Will living ALONE make you DEPRESSED?

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    Mar 26, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    What do you think?

    http://www.cnn.com/2012/03/23/health/living-alone-depression/index.html?hpt=hp_bn10

    Love the guy in the article. He looks gay. ;)

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    Mar 26, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Living alone makes me happier than I ever was while living with someone else.
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    Mar 26, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidAs much as people will want to not believe it, being with someone you truly love will always make you happier than being alone.

    Seems obvious, it's living with someone you have compromised with, who you're not quite sure about, who sometimes you just are not that into? It's those times that having your own place is the best part about living alone.
    Perfect world, coming home to perfect partner, even then, we still keep separate residences, everyone needs space.
  • BDRoland

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    Mar 26, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    I don't need anybody but myself.
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    Mar 26, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    It depends on who you were living with before icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Pontifex

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    Mar 27, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    I live alone and I have to admit that it can get lonely. But it is nowhere near as bad as being lonely right beside the wrong guy.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    When I was homeless last year I was happier than I had even been in my entire life. No more dealing with a bi-polar mom or other people who weighed me down...

    And now I'm back in the same shitty situation... *sigh*
  • HPgeek934

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    Mar 27, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    on my own for three years and the loneliness gets worse as each day passes...
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    who wants to live with me? icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    Oh for god's sake. That's ridiculous. Old people get depressed because they're close to death and they know it!

    If you're 30something and get sad about living alone, you just don't have enough to do to occupy yourself. Get a hobby!
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:20 AM GMT
    Some days yes, some days no.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    Living alone ... as a risk factor for depression, it will depend on how full your life is otherwise. People that don't interact in their neighbourhood, don't make sure that they have enduring and meaningful friendships, or don't have a romantic interest in their life (whom they very well may not live with), are obviously at higher risk for depression. Living alone != being alone.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    I've lived alone for more than 12 years. I've never had a roommate or lived with anyone other than my family. I don't think I'm abnormally depressed. I think I'd be happier living with someone I loved, but that's not something that I can force to happen.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    Nope. Living alone doesn't make you depressed. Being lazy, having self pity, not having that drive to do something fun and exciting, living a very mundane life and tending to be someone with no desire to further themselves then, yes, you will probably become depressed. Most depression is self inflicted.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    I have accepted my situation, I have women, 3 proposing to me this year to get married, yet I refused them all, guys only hurt my feelings, best alone than in bad company.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    no! living alone makes me happy! especially since my family is only a phone call away!
  • rebelbeard

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    Mar 27, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    Only when I drink and get a little tipsy. Then all my demons come out. Thus why I no longer drink alone.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    I live alone, but have friends over quite often.

    I have a boyfriend who stays on weekends. I also invite friends from out of town for a weekend. I love all the company. I love preparing my home for when my guests arrive. I love to entertain and fix wonderful dinners and plan social activities too. But when everybody clears out, I love the solitude.

    For me, being home alone all the time would be a downer.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    HighOctane saidOnly when I drink and get a little tipsy. Then all my demons come out. Thus why I no longer drink alone.


    I drank alone a single time.

    Never.

    Again.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    Depends... do you need someone else to make miserable to be happy? If so, you may not ever want to be alone; or with anyone with any real self esteem... I would recommend thinking more positively in either case.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    Living alone is rough and I know I've been depressed. But I'm to the point where I just can't have roommates anymore!
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    It did me! When I was living alone, I always got depressed.. Never ever doing it again!!!
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
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    RunintheCity saidOh for god's sake. That's ridiculous. Old people get depressed because they're close to death and they know it!

    Um, wow.


    You disagree?

    My old upstairs neighbor, a fantastically vibrant gay man in his 70s until a series of strokes robbed him of his vigor, lived alone and enjoyed it. He'd lived a pretty wild life in his youth 18-40, then settled into a couple of long term relationships. Once his last lover passed, he sold his house, moved into his apartment, but led a full life he enjoyed. A life full of friends, travel, dinners, social outings, etc, although by the time I was his neighbor he'd scaled back his socializing, largely because he was still working and preferred to just go to dinner and come home thereafter.

    He only admitted to any sort of apprehension/depression/sadness when he would have occasion to contemplate his advancing age. After the first stroke, which resulted in minor physical setbacks, he maintained most of his spirit and regained a lot of his physical well-being. Subsequent strokes have worsened his overall health, but he still has his spunk.

    I didn't say the initial comment in a dismissive manner. It's just the truth. Once we hit a certain age and are constantly cognizant of our looming demise, if we focus on it of course we are going to get depressed. But my old neighbor is an example of how, even when your circumstances are tough, you don't have to give in to that.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    I've always lived with other people before, either with family or with friends. I hated it! No privacy, no peace and quiet, and having to put up with everyone's messes and idiosyncracies...
    The one time i lived alone(when i could afford it), it was GLORIOUS!!!!icon_biggrin.gif
    Yes, i would want to live alone again.