After-sex behavior

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    Mar 26, 2012 2:25 AM GMT
    Do any of you guys have a boyfriend like mine who, once he's ejaculated, is headed to clean up while you're still practically cumming yourself? Okay that may be an exaggeration. Usually my guy will at least wait until I cum but I'm trying to make a point. My bf is very passionate during sex. Foreplay is wonderful too. But once he has his orgasm, he's done. It's like the whole sex mindset is turned off from his brain. I, on the other hand, after cleaning up, could still cuddle, savoring the good feeling that ensues after sex. Maybe I'm being too hard on him. But I'm just curious to see if any other guys have had the same experience with a former or current partner. It doesn't necessarily make me mad or upset. It's just abrupt, that's all. It's like one minute you're hot and heavy in lovemaking and then the next minute he's already getting his clothes back on and seeing what's on TV!
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    Mar 26, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    Selfish behavior. Time for a conversation.
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    Mar 26, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    My previous long term partner of 6 years is a bit like your boyfriend. Once he came, he'd go clean up, but would come back to help me finish. After that, there's no cuddling... he would put clothes back on and see what's on TV and have a cigarette lol. It pissed me off at the beginning, but after some years I just grew indifferent which led to more problems down the road.
  • Koaa2

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    Mar 26, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    I have a FB, who I like, who is like that, strangest thing, nice guy, but does not make for a total happy ending. I try to make him last as long as possible, because I know when he is done, we are done.
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    Mar 26, 2012 10:48 PM GMT
    I think it's strange if he does that everytime. I could see once in a while. Maybe next time keep a towel by the bed he can use to clean up while still lying with you. Also, tell him you don't like it how he runs off- it ruins the intimacy, etc. Talk about your needs, but compromise.
  • Nizzo

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    Mar 26, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
    I have the opposite problem. I can't get them to leave. Lol
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    Mar 27, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    me11 saidDo any of you guys have a boyfriend like mine who, once he's ejaculated, is headed to clean up while you're still practically cumming yourself? Okay that may be an exaggeration. Usually my guy will at least wait until I cum but I'm trying to make a point. My bf is very passionate during sex. Foreplay is wonderful too. But once he has his orgasm, he's done. It's like the whole sex mindset is turned off from his brain. I, on the other hand, after cleaning up, could still cuddle, savoring the good feeling that ensues after sex. Maybe I'm being too hard on him. But I'm just curious to see if any other guys have had the same experience with a former or current partner. It doesn't necessarily make me mad or upset. It's just abrupt, that's all. It's like one minute you're hot and heavy in lovemaking and then the next minute he's already getting his clothes back on and seeing what's on TV!

    Have you talked to him about it? Did you tell him, you'd like to cuddle a little after sex?
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    Mar 27, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidSelfish behavior. Time for a conversation.
    +1
  • zookpr

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    Mar 30, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Have a conversation and establish some guidelines so both of you are happy when it's over. It can't always be only about him.

    As someone suggested, a towel conveniently located is also a good solution.

    Another alternative is you get off first and then take care if him,,,,,,,,taking your time and enjoying the moments while still on your sexual high.

    If none of it works, tell him to have his cake and eat it somewhere else!

  • Apr 16, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    no, but clean ups can be awkward. if the guy only wanted a no frills hook up, and especially if its his place, he may want u out rite away so he can go to sleep or go back to the club or whatever. at first, stuff like that was offensive to me, but then i realized, if you meet a guy at a bar or a dance club, he's not likely to be prince charming, so if he hurries when the sex is over, dont take it personally.
  • RyanChase

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    Apr 27, 2012 8:41 AM GMT
    Hot_in_the_Kitchen saidno, but clean ups can be awkward. if the guy only wanted a no frills hook up, and especially if its his place, he may want u out rite away so he can go to sleep or go back to the club or whatever. at first, stuff like that was offensive to me, but then i realized, if you meet a guy at a bar or a dance club, he's not likely to be prince charming, so if he hurries when the sex is over, dont take it personally.


    sounds like I need to invite you over. ;)
    dudes that cum over, think they can spend the night. and while sometimes that's cool, if you can't satisfy me the way I like.. gtfo!