NEW TO REAL JOCK?? Forum Posting 101

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    Mar 28, 2012 7:00 PM GMT
    Recently, a young new member came to Real Jock and began posting some questions and came across rather judgmental, scornful, ambiguous, and just plain odd. After several of these odd threads, the RJ community swarmed in and verbally hammered the guy mercilessly (short of asking him to commit suicide online). In his redacted post with my answers (below), he cried "uncle" and made a 1/2 hearted attempt to apologize to the community. Needless to say, his reputation is shit here until he establishes a pattern of civil community discourse.

    So, IF YOU ARE NEW TO REAL JOCK do yourself a favor, don't say "TL;DR" (Too long; Didn't read) and take note:

    1. RJ is a self-moderated form. Don't expect Mods to come in and save you from yourself.
    2. Post shit, get shit. If you post something shitty, judgemental, scornful, ambiguous, or just plain odd, expect to get shit back. You get "troll points" by posting bad stuff.
    3. Post good stuff, get shit. If you post something good, expect to get shit back by the truckloads as well. This is the interwebs. You get "reputation points" by posting good stuff.
    4. If you don't understand any of the terms in this it.
    5. If you're seriously searching for the answer to a burning question, search the forums first. Your question is probably not the first time it's been asked. You annoy the community by asking the same "beating a dead horse question" without doing your homework.
    6. Have a pic and a verified profile.
    7. Don't post an inflammatory question or statement on your first post.
    8. Pictureless profiles are viewed with great suspicion by the community. We assume you're a troll or a sockaccount unless proven otherwise.
    9. Have fun, build your reputation, and don't take things to seriously.
    10. If you've stepped over the line, say so. Sincerely. Don't offer "qualified apologies".

    Here's the text from my response to an n00b who crossed the line with the whole community:

    My comments in Green. BTW, these are also in response to your OP question "What is wrong with me?", so by any means not "off topic".

    asshatn00b said
    You know for all you people out there who have me pegged, here is the true low down. And this is the last thing I'm saying. I had a legit question (and even if it wasn't legit in ur eyes then who cares...u could have answered it anyway...nicely). Yes, we had you pegged right from the start. Your post title was insulting and inflammatory and it clearly pinged the "troll-sense". You also have a history of whiney, threads about incongruous, inconsistent desires.

    The fact of the matter is that people on here were being alot meaner and ruder and more immature to be quite frank way b4 I was. Like i said, my questions are of serious concern and if u dnt think so then u didn't have to answer them.

    ]These are the interwebs, you ask a question, you're may get answers that you want to hear, don't want to hear, need to hear, and don't need to hear. We're a self-moderating community here, and if anybody wants to bring their trash talk here, they better be ready for the RJ Royal Marines' "shock and awe" as we go in for the kill. Besides, you haven't seen mean yet.

    You have to take everything you see here with a grain of salt, a lot of humor, and with some skepticism.

    I'm seriously am a nice guy. I feel judged and scorned in a community I thought i was apart of. Shame on all you who made me, or any gay for whatever the reason, feel unwelcome. After ppl were so mean to me, I decided to lash out (bc i knew what i was doing and i knew what it would cause). I felt that if i should have my feelings hurt without the time of day, so should everyone else. Now, all i have to show for it is a horrible thread that started off with good intentions. If i was any kind of man i would have stopped a long time ago. But u people bully other people whether u like to think so or not. Luckily, I'm smart enough to see it was just coming from a place of bitchey displacement, but other guys who comment might not b so lucky.

    No. Painting yourself the victim in the paragraph above is bullshit and rings hollow like a tuna can bell. You've got a history of inflammatory threads. Your very thread title was judgement and scorn. Shame on you for bringing judgement and scorn to the community. You reap what you sow, and your crop came up poison ivy and thistles.

    As for good intentions? Don't give us that crap. You were looking to start shit from your very first post.

    As for being bullied, don't give the "u people bully other people" line when you come into a community with threads loaded with judgement, scorn, and inflammatory remarks right from the start. What you're getting is not "bullied", you're getting the equivalent of online street justice for your own poor behavior. You got what you deserve.

    Everyone acts all big and bad, myself included, behind a computer screen, but i hope to god this is not how the gay community really is in reality. The small bit of it i have seen has been extremely disappointing. I'm not saying it's all like that but i would hope it isn't. I liked alot of u guys on here...i liked what u had to say, b4 this thread.

    Act "big and bad" and live with the consequences of your actions. You've alienated yourself from a community which can be quite accepting, helpful and supportive. You're disappointed that your judgement and scorn got you the real answer to your question "What's wrong with me?" Awwwwww. Tough shit! Go find another online community.

    So, i'm man enough to admit i've been wrong and the things i said.

    You should have stopped right there, and foregone all the previous bullshit. Apologies are unqualified. "I'm sorry but this. I'm sorry but that." Doesn't show any true humility. It just shows more contempt by trying to justify your poor behaviour.

    But people's true feelings were shown here and ive lost a good deal of respect for alot of u (even though that doesn't mean anything).

    You're right. It doesn't mean anything.

    I may b young but all the more reason to try to help me and not slander me or degrade me.

    You slandered and degraded your entire brotherhood with your OP and other posts. You took no sense of humor, you showed no sense of humor. You got what you deserved.

    I'm not some worthless sex toy, i am a human. i deserve respect...and so should everyone of u.

    You want respect, you have to give respect first. You have a history of posts which devolve into narcissism, judgement, and scorn for others. Oh you've shown that you're clearly biologically human. Whether or not you're better than a worthless sex toy is up in the air right now. Worthless sex toys don't stir up hate on their own.

    But i can honestly say, most of u did not show me any at the beginning of this thread. I apologize but i will say shame on some of u. U insulted a 19 year makes u so badass. Seriously, grow up. And dnt point any figures....cuz its 3rd grade

    Apologies peppered with insults ring hollow. You haven't apologized. You've just changed your tone to the "sympathy troll" as your prepare your next attack.

    Good luck, boy. You're gonna need it.
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    Mar 28, 2012 7:12 PM GMT
    As you can tell, I'm new to RJ and this post is very helpful. I don't plan on posting much, but it's always good to know these kinds of things beforehand so that I don't come off sounding like an asshole.
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    Mar 28, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    All I read was "How to not ruffle any feathers"
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    Mar 28, 2012 9:49 PM GMT

    No comment here, except that the FIRST question asked in the XXXXX's original post was,

    'What's wrong with me?'

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    Mar 28, 2012 9:59 PM GMT
    GAMRican said Needless to say, his reputation is shit here until he establishes a pattern of civil community discourse.

    Fix'd. No second chances. Next!
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    Mar 28, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    GAMRican said, " Needless to say, his reputation is shit here until he establishes a pattern of civil community discourse."

    lol, at this point after seeing what's going on over there, I concur.
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    Mar 31, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    Some useful information here. It seems like you did a lot of research before you posted this. Yea I felt like my first official post was a bit crappy haha, but you soon learn. Too bad this guy just didn't know how to stop.