Going straight?

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    Mar 31, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    Has anyone ever been through such a horrific breakup with a guy, that you never wanted to date guys again?
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    Mar 31, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    Yes, it happens. Not necessarily from a break up but just the way guys act in general. I think it's natural, straight people also think of going gay sometimes.
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidWTF? icon_eek.gif

    So we're back to "being gay is a choice"? icon_confused.gif



    I'm not saying that my attraction for guys has disappeared(or is a choice), just that my desire to be more then friends with guys is a choice.
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    Neutral saidYes, it happens. Not necessarily from a break up but just the way guys act in general. I think it's natural, straight people also think of going gay sometimes.



    I guess you're right,
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    Mar 31, 2012 2:43 AM GMT
    texas11 saidHas anyone ever been through such a horrific breakup with a guy, that you never wanted to date guys again?


    I can see how you'd feel that way. Like Neutral said, some straight people go through a hellish break-up thinking similar and I think it's hurt and frustration talking. In the end though, gay or straight is not a sexual preference unless you're Bi. icon_wink.gif


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    Mar 31, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    never wanted to go str8 but have been hurt and lied too so bad that I just wanted to say fuck it & not bother dating at all.
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    Mar 31, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    atljoe74 saidnever wanted to go str8 but have been hurt and lied too so bad that I just wanted to say fuck it & not bother dating at all.


    I did that a few times..

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    Mar 31, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    I dunno about dating girls, I mean, you'd probably just want to take a break from dating in general because I think you're a good guy so you wouldn't want to lie and lead on a girl in that way.
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    Mar 31, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    I think the huge thing that I struggle with is that some guys like the idea of "open relationships" and I personally can't handle that baggage. It is a reoccurring theme I keep seeing when it comes to dating guys. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong place.

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    Mar 31, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    texas11 saidI think the huge thing that I struggle with is that some guys like the idea of "open relationships" and I personally can't handle that baggage. It is a reoccurring theme I keep seeing when it comes to dating guys. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong place.



    You probably are, I have no experience dating guys but have been on and talked to lots of gay guys from my country sites like A4A and what they described to me is that it's basically all for sex and also that the guys who are actually into relationships see it as having one guy who they want to be with that is good to them as well as a consistent sex partner while also gladly having their friends join in their relationship for threesomes, foursomes etc.

    So what I basically figured is that most guys (here at least) see being gay as the right to be crazy, sex wise, and have multiple partners and relationships being built on sex rather than love, and wanting variety. I know guys here get bored quickly of their significant other, even straight guys.
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    Mar 31, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    Yeah. If you are bi, going out with crazy, rude guys can sometimes make you wish for a girlfriend instead. I've considered it a few times. Gay life is not a bucket of daffodils sometimes.
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    Mar 31, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    Eww no girls have cooties, and that shit don't come off
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    Mar 31, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidThe older you get, the more of the quality guys will be in locked up long term monogamous relationships.

    It's like a time bomb until you're only surrounded by hoes and tricks.



    funny you say that, the guy I was dating was somewhat older then me; and so are the guys I usually date...and they seem to be the hoes and tricks.
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    Mar 31, 2012 6:28 AM GMT
    Ugh screw relationships right now, I too got burn from it...but I wouldn't go far start fucking vaginas, just give it time and focus on yourself for a change.
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    Mar 31, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    Vagina is cool though. PMS is also easier to deal with then trying to brush off your boyfriend juggling other guy's cock.
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    Mar 31, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    texas11 saidVagina is cool though. PMS is also easier to deal with then trying to brush off your boyfriend juggling other guy's cock.


    uh huh, like girls never cheat on their bf's... uh yeh, right....
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    Mar 31, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
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    texas11 saidVagina is cool though. PMS is also easier to deal with then trying to brush off your boyfriend juggling other guy's cock.


    uh huh, like girls never cheat on their bf's... uh yeh, right....



    Not saying they don't, just in this Western culture, in hetero relationships "open relationships" aren't really idolized.

    I don't have anything against open relationships. It's just if you say you're going to be monogamous then be monogamous. My dick head ex-boyfriend tried to use the excuse that everyone does it, even though we agreed to be monogamous.
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:31 AM GMT
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    texas11 saidHas anyone ever been through such a horrific breakup with a guy, that you never wanted to date guys again?

    Yes, five years ago, and I haven't been with a guy since. The thought was actually nauseating until maybe six months ago.




    Hmmmmm. So how did you occupy yourself through that entire time?
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:32 AM GMT
    Yup, thinking about going straight at the moment..... Less hassle I guess....would also like to know what other guys think about this..

    My rationale is you feel less lonely if you have companionship albeit a girl....who aren't that difficult to get or hold on too, since chicks are all for commitment.

    Yes I'd have to deal with "guava", but you can't have it all

    And kids....would like one or two in the near future
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:42 AM GMT
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    texas11 saidHas anyone ever been through such a horrific breakup with a guy, that you never wanted to date guys again?

    Yes, five years ago, and I haven't been with a guy since. The thought was actually nauseating until maybe six months ago.




    Hmmmmm. So how did you occupy yourself through that entire time?


    Why not ask him if he's right or left handed or both?
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:42 AM GMT
    I love these conversations about how there are no good guys out there. It makes me laugh, and a little sad. There are great guys out there, but they may not have the designer body or that perfect job or whatever else it takes so that when you bring them home to meet the parents they are so wonderful that somehow, in your mind, it lessens the blow of the fact you brought home a dude and not a woman. Look for the heart. Straight guys find themselves in dead end marriages because they marry the rack and not the woman. We can learn something from their mistakes.
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:52 AM GMT
    Cdnontherun saidI love these conversations about how there are no good guys out there. It makes me laugh, and a little sad. There are great guys out there, but they may not have the designer body or that perfect job or whatever else it takes so that when you bring them home to meet the parents they are so wonderful that somehow, in your mind, it lessens the blow of the fact you brought home a dude and not a woman. Look for the heart. Straight guys find themselves in dead end marriages because they marry the rack and not the woman. We can learn something from their mistakes.



    I never said anything about there being no good guys, I'm just exhausted from the behavior that some gay men tend to have. To assume that I'm tallying up qualities or have some kind or rubric when it comes to dating guys is a bit obnoxious. The point I'm trying to make is I want a monogamous partner, who has the same intention for me.
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    Mar 31, 2012 7:57 AM GMT
    I've also just completely given up. I’ve had some really difficult relationships in the past with all the same reasons that everyone else has mentioned. And my one good one … my last one of ten years is trying real ‘hard’ to go straight although his winkie is sure wired wrong to go straight. It’s OK I guess because he wanted to move someplace away from LA and I needed to come here to help out with my parents.

    I have my friends of all ages plus I’m real active so I’m mostly fine. Yes, I said mostly because there’s that one component of life that I’ll never have. I don’t even care which gender anymore. Give me a republican Susan Sarandon looking type and I’d be just as fine with that. Amazing how much freedom you have when you’re not horny anymore.

    What I have been thinking about that scares the crap out of me and does even more since I’m back here in Ohio to help take care of my elderly parents is how much they have to help each other and how much I help them. Who is going to pick me up when I fall and can’t get up? And I’ve picked my dad up a bunch of times. Do I just lay there and rot until someone finds my body years later and by then the carpet is ruined? The end game isn’t pretty.
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    Mar 31, 2012 8:00 AM GMT
    Cdnontherun saidI love these conversations about how there are no good guys out there. It makes me laugh, and a little sad. There are great guys out there, but they may not have the designer body or that perfect job or whatever else it takes so that when you bring them home to meet the parents they are so wonderful that somehow, in your mind, it lessens the blow of the fact you brought home a dude and not a woman. Look for the heart. Straight guys find themselves in dead end marriages because they marry the rack and not the woman. We can learn something from their mistakes.


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    Mar 31, 2012 8:19 AM GMT
    You know what else straight guys have? Kids, families that they surrounded by, not being ostracized.

    There are plenty of good guys out there.... Definately.... Question is when do I find him.... 40....50 years old

    Guys have come upto me I think they decent, and then they tell you they in a relationship....very in love..... But just wanna have sex..... That is just dispicable and clearly they don't care about their partners if that's what they willing to do