How to perform safe sex?

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    Mar 26, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    Well, i have to be honest that one of the reason why i joined this site is because i want SEX. its very pleasurable, i cant hide my erection. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif but i admit i have the full responsibility to do it SAFE and never get infected with HIV.

    The following are tips for HIV & GAY MAN SAFE SEX that i found online, but if you have your own safer sex techniques please post it here. Thanks. Spread LOVE, not the VIRUS.

    HIV AND GAY MAN SAFE SEX

    Summary

    Gay HIV positive men with HIV negative partners can still enjoy physically intimate relationships if they follow safe sex practices. Unsafe sexual activities include unprotected anal sex and any sexual activity that draws blood. Safe sexual activities include kissing, cuddling, massage, masturbation and protected anal intercourse using condoms.

    In Australia, the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) is most commonly spread through unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with an infected person. Gay HIV positive men with HIV negative partners can still enjoy physically intimate relationships if they follow safe sex practices.

    It is important to remember that the virus is transmitted by bodily fluids – for men this includes, blood, ejaculate and pre-ejaculate – entering the bloodstream. Remember that the risk goes both ways. For example, it is commonly believed that only the partner who is penetrated (the ‘bottom’) is at risk, but HIV can be transmitted to the partner who penetrates (the ‘top’) via small cuts and abrasions on his penis or via the urethra (the tube that carries urine out from the bladder through the penis.

    Unsafe sexual activities

    Unsafe sexual activities include:

    Unprotected anal sex, since the virus can enter the bloodstream through mucus membranes or small cuts or abrasions
    Withdrawing before ejaculation, since pre-ejaculate fluid can contain the virus
    Using pre-ejaculate as a lubricant prior to anal intercourse
    Sucking ejaculate from the anus (felching)
    Activities involving razors or shaving, as blood can be drawn from small nicks and cuts
    Any sexual activity that draws blood.

    Safe sexual activities

    Sexual activities that are considered safe include:

    Kissing
    Cuddling
    Stroking and massage
    Masturbation
    Mutual masturbation
    Ejaculating on unbroken skin
    Urinating on unbroken skin
    Oral sex (with a condom or no ejaculate in the mouth)
    Protected anal intercourse (using condoms).

    Safer sex suggestions

    Some suggestions for safer sex, including when to avoid some practices:

    Anal sex – use condoms and plenty of water-based lubricant.
    Oral sex – there are a small number of recorded cases of people getting HIV from performing oral sex and taking ejaculate into their mouth. In almost all of these cases, the person had herpes sores, wounds, cuts or infections in their mouth. It isn’t easy for HIV to enter the bloodstream through the mouth or throat when sucking. However, to be sure of being safe, the HIV-positive partner shouldn’t ejaculate into their partner’s mouth. To further reduce the risk, a condom can be worn. The HIV-negative partner should avoid performing oral sex if they have cuts or sores in their mouth, a throat infection, have recently undergone dental work or have just brushed or flossed their teeth.
    Penetration of the anus with finger or fist – avoid if there are cuts or abrasions on the fingers, hand or arm. To be absolutely sure, wear a latex glove.
    Licking and kissing the anus (oral–anal contact or ‘rimming’) – HIV can’t be transmitted via oral–anal contact, but other diseases can. These include hepatitis A and intestinal parasites and bacteria (for example, shigella). Use a barrier such as a dental dam or clear plastic wrap (but not the ‘microwave-safe’ variety – it has tiny holes in it).
    Urinating on skin – avoid this practice if there are cuts or abrasions on the skin. Don’t allow urine to come in contact with the eyes or mouth, in case there is blood in the urine.
    Faeces – HIV can be transmitted if there is blood in the faeces. Don’t allow faeces to come in contact with the eyes, mouth or cuts on the skin. Other illnesses, such as hepatitis and intestinal parasites, can also be transmitted by faeces.
    Sex toys – always put a condom on any sex toy (such as a dildo) before use. Wash all sex toys after use with warm water and soap. Consider having a separate collection of sex toys for each partner.

    What you can do after unprotected sex

    Sometimes, a couple may slip and have some form of unprotected sex. Suggestions include:

    If the broken skin of the HIV negative partner comes in contact with the ejaculate, blood, urine or faeces of their HIV positive partner, wash well with warm water and soap.
    Seek advice from your doctor. Post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) is a month-long course of medications for people who have been exposed to HIV. To be most effective, they should be commenced within 72 hours of exposure. It is best to take them as early as possible after exposure. These drugs can be toxic on the body with unpleasant side effects such as vomiting, nausea and lethargy. PEP is not an alternative to safe sex. If you think you have been exposed to HIV, or think you need help, visit www.getpep.info or call 1800 889 887. This is a 24-hour telephone service.
    Talk about the factors that led to the unprotected sex and work out ways to avoid the same mistake in future.

    HIV and your relationship

    HIV can trigger various relationship problems including:

    Fear – both partners could be fearful of the HIV-positive partner developing AIDS or of the HIV-negative partner contracting the virus.
    Sexual problems – some people may feel bored and frustrated by the constraints of always practicing safe sex, which can cause tension within the relationship. Sometimes, treatments can also affect the HIV-positive partner’s libido.
    Insecurity – the person with HIV may feel insecure and worry that their partner may leave them because of their HIV status.

    Where to get help

    Your doctor
    Victorian AIDS Council/Gay Men’s Health Centre Tel. (03) 9865 6700 or 1800 134 840
    Blood Borne Viruses/Sexually Transmissible Infections Program, Department of Health Victoria Tel. (03) 9096 9174
    Positive Living Centre Tel. (03) 9863 0444
    People Living with HIV/AIDS Vic Inc Tel. (03) 9863 8733
    Melbourne Sexual Health Centre (03) 9341 6200 or 1800 032 017 or TTY 9347 8619
    The Centre Clinic, Northcote Tel. (03) 9481 7155
    The Centre Clinic, St Kilda Tel. (03) 9525 5866
    Education & Resource Centre at The Alfred Tel. (03) 9276 6993

    Things to remember

    HIV positive men with HIV negative partners can still enjoy physically intimate relationships.
    Sexual activities that are considered safe include kissing, cuddling, stroking, massage, masturbation, mutual masturbation, oral sex (with no ejaculate in the mouth) and anal sex with a condom using water-based lubricant.
  • DR2K

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    Mar 27, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    There's no such thing as 100% safe. You can get STDs from bare kissing. Get tested, you and your partner and wear a condom for anal or even oral.
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    Mar 27, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    Thank you for your contribution! Welcome to the Real Jock community!

    Aloha and Be Well!
    Alan
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    Mar 27, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    Hames saidWell, i have to be honest that one of the reason why i joined this site is because i want SEX.


    Well, dang, ain't you in for a disappointment.....icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 30, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    DR2K saidThere's no such thing as 100% safe. You can get STDs from bare kissing. Get tested, you and your partner and wear a condom for anal or even oral.


    hays i heard in Brazil they alrady have a cure.icon_idea.gificon_idea.gif
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    Mar 30, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    turbobilly said
    Hames saidWell, i have to be honest that one of the reason why i joined this site is because i want SEX.


    Well, dang, ain't you in for a disappointment.....icon_sad.gif


    i believed honesty is the best policy..icon_surprised.gif
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    Mar 30, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidThank you for your contribution! Welcome to the Real Jock community!

    Aloha and Be Well!
    Alan


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    Mar 30, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    Hames saidHow to perform safe sex?
    Buy a padded headboard.
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    Mar 30, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    "Sucking ejaculate from the anus (felching)"

    I think I may vomit
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:08 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Hames saidHow to perform safe sex?
    Buy a padded headboard.


    im slow haha have fun ya'll be safe..icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    beachbum310 said "Sucking ejaculate from the anus (felching)"

    I think I may vomit


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    Mar 31, 2012 7:16 AM GMT
    i have to share this, i have my 1st sexual experience here 2 weeks ago, and he is good on making me feel sensual, mouning and ahh ahh ahh haha but ofcourse he respect me that i dont want anal sex instead he put his penins at the center of my legs when hes infront of me satisfying his self. icon_wink.gif hays im quiet honest i dont really enjoy it cause im a bit unsure if this is right or did i do well or realistically i dont really feel this person hes old. icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:41 AM GMT
    beachbum310 said "Sucking ejaculate from the anus (felching)"

    I think I may vomit



    Do not vomit into the anus. Because if you do then we'll have to make a name for that and make it a sexual act. icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:45 AM GMT
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
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    Mar 31, 2012 8:55 AM GMT
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    beachbum310 said "Sucking ejaculate from the anus (felching)"

    I think I may vomit



    Do not vomit into the anus. Because if you do then we'll have to make a name for that and make it a sexual act. icon_eek.gif


    Exhibitionist. yay!icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 31, 2012 8:56 AM GMT
    Asuguy2005 said
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    lmao


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    Mar 31, 2012 9:05 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Hames said
    mynyun said
    beachbum310 said "Sucking ejaculate from the anus (felching)"

    I think I may vomit



    Do not vomit into the anus. Because if you do then we'll have to make a name for that and make it a sexual act. icon_eek.gif


    Exhibitionist. yay!icon_confused.gif
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    hahaha same here but its something experemental hahahaicon_lol.gif
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    Apr 01, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    FROTTAGE
    -the penis in the legs, penis against penis, genitals against genitals is called "frottage" or "frotting"!!icon_cool.gif
    BY: SULLA

    i prefer this than anal sex yay!icon_eek.gif

  • Apr 16, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    agreed that there is no sex act that can be called safe sex 100% of the time. condoms can break or, worse, slide off, also embarrassing.

    in real life, most men brush safer sex aside. i have never met a guy who was comfortable using a condom during oral sex. not saying that's good, but that's the majority of men.

    yeah, kissing can transmit STD's, like herpes (both cold sores and the real thing). some guys can actually have oral gonorrhea- what a treat!

    herpes can be transmitted, technically, by touching the affected area then touching skin somewhere else. another reason to make sure people wash their hands after the bathroom!

    any sex act is dangerous to a degree. you can catch the flu from casual contact. STDs are just diseases, and some are very easy to spread. Most of us won't really have to worry about HIV, but the clap, syphillis, etc are still concerns. and what about flesh eating bacteria!

    not trying to scare, but just adding a dose of reality. take precautions, dont have sex with a guy who looks suspicious (he has an unusual bump or sore on his private parts or his mouth, just say no!). never have anal sex without a condom.

    as for frottage, not completely safe. if your partner has herpes (it doesn't always show, remember that) or genital warts that somehow you didnt notice, and he rubs it on you, now you have it.


    dont be afraid, try to be safe, but remember, when you engage in sex you are giving up some security.