My dad is ok with me being gay, but is now mad at me for the car I drive...

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    Mar 30, 2012 10:20 PM GMT
    First off, my dad is very supportive of me being gay (which doesn't really have much to do with this story) He works for Ford and my first 2 cars were Ford.. A Mustang (1999) and a Fusion (2011) which were bought with my own money. This past week I traded the Fusion for a Scion tc because I missed the sportiness of driving a 5 speed. I missed my Mustang but didn't want to buy another one and Ford doesn't really offer anything else as sporty. I told my dad and now he's pretty upset with me saying Ford provided me with life for my first 18 years.... I mean I understand this. But am I really ONLY supposed to drive Ford my entire life? He paid absolutely nothing towards my college tuition, never helped me buy any of my cars, wouldn't help me out when I was needing $50 a month when I tried to live in student housing (which I ended up not being able to do because of this reason) He has hardly given me anything since the age of 18.
    Which, this has absolutely nothing to do with me being gay at all... But one of the first things that crossed my mind was how can he be so "Yay God" and super supportive of my sexuality, but super pissed about me buying a non-Ford car?

    What do y'all think?

    NOTE:

    Im just saying that him being okay with me being gay despite being a devout christian is a bit weird because it is viewed as such a "big deal" by the church. He's basically taken all the morality/sinning aspect that he follows and throws it aside like no big deal, when in reality to the church, he is probably making the wrong decision.

    Then on the other hand, we have me buying a new car... which he is mad obviously because I didn't buy from his place of employment. Thank you smart ass for pointing that out. Something so small has become a BIG deal.

    My only point was that (and it's not really a point... more of a thought that I had... and mind you i did say my sexuality doesn't have much to do with the story) it seems like the tables turned and something that should have been a big deal to him wasn't and something that I thought he would be cool with has blown up in my face.

    Hope I did a better job explaining that.
  • Import

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    Mar 30, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    tell ur dad that the scion provides more room for impromptu blow jobs and anal sex....

    it's absolutely necessary that u are able to do this and ford is not privy to ur needs as a gay man. ugh! doesn't he get it?
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    Mar 30, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    People in the US, and elsewhere, tend to have strong brand & team loyalty. Not to mention political, religious, and so forth.

    Your Dad's a Ford man. It's his career, after all, and he probably takes your new car as a personal rejection. Imagine if he worked for the Democratic Party, or held elected office as a Democrat, and you told him you were campaigning for the Republicans. (Sorry, no personal insult of you intended, just for illustration).

    I happen to favor Fords myself, as does my husband, why I bought him one. But if he said he really wanted some other brand I would have gotten it for him, and indeed I took him to other dealerships so at least he could make an informed decision, and feel comfortable in his choice of a Ford.

    So I understand your Dad's attitude, but you are your own man, and you pick what's best for you. Sorry that's become a point of tension between you.
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    Mar 30, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    Just tell him it's an area where you agree to disagree. Also, while Ford provided for your family, it wasn't a one-way gift. They got your Dad's work and loyalty in return. Also tell him if you come to California per your earlier thread, your car will be very important and you have to have what you like best.
  • A_1991

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    Mar 31, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidHe works for ford. He's proud about his work. You chose a non-ford car. He feels betrayed.

    There you go, I know, it was hard to analyze but I did it.

    PS: how is your sexuality relevant? Do you use your cars for gay hookups?


    +1

    lol should had got a ford focus rs! Could had tuned that bad boy and made it a better "sports" car than the tc.

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    Mar 31, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    What a world to be in. Umm, I agree with you on the car. Your dad is awesome for being that cool about you being gay. Fortunate, stud!
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    Mar 31, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    Tell your dad you will gladly give up the Scion for a Ford, if he can get an employee discount on this..

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    Mar 31, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    xrichx saidTell your dad you will gladly give up the Scion for a Ford, if he can get an employee discount on this..

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    :O
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    Mar 31, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    A car is just a tool for getting from place to place, it's not an extension of your penis, who gives a shit how sporty it is.
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    Mar 31, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    Im just saying that him being okay with me being gay despite being a devout christian is a bit weird because it is viewed as such a "big deal" by the church. He's basically taken all the morality/sinning aspect that he follows and throws it aside like no big deal, when in reality to the church, he is probably making the wrong decision.

    Then on the other hand, we have me buying a new car... which he is mad obviously because I didn't buy from his place of employment. Thank you smart ass for pointing that out. Something so small has become a BIG deal.

    My only point was that (and it's not really a point... more of a thought that I had... and mind you i did say my sexuality doesn't have much to do with the story) it seems like the tables turned and something that should have been a big deal to him wasn't and something that I thought he would be cool with has blown up in my face.

    Hope I did a better job explaining that.
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    Mar 31, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    tosteve saidA car is just a tool for getting from place to place, it's not an extension of your penis, who gives a shit how sporty it is.


    to each their own
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    Mar 31, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    I think you are absolutely within your right to do whats best for you, regardless if that is purchasing a Ford or not. Should you give Ford a first look? You already did more than that by buying two AND considering another one had they another sporty model available.

    So yeah don't feel bad dude, brush your dad's comments off.
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    Mar 31, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    ULmatt said
    tosteve saidA car is just a tool for getting from place to place, it's not an extension of your penis, who gives a shit how sporty it is.


    to each their own


    OK
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:00 AM GMT
    get a flying car! with guns in the bottomicon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    My friend's dad is the CEO of Ford (no joke) and he drives a Ford fusion so I don't see what is wrong with that.
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    Oh I meant my friend drives a fusion, not his dad. Daddy likes nicer cars.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 31, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    Honestly, I'd not dwell on the matter. If you get along with your Dad, then let this pass. It sounds like he doesn't give you much financial support and you are making the decisions (and financial ones as well). Blow it off and move along. Don't dwell on the negative, it could be a lot worse.
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    I've owned all foreign cars except for my last, a Ford. I cannot wait to trade it in on a foreign car (soon). I don't think American cars are anywhere near stylish, sportiness, or, efficiency than foreign made, especially Japanese cars.
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    Your father is from a different time when ate, breathed, worked, and immersed their entire lives in a brand.

    He'll get over it.
  • WhoDey

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    Mar 31, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    He'll get over it...I still don't get what being gay has to do with anything...
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    Mar 31, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    Your Dad is of the generation where if you were loyal to work, work was loyal to you. You picked a brand, and you stuck with it.

    I agree with what the others have said - it's not like Ford gave your Dad money for nothing. He worked for the money. Yes, they gave him a job, but he worked. So you owe them, and him, nothing.
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    Mar 31, 2012 3:33 AM GMT
    Maybe your Dad should have worded it..... "I know you are gay.. can't do much about that.. but at least you could drive a Ford! " icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 31, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    Sounds like your dad is a pretty decent guy. Its increasingly rare to find a loyal company man. In his mind, he wants the best for you, and he thinks thats Ford. Can ya blame a dude for wanting his son to drive a Mustang? No.

    By the way, I'm with you on the 5 speed.
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    Mar 31, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    perhaps the muffler pipe is bigger in a ford???


    it's all about size, ya know..
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    Mar 31, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    Good for you. Car is a very personal thing, especially for a guy.

    My ex-boyfriend went on a huge campaign to get me to buy a certain brand of luxury car. For him, this Brand X luxury car was a religion. He thought the whole world should drive only Brand X. That is great...for HIM. But its the opposite for me. I thought the image of Brand X carries lots of negative baggage, and plus I'd feel like a chump paying $100 for an oil change on Brand X.

    People like your dad and my ex are control freaks. Can you imagine somebody insisting that you eat food you don't like? How about listening to music that grates on your nerves?

    You have to listen to the little voice inside you that says, "I want that one." and ignore the critics. Its YOUR money, and YOU have to drive it everyday.