Monogamy or Polygamy

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    Mar 23, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    which one feels right to you, polygamy or monogamy?

    I was inspired to post this question by a comment from a guy here that claimed monogamy is overrated and polygamy has been the "norm" through the history. I don't agree with him and I believe polygamy is promoted by the porn industry not by man's natural desire.

    what do you think?
  • Timbales

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    Mar 24, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    I think one should do should feels right for them.
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    Mar 24, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    I'll pick honesty every time. If that means not so monogamous, so be it, better to be living in reality.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    Timbales saidI think one should do should feels right for them.


    of course, and what does feel right for you?
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Mar 24, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    my good friends in palm springs are in a poly-relationship

    3 of them and they are monogamous

    another group is four of them, they all contribute and live in a mansion
    no kidding

    I have seen first hand that poly could be good providing NO ONE sleeps out of the group

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    Mar 24, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
    madfacts saidI'll pick honesty every time. If that means not so monogamous, so be it, better to be living in reality.




    I pick honesty and monogamy, and that is absolutely right and real to me.

    Yet you didn't answer the question. I wanna do some counting here just to compare the trends.

    I hope polygamist guys are not shy about openly supporting what they think is right, because if they are, that implies they think it's not right.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    Blackbeltguy saidmy good friends in palm springs are in a poly-relationship

    3 of them and they are monogamous

    another group is four of them, they all contribute and live in a mansion
    no kidding

    I have seen first hand that poly could be good providing NO ONE sleeps out of the group



    This is interesting. But I wonder if that works in long term as well.

    So in sum you prefer to be in a polygamist relationship, right?
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    Monogomy.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    There is a big difference between polygamy...and not being monogamous.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    fagneticspermeability said
    7Famark saidThere is a big difference between polygamy...and not being monogamous.


    Really, dear? Please explain and you didn't answer the question as to what works for you. icon_biggrin.gif


    Correct me if I am wrong, dear...but polygamy is a relationship consisting of more than two people...like a three/four-way relationship where all people are emotionally invested...


    That isn't necessarily what someone that isnt interested in monogamy is interested in.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Mar 24, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    morningsmile said
    Blackbeltguy saidmy good friends in palm springs are in a poly-relationship

    3 of them and they are monogamous

    another group is four of them, they all contribute and live in a mansion
    no kidding

    I have seen first hand that poly could be good providing NO ONE sleeps out of the group



    This is interesting. But I wonder if that works in long term as well.

    So in sum you prefer to be in a polygamist relationship, right?


    one is an 8 year (4 of them)

    the other is going on 3 years (thats 3 guys all school teachers too lol)

    As for me, no.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]7Famark said

    Correct me if I am wrong, dear...but polygamy is a relationship consisting of more than two people...like a three/four-way relationship where all people are emotionally invested...


    That isn't necessarily what someone that isnt interested in monogamy is interested in.[/quote]

    What is the word for this kind of relationship if it's not polygamy? (seriously asking)
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    morningsmile said[quote][cite]7Famark said

    Correct me if I am wrong, dear...but polygamy is a relationship consisting of more than two people...like a three/four-way relationship where all people are emotionally invested...


    That isn't necessarily what someone that isnt interested in monogamy is interested in.


    What is the word for this kind of relationship if it's not polygamy? (seriously asking)[/quote]

    There are people that are simply not monogamous that don't desire relationships at all...or do, but cheat on the person that they are with

    To me, polygamy IS a relationship, it just isn't with two people.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    Hmmmm, I have always been posed the question as monogamy vs an open relationship where a couple shares the sexual part of the relationship with a third party, but the emotion is supposed to be with the couple. That I do not support although I support a person's right to chose that if it makes them happy.

    If I could imagine a trio of men that are all emotionally invested, live together, support each other and are only sexually involved with each other then I can view that as just as sacred as monogamy.

    I, however, do not have that fantasy so I prefer monogamy.

  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 24, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    think it depends on the individual. i personally do not sharing the person i am with so i would say monogamy for me
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    7Famark said
    morningsmile said[quote][cite]7Famark said

    Correct me if I am wrong, dear...but polygamy is a relationship consisting of more than two people...like a three/four-way relationship where all people are emotionally invested...


    That isn't necessarily what someone that isnt interested in monogamy is interested in.


    What is the word for this kind of relationship if it's not polygamy? (seriously asking)


    There are people that are simply not monogamous that don't desire relationships at all...or do, but cheat on the person that they are with

    To me, polygamy IS a relationship, it just isn't with two people.[/quote]

    I think it's simple, if you are with only one guy you are in a monogamy. And if you are (i.e. have sex) with more than one guy, you are in a polygamy. Doesn't matter if you cheat or you are open about it to your partner or if some of them are short term and one is long term etc.

    So with the simple definition, are you a polygamist?
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    Polygamy means a relationship of more than two people (the new term, polyamory, is a little more accurate since polygamy specifically means more than one woman). As several people have described, this implies that all sex stays within the group.

    I think the contrast that is being reached for here is the difference between a committed and exclusive relationship between a group of 3/4 people, and casual encounters with multiple different people with no commitment, aka promiscuity.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    Polygamy is defined as an emotional and sexual relationship with more than one person at the same time..

    Someone in a relationship, that cheats on their partner...is not a polygamist.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Mar 24, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    7Famark saidThere is a big difference between polygamy...and not being monogamous.

    +1

    I believe the poster meant Monogamy or Open Relationship. However at one poster has brought up the true issue of Polygamy.

    I prefer monogamy.
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    7Famark saidPolygamy is defined as an emotional and sexual relationship with more than one person at the same time..

    Someone in a relationship, that cheats on their partner...is not a polygamist.


    So what is right for you? monogamy, monogamy with cheating, or polygamy?
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    Mar 24, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    morningsmile said
    7Famark saidPolygamy is defined as an emotional and sexual relationship with more than one person at the same time..

    Someone in a relationship, that cheats on their partner...is not a polygamist.


    So what is right for you? monogamy, monogamy with cheating, or polygamy?


    I'm a monogamist 100%...

    Which is unfortunate, because, at me age...most guys are not haha
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    Mar 24, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    Monogamy works best for me. (Haven't I answered this question before?)
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    Mar 24, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    7Famark said
    morningsmile said
    7Famark saidPolygamy is defined as an emotional and sexual relationship with more than one person at the same time..

    Someone in a relationship, that cheats on their partner...is not a polygamist.


    So what is right for you? monogamy, monogamy with cheating, or polygamy?


    I'm a monogamist 100%...

    Which is unfortunate, because, at me age...most guys are not haha


    Same here. I have been celibate for 2 years because of this.I cannot get a guy in my age range to commit, but I am only attracted to guys in my age range so I stay single.
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    Mar 24, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidMonogamy works best for me. (Haven't I answered this question before?)


    It is asked every 3 weeks or so.
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    Mar 24, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    what is polygamy?