If you met your LTR partner today would you date them even?

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    Mar 28, 2012 12:52 PM GMT
    A freind and I were discussing long term relationships and how sometimes they change (along with the people in them) so much, the things that attracted you in the first place are no longer there..

    For those of you that are in or have been in a long term relationship - if you met that person again, but today- do you think you'd have gotten together?
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    Mar 28, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    He'd be 10x better looking and 10x more intelligent today, so I'd date him over and over again.
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Mar 28, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    The answer largely depends on where in the relationship you are.

    Some of my former boyfriends I wouldn't date again. Others, today I would be even more excited to date for the first time.
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    Mar 28, 2012 2:18 PM GMT

    "A freind and I were discussing long term relationships and how sometimes they change (along with the people in them) so much, the things that attracted you in the first place are no longer there.."


    A good friend who is a very well known psychologist made the observation that many relationships fall apart for this reason as they forgot what they first saw in each other; forgetting on a visceral level.

    Is Bill the same at 55 as he was at 32? Nope. Am I the same at 57 as when I was 34? Nope.
    But when we look at each other and/or talk to each other, we see and hear the man we each fell for.

    "If you met your LTR partner today would you date them even?"


    Absolutely!

    -Bill and Doug
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    Mar 28, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Mar 28, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    I wouldn't know, because I don't think Im gonna meet him. After tonight, Im very convinced its all over for me. icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 28, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    To be honest, I don't think so.. I felt he was kind of a douche
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    Mar 28, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
    My ex is more of what I want today than he was when we first dated.

    But knowing what I know now... I'm okay with not going to that.
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    Mar 28, 2012 4:51 PM GMT
    Absolutely!!!!

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    Mar 28, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    Yes...
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    Mar 28, 2012 5:37 PM GMT
    why not .... lol i would date him over and over, we would have the best times and some bad times but as time goes on we would still love each other, know a lot about each other have the best sex , make up sex, mad angry sex , make love lol ...... ect
  • cookingitswee...

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    Mar 28, 2012 6:15 PM GMT
    for the most part no, but there are some who I never dated, but would like a second chance with.
  • bluemonday

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    Mar 29, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    lol I'm in that situation right now! and I would say no!!
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    Mar 29, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    Simon1973 saidI wouldn't know, because I don't think Im gonna meet him. After tonight, Im very convinced its all over for me. icon_twisted.gif


    I was right.he is such a cold hearted smartarse druggie bitch. icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 29, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
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    Mar 29, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    JPtheBITCH saidAll I have are exes, and they are exes for damn good reasons.
    This is what I'm going to hope happens to me if it happens at all.


    Its already happened to me.

    Who on Earth, Wants an Ex?

    I got too many of those. I call 3 enough. icon_biggrin.gif
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 29, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    I don't think the me of today would date the him from the start of our relationship. But that is one of the good things about growing together, I'm not the same guy I was a year ago and neither is he...but he's still my best friend and the guy I want to wake up next to every morning.
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    Mar 29, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    absolutely.We will be 2 years together in Sept.Neither of us are perfect but I love him like crazy.icon_smile.gif
  • BardBear

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    Apr 01, 2012 1:03 PM GMT
    Absolutely. I know I would date him and marry him all over again. He's my best friend and I'd not want to lose that piece of hottness!

    Peace,
    Bardy
  • rnch

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    Apr 01, 2012 1:09 PM GMT
    Even though he is (at least) 25 pounds heavier and 4 years (going downhill in the facial area) older than when we first met as a gay.com one night stand hook up.....YES! I would persue him as ardently today as I did then.

    His mind, personality and "abby-normal" sense of humor charmed me then, is still charming me today.


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    (As well as being the best bed buddy I've ever had! then and now.)



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    It's been a struggle at times....but quite the rewarding struggle.


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    Apr 01, 2012 1:17 PM GMT
    Even more so today. When I met my partner (it was a long distance online meeting) he hadn't 'disclosed' that he was a smoker. While it wasn't a dealbreaker it certainly took me aback.

    He stopped smoking before he moved in so now.. he's still my sweetie (10 years now) and not a cig between his lips anymore

    So...yes yes yes
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    Apr 01, 2012 1:22 PM GMT
    Yep, I sure would!