Dealing with jerks at your gym

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    Jul 12, 2008 4:02 AM GMT
    Story Highlights

    Complaints about misbehavior at gyms are common

    Spat can be sparked by sweaty equipment, personal space, loud grunting

    Oppressive body odor, excessive locker-room nudity can be offensive

    If situation could turn ugly, try to get gym manager to handle it

    http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/07/11/lw.gym.jerks/index.html
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    Jul 12, 2008 4:53 AM GMT
    Dealing with jerks in the gym..hmmmm... there are many ways.

    The most effective, completely ignore them.

    Yes that's right pretend they do not exist.

    Being a jerk is the guy equivalent of a girl acting stupid to get attention. If you do not give them what they crave, they hate that.


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    Jul 12, 2008 7:24 AM GMT
    I think muscletroy is right, the best way to deal with these people is to ignore them and just get on with your own thing.

    Sometimes it difficult though.

    At the moment my pet peeve is being in the swimming pool with guys wearing long board shorts (which they've been using in the gym!) and which are designed for posing on the beach not serious swimming.

    What have they got in their pockets? That is so rank and unhygenic.

    You don't see women swimming swimming in their gym gear why is it alright for men to swim in this get-up? Bleurgh!
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    Jul 12, 2008 7:48 AM GMT
    Such is life in a gym. I just try to be polite with everyone. My pet peeve is guys using three pieces of equipment at once. Circuit training. Whatever....do it when the gym is empty. Don't tie up the leg press, squat rack, and leg extension machine when the gym is full. It is almost always the wannabees. Go on with your bad chicken-legged self.
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    Jul 12, 2008 12:27 PM GMT
    About the only problem I have is when guys drop a machine weight when on their last rep. . . and the resulting crash reverberates through the entire gym. Sometimes, it's incredibly loud, and it sounds like a bomb going off.

    I'm also beginning to wonder if there are ANY gay people within a 30-mile radius of me. Sure doesn't seem to be any at my gym.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 12, 2008 12:40 PM GMT
    Really at the YMCA's in Wichita, there really isn't much of a problem. I think the only real issue I ever had since I've been there (which is 7.5 years) was a redneck dude about 2 years ago. He wasn't using a piece of equipment, he was gabbing and I needed to use that equipment. I suggested he use the equipment or gab. I got some nasty looks.. then and an attitude from him occasionally after. He was a classic redneck and isn't even there now.
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    Jul 12, 2008 12:40 PM GMT
    Lets not forget the Locker room ediquette. I seens guys shaving their private parts, Blow drying their balls..ect...ect...right in the middle of everyone. GROSS!!!. I wanna call the owner....LOL......icon_mad.gif
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    Jul 12, 2008 2:47 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said He was a classic redneck ...


    Stereotype much? icon_rolleyes.gif



    hotversguynnj said Blow drying their balls..ect...


    LMAOicon_lol.gif
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    Jul 12, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    I don't understand why some of the above posters seem so prudish about nudity in the gym or locker room. We should be able to feel free to be nude at some point, and in many other countries beyond America, nudity is the norm, and nobody gets bent out of shape about it. I personally LIKE seeing man walk around naked in the gym, doesn't bother me a bit. If you're gonna be naked, that's the proper place for it. The place where you are toning your body. What DOES bother me is something that happens at my gym/bath house, is when some of these really arragant Middle Eastern guys (no offense to my brothers from the Middle East, but here in the L.A. area, so many guys from Iran, Iraq, Lebanon, Saudi Arabia, and those areas are INCREDIBLY pushy and arrogant) and occasional Caucasian bear-types, go into the steamroom and lather themselves up and start SHAVING, right there in the room. THAT'S disgusting, not to mention terribly rude and unhygenic. But, when you say something to them, or the management says something, they act like it's their RIGHT to endanger everyone else's health without a care in the world. The second-worst behavior in the steamroom are these trollish fat guys who come in there wearing street clothes, like T-shirts or tanktops and board shorts, and even tennis shoes! Again, the steamroom is meant to be used NAKED, with AT most a towel or a jockstrap, or MAYBE a thong or Speedo. But these fat guys are too embarrassed to strip because, well, they're out of shape to the point of being corpulent, and it's offensive. The only reason they go to the gym/bath is to ogle other guys without mercy, and even try to make passes at the rest of us without us ever giving any indication that we're interested.
    Trolls.
    Sorry for the rant. And, no offense to my Middle Eastern and White brothers.
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    Jul 12, 2008 5:46 PM GMT
    Buckwheet said
    HndsmKansan said He was a classic redneck ...


    Stereotype much? icon_rolleyes.gif



    hotversguynnj said Blow drying their balls..ect...


    LMAOicon_lol.gif


    Trust me!...Its nuhtin to Laugh at...Its always the Heasvest, grossest & out of shape guys that do it!...icon_evil.gif
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    Jul 12, 2008 5:58 PM GMT
    hotversguynnj saidLets not forget Blow drying their balls..ect...ect...right in the middle of everyone. GROSS!!!icon_mad.gif


    Yeah it's either the "not so pretty guys" or the old Asian guys at my gym doing that crap!" YACK!!!

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    Jul 12, 2008 6:42 PM GMT
    Shaving in the sauna. WTF is that all about?
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    Jul 12, 2008 6:49 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidShaving in the sauna. WTF is that all about?


    That's for sure. And street clothes, too. Don't forget the street clothes! Some people just don't give a crap that they're in a place that others also have to use.
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    Jul 12, 2008 6:52 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidShaving in the sauna. WTF is that all about?

    Steam and heat. But I would never do that. Guess they can't afford shaving cream.
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    Jul 13, 2008 12:18 AM GMT
    Triggerman saidSuch is life in a gym. I just try to be polite with everyone. My pet peeve is guys using three pieces of equipment at once. Circuit training. Whatever....do it when the gym is empty. Don't tie up the leg press, squat rack, and leg extension machine when the gym is full. It is almost always the wannabees. Go on with your bad chicken-legged self.


    When people do that with selectorized equipment, I just say "I'll reset it for you."
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    Jul 13, 2008 12:44 AM GMT
    I haven't delt with a gym douche in a while except when I first started out I was like 140 bigger dudes made me feel like my workouts where not as important as there workouts and sometimes coerced me off the machines. Now I just keep working out and ignore them.
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    Jul 13, 2008 2:10 PM GMT
    I chose the most lovely gym in Montréal right in the Gay Village. Needless to say, I find myself amongst kinsmen.

    Last night I was waiting to be served at the counter, and there was an extremely camp and more-or-less unattractive guy talking in an animated fashion to the the girl and the rather sexy guy serving the customers.

    The Queen was complaining about inappropriate sexual activities in the locker room (which I always understood was a don't-ask-don't-tell subject and in all my years have never seen anything unprovoked).

    As the story went on, it became increasingly obvious the whole account was imaginary and just an excuse to talk sex with the hot guy (who had meanwhile extricated himself from the discussion to serve me). The girl was patently disinterested but did say "Oui, c'est vrai que tout le monde n'a pas envie de voir ça, mais si tu veux que je fasse quelquechose il faut que tu l'identifies" (Yes it's true that not everyone wants to see that (LOL!), but if you want me to do something you'll have to identify him).

    Then the queen puts on a falsetto and stares at the sexy guy with a grin "Ben je saurais pas le décrire, mais il avait des yeux bleues et environ neuf pouces" (Well, I couldn't describe him but he had blue eyes and around nine inches).

    At which point, I loudly interject "Bien évidemment, tu n'étais pas aussi gêné que ça alors" (Well you obviously weren't that upset then).

    Ah, I think I won some browny points there with the staff! And anyway, what kind of pick-up routine involves complaining about sex?
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    Jul 13, 2008 2:13 PM GMT
    When all else fails, crop dust them as you walk by as a silent display of contempt. It might not change their behavior, but it will sure make you feel a whole lot better.
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    Jul 13, 2008 2:35 PM GMT
    Last night at the gym, a lady on the elliptical was yappin on her cell the WHOLE time. After I finished, took a shower, and was on my way out, she was sitting at a machine STILL on her cell. People should NOT be on their cell when at the gym. It just isn't proper, plus there are signs that politely say "No cellphones in the fitness room please."

    I see it almost every time I workout: at least 2 people, sometimes more, standing at the bench, a machine, or something else chattin away like it's some social. I often needed the bench where they just sit around and talk. For going to a gym where the members are most educated, distinguished, and considered high class, these people are surely one of the most uncouth I've ever seen.
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    Jul 13, 2008 2:55 PM GMT
    I Don't go to a gym as they are full of nasty diseases and stinky people!

    I have kind of outside gym here with some machines and a football/volleyball court which I fast walk and run around in the morning's.


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    Jul 13, 2008 3:01 PM GMT
    I agree the best way is to ignore gym jerks, or to report them to the staff. Here are some others not reported above:

    ...stretching in the free weight area. (The spaces between equipment stations are meant for people to move through, not to lay in).

    ...lunge walking in the aisles in the free weight area. (Same parenthetical as above...these people are hazards, and risk injury to themselves and others when someone is properly trying to move a free weight back to it's perch).

    ...personal trainers with clients doing supersets. (This is really annoying, and self absorbed. This ties up many free weights or stations for a long period of time. I don't mind if the sets are quick, but personal trainers are apt to be yacking with their clients at the same time).

    ...trolls. (This is really independent of age. But these are guys who are clearly not there to workout, but move around the gym ogling. We all ogle to some extent, but this is ridiculous. There's one guy at Golds Gym Oakland CA who moves from station to station, doing nothing, but sitting at the station and gawks at the eye candy. What's so ludicrous is that when he moves to the next station he pants and sighs as if he just completed a set of something. Geez.)
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    Jul 13, 2008 3:48 PM GMT
    What is the most disgusting thing I have seen at a gym? I wen to shower at a Bally's - stepped into the shower and almost stepped into a pile of human feces. Can you believe it? DISGUSTING

    I think we all have experienced the guys sweating up machines and not wiping them down (I wipe the equip before and after. I caught MRSA on my right forearm from a pec dec - not from the poo gym btw!!)

    Attitudes are best ignored. Trolls - I am always friendly unless they get pushy and then I politely say no. The guys who shave, sit on a bare surface, lay and roll on the steamroom bench - are they just that ignorant?

    The nudity is acceptable - but I agree - seeing a guy with a PA the size that you can tow a barge boat with blow prying his balls and "teasing" his pubes with a roller brush is one of lifes greatest mysteries. (disclaimer: I live in Ft. Lauderdale - so you get locals and tourists with the attitude that "why not, these people will never see me again".

    Finally - my most bizarre situation was at a gym in Amsterdam during Pride. I showered off and went to the steamroom. The guys next to me - without notice ir acknowledgement buried is head in my groin. Two seconds later a naked lady walks in (I did not know it was coed - very European). I tried to pry his head off. I said "There's a woman!"... his response "She a regular member - she's used too it". Only in Amsterdam kids!
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    Jul 13, 2008 4:13 PM GMT
    I have not really seen the problems most have expressed at my gym. None of the sex or oogling or cell phones, etc.

    The only incident I ever had was being chatted up by a fellow who wouldnt stop. I always wondered why people werent more friendly at the gym. Now I know. You encounter one of these chatty-cathies and your whole workout is blown. "Dude, an exchange of plesantries is fine, but I am not interested in your life's story!!!"
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    Jul 13, 2008 4:21 PM GMT
    Wow...Deja vu...Been there did that...Every story that I have read I have seen or witnessed...Sad but true and I still go to the gym...I suppose even if I could change any of it I would but I know whatever gym or wherever I go it will still be the same...When you wear a MP3 player to keep out the noise and the volume is not high enough you know there is a problem...I have been to every gym in this city and they are all the same...So, guys I guess if we want to work out we have to get use to all the things that bug and annoy us....@ 50 I am still learning...If I did not enjoy fitness as much as I do I think the gym would be the last place I would go...Now I understand why females hate all the macho type men in the gym and unless the are female bodybuilder without any tits they usually stay away from the weights and just do cardio...And understand why guys who want to start sometimes are intimidated...Anyway, I can relate to all the stories and I am sure it will continue long after I am gone...Ciao bello...icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 13, 2008 4:32 PM GMT
    hotversguynnj saidLets not forget the Locker room ediquette. I seens guys shaving their private parts, Blow drying their balls..ect...ect...right in the middle of everyone. GROSS!!!. I wanna call the owner....LOL......icon_mad.gif



    Yes and this is one of the great mysteries of the earth, why is it always the 450 lb guy standing in front of the mirror blow drying his balls and all the hot guys are wrapped up under seven damn towels? Why god why?