Me and my situation.

  • Coorporation

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    Mar 26, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    So I think I might be going into an eating disorder. I have friends, which are all skinny and anemic. Every time I look at them and their shape, it makes me want to be skinny like them. I constantly think of losing weight and even exercise five times a week, this consists of running for 30 minutes then a routine of weight, including ab workout. But I find myself searching through diets and even searching through anorexic diet. I really want to lose weight. I am 196 and am 5'9 and a year back I was told I was obese and that I may develop diabetes in my 20s if I keep on eating how I'm eating. Since then I've wanted to lose weight so badly and feel so disgusted with myself after eating. I just want to go in the toilet and vomit, but I have never done this before. Every time I eat I feel so guilty with myself and hate myself for it and just think to myself that the only way to get rid of the guilt is to purge my food, but I never get myself to do it. I get scared. The body I really want is small waist, big thighs, big butt and be skinny. My goal is to weight 120 or at least 130. I don't know if that's too low but I want to be skinny. I look at women's body and it makes me feel guilty and makes me feel disgusted at myself because I'm so fat. When I'm around my friends I also feel fat, considering I'm the only fat person in the group. And also when I look at hot guys pass by I think to myself "If he was gay and I was skinny I can get someone like that" and it makes me feel so bad. So today as I stumbled through this website I saw so much fit people, so I'm just looking for answers, how can I truly lose weight without starving and every time I eat not feeling guilty? Help!
  • mikey_101

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    Mar 27, 2012 12:49 PM GMT
    Its pretty straight forward - to loose weight you eat less callories than you burn per day.

    Whats your diet like?

    Stop eating any processed food.

    Stop eating grains..... and sugars... particulaly processed ones.

    Thats no white bread, white flour, white pasta, white rice, white sugar or aspartame/scuralose/poison.

    Make your own food from scratch with healthy ingredients. Making food yourself will make you feel good about food. If you have a healthy approach and attitude to food, you will start to loose weight with increased excercise.

    Once you start to loose a little and are feeling +ve about food, you will create a +ve feeback loop of feeling good about yourself, feeling good about the healthy food your making and eating, feeling great about the excercise you can achieve and great about your healthy weight loss.

    Try looking into Intermittent Fasting - no food from evening meal untill midday.... but still having 3 healthy meals during the day.

    At th3e moment you feel bad about food, bad about your weight and bad about exercese... change how you view and aproach these one at a time - the rest will fall into place.

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    Mar 30, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    Coorporation said So I think I might be going into an eating disorder.

    I'm not qualified to render an opinion as to whether you're actually developing an eating disorder but I think the fact that you're recognizing and willing to address the possibility is commendable!

    Losing weight without starving yourself just by eating lots of healthy food and cutting out the junk is recommended - lots of info on this site and elsewhere about this. Of course exercise also plays a key factor, but beware "exercise bulemia," yet another disorder. Again, I'm no expert and am merely playing armchair psychologist here but consider whether you have any obsessive compulsive (or control) tendencies which might feed into a possible eating and/or exercise disorder.
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    Mar 30, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    Don't focus on being 120. Focus on small changes you can make daily. Like the other poster said. Take control of your diet and make it something you can feel good about after you've eaten. If you eat whole grains, lean protein, vegetables, low sodium, healthy fats, and a reasonable number of calories, you will find you will start to feel much better. The biggest mistake you could make is to purge or starve yourself. You will lose weight fast but you will destroy your metabolism and invite a host of terrible health problems.

    Those guys you admire, I believe for the most part, are in the shape tey are because they care about their health, life, and it's value. You don't get someone like that by being skinny. You get that by loving yourself enough to take care of yourself. It's a state of mind that is very obvious in people in my opinion. Work on that first and the rest will follow.
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    Mar 30, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    I don't think you are developing eating disorder, I think you have a lot of insecurities associated with your weight and I bet there are other influences at play that may affect how you feel. It can be your friends making nasty comments or mass-media dictating how one should be.

    While I am no expert and not exactly that super-hot skinny stud, I would focus on what you eat. Are you having a steak? Well add a salad to it instead of mashed potatoes. Are you craving something sweet? Ditch the candy bar and grab some fruit instead. They are just as sweet and come in variety of flavors.

    As far as exercise goes, focus on staying in shape rather than pushing yourself to the limit, unless that's what you want. Being too skinny is not any more healthy than being overweight
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    Mar 30, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    Feeling guilty after eating shitty food is different than feeling guilty after eating (the latter of which could qualify you for a disorder). I say that because I was 5'10 230 and I felt guilty too because I was eating shitty 40% of the time. I was prediabetic and prehypertensive, which as a black male, you have to watch out for. I got down to 185. That was 4 years ago and I haven't been over 190 since.

    If your goal is really 130, the guilt can be REALLY motivating if you realize that there are options and you have a choice in reaching your goal.