaposse who would sell his grandmother rather than give her universal healthcare, you'll forgive me for thinking that you pretending to have a generous cell anywhere in your body is laughable....don't even begin to tell me that a right-wing twat such as yourself believes anyone gets anything in this world by merely wishing for it. So pull your head out of your geriatric ass and give this twerp the advice he needs ('cos no matter how "nice" you are to him, even you can't believe you're going to be his future "nice guy", right? --surely even you wish him a brighter future than that, no?)

    OP: YOU are the sole reason anything in your life will ever have any meaning....if this imaginary nice guy is actually important to you, WORK to get him....and shitting out pretty words in an online forum is unlikely to do it (if it would, I'll bet geri, above me, would be 50 years younger for all his empty rhetoric.) You're not ordering a boyfriend from Amazon....there will be some effort on your part required for what you *say* you want.

    So the mild insult hurt your feelings. Too bad. It was quite deserved. Your type likes to hide behind giving helpful advice when you are really about put downs. The comment by your date mate who you are defending was mean spirited and totally unnecessary. As far as your view of our politics and who is generous, you're view is totally fucked up. Maybe it helps based on your lot in life to think successful people are lucky or selfish. Stew in your jealously. It just doesn't compute in your little world if someone of different politics happens to offer a kind word to someone. You just can't stand it.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    Let's not be MEAN GIRLS icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidThis is from his profile.

    "I am not out of the "closet," and don't plan to at all.

    Good luck with that . But wait, there's more!

    ". I am masculine, straight-acting, and considered to be a "guys-guy." I am a very sensitive individual who cries sometimes during movies, gets chills when something feels right, and get a stomach ache when I try to challenge my gut sense."

    Okay, so you're tottaly butch but you cry at movies. You're a man's man, a guy's guy, a total stud, but your tummy gets upset if someone challenges you.

    Yeah, you're a prize.

    JP - there are many guys who have mentioned crying at times, and most don't get put down for not being masculine.

    I didn't want to bring up politics, though it was done already. Does being a liberal mean being a bitter bitch? Seems there are many issues you guys have and you're all to ready to put down a new guy who doesn't use the right phrases to satisfy you.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    And people say i crave attention and be up to antics on here? This guy makes me look like Mother Theresa icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    This is possibly a troll thread, but what the hell. If you're looking for nice guys to date, RJ probably isn't the best place to look. This thread definitely isn't the way to go about finding someone, in case that wasn't apparent to you by this point. Your best bet is probably just hang around, participate in whatever threads interest you, and maybe you'll get lucky and meet someone nice. You can also search through the profiles and contact people directly, but RJ hasn't implemented a "nice guy verification system" yet.
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    Nice guys are overrated, I want a bad boy with a rap sheet and tons of tattoos, icon_biggrin.gif .
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
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    DudeInNOVA saidIf you're looking for nice guys to date, RJ probably isn't the best place to look.
    Looks like I did it wrong.


    Yep. You should probably start over.
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
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    DudeInNOVA saidIf you're looking for nice guys to date, RJ probably isn't the best place to look.
    Looks like I did it wrong.
    Yep. You should probably start over.
    But where?


    Craigslist?
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
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    DudeInNOVA saidThis is possibly a troll thread, but what the hell. If you're looking for nice guys to date, RJ probably isn't the best place to look. This thread definitely isn't the way to go about finding someone, in case that wasn't apparent to you by this point. Your best bet is probably just hang around, participate in whatever threads interest you, and maybe you'll get lucky and meet someone nice. You can also search through the profiles and contact people directly, but RJ hasn't implemented a "nice guy verification system" yet.

    Yeah, I mean, look what happens...you try to meet a nice guy. He's cute, he's intelligent, wacky sense of humor, lives in Northern Virginia (a state you love despite its politics) and what does he do?

    He does the Mexican Hat Dance on your heart.
    You can never be too careful. RJ is a rough neighborhood. It's the bad part of town.


    That is so racist!!! lol icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidYeah, I mean, look what happens...you try to meet a nice guy. He's cute, he's intelligent, wacky sense of humor, lives in Northern Virginia (a state you love despite its politics) and what does he do?

    He does the Mexican Hat Dance on your heart.
    You can never be too careful. RJ is a rough neighborhood. It's the bad part of town.


    Who is this man you speak of? I'd like to meet him. He sounds like a dream come true! (Well, except for the part where RJ corrupts him and turns him into a complete pain-in-the-ass.) icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidDon't play coy with me, you monster.


    See, OP, what this site does to people? I used to be such a sweetie, and look at me now! And I've been here less than a year! Run while you can!!!
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    Mar 23, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidNice guys are overrated, I want a bad boy with a rap sheet and tons of tattoos, icon_biggrin.gif .
    I've been both, on and off, throughout my life. I've never really finished first, I'm too honest about myself and fucked up at that. Don't think I'd want to be number one all the time. The self hatred, constant high stress, emotionlessness, and flip floppery of being on top of shit is appealing and entertaining to see and believe in, but not for me. If I'm going to finish in the game; I'm going to finish at any rate, as the real me. Like, Love or Hate me Bitches! icon_idea.gificon_wink.gif
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    Mar 23, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    idol3392 saidAre you out there!?!? Please check out my profile and let me know if you're interested. Thanks guys!


    I think that your original post was about nice guys? Well, to stay on point, yes nice guys we are out here, the unfortunate thing is that we are hated in this world we live in. Or people wish to abuse us or try to take advantage of us, but we still remain nice guys because that's our nature. Apparently you have run in to enough "mean guys" to have learned the value of nice guys. Good for you. Now do not misuse the nice guy if he contacts you okay because he has had more than enough mean people try to misuse him already okay? I like your post though if you are sincere about looking for a nice guy. Oh yeah, remember what most guys don't, nice does not equal weak. This is a common mistake that non smart people make.
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    Mar 23, 2012 12:30 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidI don't care if he cries at the opening of an envelope.
    I have infinite patience with someone who struggles to come out.
    I have no patience for a smug little pussy who wants a relationship but says he will never come out. Sorry, this is 2012. You either have balls or you don't. And calling yourself sooo masculine when you're basically a big coward?

    As I said, quite the prize. And there's nothing bitter about this.
    A real man has courage.

    1) You and others lack empathy. His certainty at staying in the closet offends you. Did you stop and consider his situation and many other guys in similar situations? There are many who had said the same and later either remained bi possibly with relationships on the side, stayed completely straight, or realized they were gay and came out later. Many guys have been in a similar situations, and fortunately most are not called cowards. He's not cheating on anyone at the present time either.

    2) If you lived in his area and were in his age range, and had your hardened attitudes at his age, he would obviously not be your cup of tea. But you and others don't leave it at that. You feel the need to make negative, disparaging comments. He said nothing to offend this community, but guys like you take offense at people having attitudes different than yours. Unfortunate.

    3) While there are exceptions, I think many of your political ilk, including others who commented here, use your politics to demonstrate you care about others, when, in fact, you lack empathy and really don't give a shit. People are just pawns to be manipulated. The sample size in this thread is small, but it does show a correlation between political orientation and empathy and decency.
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    Mar 23, 2012 12:36 PM GMT
    Sorry OP.

    We are out there, but we are too busy finishing last to keep up...


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    Mar 23, 2012 12:41 PM GMT
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    JPtheBITCH saidI don't care if he cries at the opening of an envelope.
    I have infinite patience with someone who struggles to come out.
    I have no patience for a smug little pussy who wants a relationship but says he will never come out. Sorry, this is 2012. You either have balls or you don't. And calling yourself sooo masculine when you're basically a big coward?

    As I said, quite the prize. And there's nothing bitter about this.
    A real man has courage.

    1) You and others lack empathy. His certainty at staying in the closet offends you. Did you stop and consider his situation and many other guys in similar situations? There are many who had said the same and later either remained bi possibly with relationships on the side, stayed completely straight, or realized they were gay and came out later. Many guys have been in a similar situations, and fortunately most are not called cowards. He's not cheating on anyone at the present time either.

    2) If you lived in his area and were in his age range, and had your hardened attitudes at his age, he would obviously not be your cup of tea. But you and others don't leave it at that. You feel the need to make negative, disparaging comments. He said nothing to offend this community, but guys like you take offense at people having attitudes different than yours. Unfortunate.

    3) While there are exceptions, I think many of your political ilk, including others who commented here, use your politics to demonstrate you care about others, when, in fact, you lack empathy and really don't give a shit. People are just pawns to be manipulated. The sample size in this thread is small, but it does show a correlation between political orientation and empathy and decency.


    I would agree with John on this point (well except for his 3rd point...lol). I'm just glad that I uncovered a "nice guy" in 1998 and developed first a friendship, then a relationship. I was not only "not out", I hadn't fully accepted the fact I'm gay at that point in time.
    His love and support has meant so very much as I moved along with self acceptance. I think, regardless of his "closeted nature", he ought to have a good guy, a supportive guy, in his life. We all need that.