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    Mar 28, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
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  • commoncoll

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    Mar 28, 2012 11:20 PM GMT
    No. You are not being selfish. Unless requested otherwise, it is general courtesy to cleanup for you romantic interests.

    You don't seem to be too attracted to him anymore, perhaps, it is better to say things are not working out.

    Also: have you asked him to do all these things?
  • RHUK

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    Mar 29, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    Talk to him, not to the internet icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 29, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    Yeah...sounds like you're gonna have to talk to him.
  • MrPapo317

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    Mar 29, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    my ex body hygene was clean but everything else was really bad. he never did any house cleaning and a dirty bathroom was kind of a deal breaker for me. i didnt like going over to his place because of that
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    Mar 29, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    Time for the talk, and if he doesn't wanna deal, then time for the walk.
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    Mar 29, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    Isn't brushing your teeth immediately before sex that involves your mouth a bad idea? Thought I read that somewhere. But no, I don't think you're being selfish. He's just not used to having his hygiene affect another person so directly. Whitener may be pushing it but he should be a little more attentive if he expects to be intimate.

    You might want to try to "make it a game" as is suggested with kids, playing in the shower can be fun.
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    Mar 29, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    You're not being selfish, and, he's not for you. It would be great if you could stay friends, but keep your eyes open for a new boyfriend more similar to yourself.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    RHUK saidTalk to him, not to the internet icon_smile.gif

    HAHAH I totally agree with you on this one. This is a discussion you should be having with him, not posting on the internet. Anyone who may know you or your BF from this website is now apart of your relationship. ROFL! I say talk to him if it doesn't pick up, then find another bf, icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    I, personally, don't think you are being selfish with the teeth, cleanliness down low, and facial hair.

    However, even though you hate body hair, he may find it tedious and difficult to keep it shaven on a regular basis. With that being said, if body hair bothers him as well, then he should not be complaining. Like almost everyone is saying, I suggest you talk with him about all of this.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    Your dislike of his body hair is not a hygiene issue. His mouth and ass, yes.
  • Avataraja

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    Mar 29, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    break-up
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    Sometimes you have to love the good and the bad. Talk to him. Love him.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    He actually sounds like a breath of fresh air (no pun intended). Some gay guys are just too "made up" and spend too much time beautifying themselves. Good hygiene is cool, but too much can be cloying.
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    Mar 29, 2012 2:39 AM GMT
    I'm sure you are making the guy sound dirtier than he seems. If it's really bothering you then you should talk to him, we don't know him and we cant talk to him for you. It's good that you found out he's Oscar the Grouch now than several months later so you can just ditch him if need be. Just hose him down if it's really bothering you.
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    Mar 29, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
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  • iLEAKSEXY

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    Mar 29, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    I'm suprised your sticking around and its only been 2 months. I would have broken up with him a long time ago. Its pretty clear he does not care about him self, brushing your teeth and showering should be priorty!!!!! If I were you I'll cut it short.......
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    Mar 29, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    It works, or it doesn't. If you like him you like him. Tell him if he wants anal to clean up and if he doesn't it is out of the question.


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    Mar 29, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    averagejoe said
    He has nice, straight teeth, but they're all discolored and stained.

    He likes anal, but he's always self conscious that he's dirty. Yet he never cleans up down their before we hang out.


    ew

    and

    ew
  • chgobuzz1

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    Mar 29, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    He just needs Gay 101. Take him into the shower before sex and scrub him down, play with his butt, clean it up, take the brush and tell how you like him to brush like you do and do it together. THEN if he does not see the point of all this, and how much you appreciate it , you move on.
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    Mar 29, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    averagejoe said
    He has nice, straight teeth, but they're all discolored and stained.

    He likes anal, but he's always self conscious that he's dirty. Yet he never cleans up down their before we hang out.


    ew

    and

    ew


    Ewwwww!! I hate young piggy bottoms. They scare me straight
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 29, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    The BF sounds kind of selfish and sort of gross.
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    Mar 29, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    Kanaka said
    AvadaKedavra said
    averagejoe said
    He has nice, straight teeth, but they're all discolored and stained.

    He likes anal, but he's always self conscious that he's dirty. Yet he never cleans up down their before we hang out.


    ew

    and

    ew


    Ewwwww!! I hate young piggy bottoms. They scare me straight

    Scaring you straight would be like telling Elton John he's been straight all along.
    Ain't gonna goddamn believe it.
    lmao
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    Mar 29, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    If you knew all of this early on from just hanging out, then why did you get into a relationship in the first place? Did you start out as friends first? How long did you know him before becoming his boyfriend? If you breakup with him soon, I don't think you should count him as an "ex" because it sounds like you guys were never meant to be together at all. Sometimes hygiene can be a major deal breaker. Before you become someone's boyfriend, get to know him FIRST.
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    Mar 29, 2012 12:16 PM GMT
    Ok ok.

    I'm not going to break up with him over this. His other qualities more than make up for it.

    And I have talked to him. He knows I don't like it. He just makes up excuses. Oh, I just got home and didn't have time to brush my teeth. Oh, I forgot to shave. (...every day)

    And I don't really mean to make him sound disgusting. It's not really disgusting; it's just not attractive.

    I even offered to bottom for him in exchange for a few days of shaving. I HATE bottoming....

    Like I said, I guess I'm just disenchanted. This makes him so much less attractive to me. I still like hanging out, but i don't have that same "OMG I'm so into you" feeling.