braddomo saidIf you are single or in an open relationship where do you guys find dates? I find the same 100 guys on all of gay sites or dating services. Wondering if most people are on phone apps now.
I can't answer about using phone apps, those things didn't become really widespread until after I met my current partner, with whom I'm monogamous. I did download Grindr out of curiosity and in case some friend wanted to use it (now deleted) and concluded it would not be how I'd ever have met guys.
I used to take a broad-spectrum approach, using all resources, live & online, not relying on just one. So I went to gay bars & clubs, joined a GLBT church, a local Equality chapter, an online regional gay social group, even joined a gay naturist (nudist) organization, spent time in live chat rooms like the old AOL ones for gays, networked within the local gay community, co-founded a GLBT Business Club, did crew on drag shows, attended gay political meetings & rallies, etc, etc. And almost every one of those avenues produced results, that included 2 partners (1 died), 2 LTRs, assorted BFs, and all the FBs, dates & tricks I could handle.
Of course I was retired by then and could devote my time to discretionary activities, which greatly increased my effectiveness at meeting men. But it also helped that I didn't put both my eggs in one basket, like online alone, but tried to cover as many bases as I could (forgive the mixed metaphors). I would recommend that approach to the OP.