Do You Think You Are A Good Person

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    Mar 29, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    We all make mistakes and have our own dark sides and moments, but all in all...deep inside , do you think you are a good guy?

    I ask because I watched this show called Moment of Truth and she lost the whole game based off the last question. "Do you think you are a good person" She said yes, but the lie detector said she lied.

    So when you think of your entire life, and everything you have done and been through, do you think people will remember you more in a postive or negative light. Even if it is not postive that does not mean you are bad, but anyway,

    Are you a good guy?
  • commoncoll

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    Mar 29, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    I try to be. It's hard to be a good person. And I feel that I have not been good enough. As I've grown older, I've become less self-absorbed and more conscientious.

  • Pontifex

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    Mar 29, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    I hope I am. I'll take being honorable over being nice. Sometimes they are different.
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    Mar 29, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    lol, we try.

    -us two
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    Yes and no.

    -ABSOLUTELY YES to animals icon_cool.gif

    -NO to most humans icon_neutral.gif

    -ABSOLUTELY NOT to Gay republicans. icon_mad.gif

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    Mar 29, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    For the most part. Nobody's perfect but I don't steal or cheat, even when "everybody's doing it" and I don't get off on put-downs to show everybody how witty I am.

    I can remember at least two times when I found out I had hurt someone else's feelings (neither time intentionally) like they were yesterday and still feel like crap about it, probably long after they forgot it.

    That is not to say I'm a doormat. I can be very direct and don't put up with being taken for granted.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:08 AM GMT
    This is too subjective of a question to answer. Who defines what a good person is? Everyone has their own definitions. Religions have definitions. Cultures have definitions.

    All I can say is that I try to be aware of how my actions effect the people around me, and I try to take the consequences of my actions into account when I make decisions. I try my best to be a "good" person by not having a bad effect on myself or those around me.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidI'm rude and crabby.




    ...and stay OFF of his lawn.

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  • RSportsguy

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    Mar 29, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    I strive to be a good person. I help out my friends when I can. I take care of my family. I help out coworkers even if I have to work harder to finish my job. Saying all of that, I feel that people tend to take advantage of me. I just don't want to have any regrets!
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    Of Course the Question May be subjective because it is.

    I asked you, what you think of yourself.

    By your own standards, not any one else. But yours, So yeah it may be subjective, but it is subjected to the only opinion that truly matters in life

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    Mar 29, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
    I have my moments.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    I engage in self-flagellation. Does that make me a good person?
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
    I was just doing a psychological session on somebody..the person in question was gay, and we talked at length about sexuality and how it makes many people demonise themselves. What came out of the talk was very revealing about how the "dark side" or the bad sides of people's personalities are in fact, not something to be shunned or feared, but accepted and harnessed, so that it may be controlled, lest it control us (X-men moment)..

    Several good examples of how this works is to compare the opposite forces of destruction and creation.. The destructive forces being natural disasters.... the creative ones being for instance, seed and growth. What is so interesting is that we cannot have a biosphere without the at of volcanoes constantly recycling nutrients from the earth. Thus, without destructive forces, life would cease to exist, as both forces are necessary for continuation. Another good example is day and night, where night is necessary as there is one sun, and if there were perpetual day one side of the planet, such as on the moon, one side of earth would be far too hot to sustain life, whereas the other side too cold... thus, day and night are necessary cycles, such as winter and summer.. in order to avoid total freezing and total boiling.... The opposites both have a role to play in our lives. Just as both male and female gametes are necessary for procreation.

    The problem is mostly if we try to suppress our dark sides rather than harness it... that would be similar to trying to suppress the act of eating food. Eating food requires destruction of the food particles to allow the body to create more cells and thus continue the cycle. Suppress your hunger for fear of the destructive force of chewing, and you will starve.. suppress your dark side for fear of it, and it may run wild out of our control. thus, instead of demonising and suppressing, accepting and harnessing is the better way to look at the dark side of ourselves.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:30 AM GMT

    Mostly I keep my dark side hidden - or at most I'm just really blunt about what I think. I work faster when I'm anxious like that.


    But then again...sometimes I pull out my lightsaber.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    fagneticspermeability said
    MeOhMy saidI have my moments.


    What sort of moments?


    ... where I'm a good person. And then I have other moments.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    I think i am a good person, but I was at once a doormat because of all the teasing and racism and homophobia, so I just wanted to be liked and stuff so I was too nice and I was such a people pleaser (as fagnetic used)

    Then when I hit highschool I got tired of being nice and people still wanting to be mean to me so I got vicious back, I felt if they werent going to like me anyway then let me give them a reason. I became famous for my attitude and quick combacks and fighting. So I went from this meek, nice doormat to voted Most Outspoken and Most Obnoxious.

    I then got out of highschool, and got a job or two and I realized that college and work were alot easier to be yourself. People were not as caring about race and sexuality , so then I became nice Jamie again,

    but my issue is that I am naturally overly nice. I will give my last if you ask for it, but people often take advantage of me and use me. I can curse , and fight and get nasty but it makes me feel bad aswell. I am good at being mean but I prefer not too because it still doesnt make me feel better to hurt someone else, My attitude was more so to gain respect, not to hurt feelings but I did. I been hurt so many times, so i was a pro at it.

    I right now am in the perfect amount. I am nice but also firm. I tell people if they do me wrong and call them out, but I am respectful and kind all at the same time when i do it. I pick battles wisely. I tend to get along with everyone, but there have been some who have hated me for being too nice..

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    Anyway,

    I like who I am now, hopefully I can love it later on.
    That is the only thing I can comment on that makes me a good/bad person because for me my actions were always good.

    I am very respectful of other people and their beliefs. Dont drink, smoke, do drugs. I am still a virgin and I try not to curse, especially at other people. I was honor roll kid all my life, go to college and church, and I work for a non profit organization.

    I believe I am a good guy, and hopefully I can be a great guy when I get older.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    This is like Good vers Evil
    Kind to animals but not to Humans

    My thought is this I would never do anything to a person that I would
    want done to me


    Gay men these days pull some crap
    Like this Forum ....Only a fool would say They are not a good person

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    Mar 29, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    fagneticspermeability said
    GreenHopper said

    Several good examples of how this works is to compare the opposite forces of destruction and creation.. .


    Hym..I'm not sure I would compare these two polar forces with people that have a dark side. If people are doing things we deem as "bad" those people are typically people that we don't want to interact with.

    If they're lying to you, manipulating you or have the intent to cause you harm those are people we tend to avoid.


    Aye, but as I mentioned above.. the dark side. when we try to overcome it, or flee from it, or otherwise demonise it.. this is when it takes control of us.... You could theorise that people that intend to harm are acting based on fear of it, thus become unaware of their own harmful (destructive.. since harm is destructive) tendencies.... And I theorise that if those tendencies are harnessed, that they then can be controlled, such as in the example of chewing food...
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    Another example of that uncontrolled "dark side" would be "lashing out".. say for instance, a man has had a quarrel with his wife.. and kicks the cat in response.. uncontrolled, repressed destructive emotions, which then harm another that was not the cause for it
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    Does "good at being bad" count?
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    No, I don't. I don't think there are a lot of "good" people. But that's so subjective.
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    Mar 29, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    Yes I do. There's always room for improvement though.
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    Mar 29, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    Hell no
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Mar 29, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    yes but human
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    Mar 29, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    Honestly I don't think of myself as a good person. I try to be but I am always quick to judge people by how they live their lives etc. I always get back at people when they wrong me in some way or the other. It's like I enjoy the revenge. I don't steal, lie or cheat I just tend to hate more than I love.


    I love animals unconditionally though.