Serious help needed

  • Scooter66

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    Mar 22, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    I am in a relationship with a man (5 months now) I am totally in love with. After 40 years of hiding (marriage and kids!), I finally let go and I have never been so happy. I'm starting to wonder though if he is as in to me as I am in to him. He doesn't like to be held on to in public (in both straight and gay venues) and is averse to overt displays of affection anywhere except home (we now live together).
    He is not very in to sex (about once a week) and even said he understood sex was "necessary" for a healthy relationship. I said it was fun and I enjoyed it with him and wanted to do it more (he's a strict bottom and says he doesn't really enjoy oral sex). His response was to tell me that once a week was enough because it takes that long to be ready (comfortable enough physically) to do anal again. I would like to do other things but he just shrugs it off.
    He left his email open the other day and I noticed that before he met me he had posted pics of himself in very sexual positions (butt up and spread, penis etc) and I remember that he had enough rubbers in everything to have sex for the next couple of years, so he was always ready?? it just doesn't make sense that he would be so sexual 8 months ago and now not so much.
    When we first met, sex (anal and oral was pretty much a daily occurrence. Since then, we have moved in and it seems like we are turing into that old married couple way too soon. On a side note, he lost his job and I am helping him out with his bills while he is looking for work. I hope to god he's not just hanging around to use me while I'm willing.
    I understand there s way more to any relationship, but I'm worried and I don't want to screw this up by reading to much into it. Any advice would be appreciated, both negative and positive.
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    Mar 22, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    Is there anyway this is not a troll? I mean, first post and it has all the most amazing drama. 40 years in the closet and you jump right out, fall in love, 5 months and this amazing man is living with you, but the sex sucks, he loses his job and strict bottom who doesn't enjoy oral sex. Do I have that right?

    Sounds to me like you don't know what you want, because on one hand you sound miserable, no fulfilling sex life, a lover who has advertised his need for sex but does not seem interested in you, and now lives and relies on you for his home. This you actually describe as "never been so happy." These are actually all the reasons I used when I broke up with a lover about a decade ago.

    What I really wonder is what do trolls get out of posts like this. You can't be serious, because if you read your own words you could not post them without contempt.

    If you are real, I'd break it off now, you invested 5 months in a guy who is not sexually compatible, is too insecure to be affectionate in public and (if real) is probably just using you for a place to live.
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:35 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidIs there anyway this is not a troll?


    No.

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    Mar 23, 2012 7:37 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:39 AM GMT
    Cash said
    smartmoney saidIs there anyway this is not a troll?


    No.

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    Mar 23, 2012 7:41 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:43 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:43 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
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