Terrible 1st experience with new person

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    Mar 23, 2012 9:06 AM GMT
    I new friend of mine asked me to come out with his partner and another friend for kind of a setup. There was initial chemistry and we had a good time. We started texting and ended up having dinner and seeing a movie. It was cool. He came up to my apartment, but we just talked. Didn't even make out. This exact thing happened two more nights, over the next week or so. Great conversation, and the first connection I've had since moving here. He texted me later saying that he wished he'd made a move. I was thrilled, because I was pretty much hard the whole night. I said I wished he would've too. We made plans for a fourth date, and in a corny way, agreed to do more. This fourth date was two nights ago. We had some beers near my place, and came back. It seemed to start going in the platonic direction again, and finally, I just started to rub his feet through his socks. Then I got a bit closer and started to kiss his neck. He turned his face and we ended up kissing. It started to heat up and we were both hard. I pulled off my pants and he was jerking me. Then he went down on me for a while. I was standing and he came back up to kiss again. Then he pulled down his pants. He was uncut. I had been with an uncut guy once, and it was normal. He asked if I wanted to suck him and I said yeah. I was a bit buzzed and it was in my mouth for a couple seconds when I noticed it was really rank. I tried to sort of endure, but I couldn't take it. I pulled away and looked up. He smiled and pulled me towards his dick. It got near my nose and I started to dry heave. Then the beer came up and I threw up all over my floor. The most awkward moment of my life. He started to laugh. The laugh didn't immediately register, and I still can't explain the laugh, even though it makes me angry to think of. What's funny about smelling so bad that it makes someone sick? I didn't know what to say, so I just said I wasn't feeling well, and asked if he'd leave. He said sure, asked if he could do anything, and eventually left. Remarkably, he's texted me three times, sort of nonchalantly, but I haven't responded yet. Now, my new friend texted, asking if everything's okay, and I haven't answered it either. Asking if I'm okay implies that my new friend has an idea that something went wrong. What's worse is that these people both workout at my gym. Does anyone have advice? Should I lie, or tell this person that he smells too bad for even trying a repeat?
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    Mar 23, 2012 11:35 AM GMT
    In my single days when I encountered a dirty uncut I couldn't go on, either. So I simply said, while still fondling him, "Do you mind if I freshen you up a bit?" Note I said "freshen" and not "clean" which I think is less potentially insulting. No guy ever refused me or got mad, and in a flash I had a wet wash cloth. (When I was seeing the same uncut guy again I'd try to have a wash cloth already standing by, or coax him into the shower with me)

    Of course you've gotta be super gentle, especially since an uncut head is very sensitive (one reason I like them). But if you do it in a sensual way, and incorporate it into the sex play, with lots of compliments about how lovely his dick looks, and in my case how much I adore uncuts, he's more likely to accept it as flattering and pleasurable attention, rather than you being his mother scrubbing him behind his dirty ears.

    And if he objects then he's a pig, and he can keep his smegma to himself. icon_razz.gif

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    Mar 23, 2012 12:54 PM GMT
    LOL. Text him back though....maybe he was just having a bad day down there. Or do it in the shower? haha
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:08 PM GMT
    I feel like there should be a button for "ignore his posts"... but the button ignores everyone with 1 post and no pic.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:12 PM GMT
    Behold the power of cheese!
  • Hokenshi

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    Mar 23, 2012 1:15 PM GMT
    Larkin saidI feel like there should be a button for "ignore his posts"... but the button ignores everyone with 1 post and no pic.


    My feelings exactly.
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 23, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    I'm uncut, so I know that it isn't always possible to be "shower fresh" every minute of the day.
    I've also encountered cut guys that needed some "freshing up" before I'd go down on them.
    So, just tell the guy that he needs to clean up, or freshen up, down there before you can continue - just be honest and cool, don't be crude, and I'm sure most guys won't have a problem with taking care of things. If a guy is hard and horny - and into you - then he won't mind a quick once over to clean up so the fun can continue.
    I would not be offended if a guy asked me nicely to freshen up, if he makes some nasty statement about it though, I'd be a bit offended - so it's all in the manner you address the situation.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    Am uncut and I make sure that am clean if there is even a chance of something happening. But then again I have met guys with cut penis and bad hygiene.
    If you like the guy and think there is a chance of something more, then talk to him in a sensitive matter. Tell him you like to freshen up before any sexual activity.
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    Mar 23, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    JinRDU saidBehold the power of cheese!


    LOL

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    Mar 23, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    eww I gaged
  • CalmSpirit

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    Mar 23, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    I just threw up in my mouth a little. Who knowingly goes on a date smelling like that? Uggh
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:56 PM GMT
    Larkin saidI feel like there should be a button for "ignore his posts"... but the button ignores everyone with 1 post and no pic.


    Thank you, good point, and hang in there. Such cleverness will no doubt lead to a terminal degree in your future, eventually.
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    Mar 23, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    CalmSpirit saidI just threw up in my mouth a little. Who knowingly goes on a date smelling like that? Uggh


    This is my point exactly.
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    Larkin saidI feel like there should be a button for "ignore his posts"... but the button ignores everyone with 1 post and no pic.


    +1
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:10 PM GMT
    So I have hooked up with only 2 uncut guys and only went down on one. I am cut but I'm kind of fascinated by uncut guys because it seems so different. Neither of the guys had a smell, probably because they had showered. What does an unclean dick smell like?. Is it the same smell as a dirty crotch (onion and feta)? Or is it like toe crud? Or fishy?

    Here in Austin, there are a lot of guys who are into the musty armpit/onion ripe smell and I've sent a couple guys home. Straight guys aren't like that when they're going to hookup. Not sure why hygiene is considered an option versus the standard.
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    Yet another perfect example of no communication.

    The guy obviously likes you so that means something. he's continuing to call and check on you but you're not responding to him. he doesn't know that there's a problem so if you continue to ignore his texts, then how does he know what the problem is? it's only fair that you tell him what's going on and just be honest.

    From what I read you two had a few nice dates and that's got to count for something, so the guy deserves at least another chance. Perhaps that was just his bad day. I'd take the advice of the guy who mentioned "freshening up".

    I don't know about you, but finding a guy that's into you as much as you're in him is a very hard thing to find and for something to be completely dismissed over something as little as this, on only one occasion is silly.

    Good luck to ya
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    I told him the truth today. He was apologetic, and so was I. He said the laugh was due to nervousness.
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    Thats why Uncut is disgusting Lol he SHOULD BE ASHAMED, that roll sees no air,water, or scent, just dirt and mildew.... fucking gross dude, i started laughing so hard when u threw up the beer LOL thats too good.. bro tell him his shit stinks, and its his fault. Tough love is the best way
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:28 PM GMT
    workoutco saidI told him the truth today. He was apologetic, and so was I. He said the laugh was due to nervousness.


    I'm glad you're more than 1 post now...

    You did the right thing and it will benefit both of you. He probably had no idea how bad the smell is since he probably can't smell his own crotch. And, frankly, I think alot of guys think their crotch/dick don't stink because no one is willing to tell them. In a way, I feel bad for the guy because who knows how many times he's grossed a guy out without knowing.
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    LoL don't be embarassed. If anything you can use the fault of the booze making you sick and getting you out of the moment. Once when a guy was helping me get off I finally came and at the same time let out a huuuuge fart. Now THAT was embarassing! I just layed there laughing and he insisted it was fine and laughed too. Oh well!
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    AirLandia saidOnce when a guy was helping me get off I finally came and at the same time let out a huuuuge fart. Now THAT was embarassing! I just layed there laughing and he insisted it was fine and laughed too. Oh well!

    Post-fuck farts can be funny, too. When a top pulls all the way out, then plunges right back in with the A-hole still gaping, I believe that's when air can get pumped in. Whatever the cause, all you can do is laugh.
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    Mar 23, 2012 8:45 PM GMT
    B777232ER saidYet another perfect example of no communication.

    The guy obviously likes you so that means something. he's continuing to call and check on you but you're not responding to him. he doesn't know that there's a problem so if you continue to ignore his texts, then how does he know what the problem is? it's only fair that you tell him what's going on and just be honest.

    From what I read you two had a few nice dates and that's got to count for something, so the guy deserves at least another chance. Perhaps that was just his bad day. I'd take the advice of the guy who mentioned "freshening up".

    I don't know about you, but finding a guy that's into you as much as you're in him is a very hard thing to find and for something to be completely dismissed over something as little as this, on only one occasion is silly.

    Good luck to ya


    I disagree with the "freshening up" advice. If someone has to constantly shower to be approachable, it's not going to work for long. He's better off finding someone who's okay with bad odor, and I'd rather be single than pretend to not be repulsed.
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    Mar 23, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    Larkin saidI feel like there should be a button for "ignore his posts"... but the button ignores everyone with 1 post and no pic.


    Oh my god I need this button now.
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    Mar 23, 2012 9:04 PM GMT
    AirLandia saidLoL don't be embarassed. If anything you can use the fault of the booze making you sick and getting you out of the moment. Once when a guy was helping me get off I finally came and at the same time let out a huuuuge fart. Now THAT was embarassing! I just layed there laughing and he insisted it was fine and laughed too. Oh well!


    I would laugh my ass off if someone farted (even if I was sucking them), tell them it was okay, open a window, and forget about it in a couple of minutes. But, I would be really embarrassed, too, if I were the one who farted. Definitely not grounds for dismissal in my book.
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    Mar 24, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Interesting post. My ex was uncut. Since he was my first, I didn't know what sucking an uncut guy was like until after we broke up. His cock had a faint odor, not anything rank, but just not pleasant to me. I thought that's what all guys smelled like but then I realized it wasn't. He was a very clean, well-manicured guy, so it wasn't a hygiene issue. Interesting though because perhaps it was because he was uncut.