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    Aug 02, 2007 5:43 AM GMT
    There is a person on here with the following text in his profile:

    "Ive always thought that there was a match for us out in the world somewhere . But I look around on here and see coupled. or play together so a Question ? or a point to think about if you have a (PARTNER) WHY ARE YOU ON HERE"

    I don't want to pick on him by name, he can reply if he wants. The guy who has this in his profile posts a lot about fitness, so he obviously has an interest, but he seems to resent the presence of people in relationships.

    I just want to clear up something for him and anyone else who thinks that people who are in relationships somehow don't belong here, or are doing something wrong.

    1. As far as I am concerned this is a "Gay Fitness Community." Now people looking for dates may be looking for dates into fitness, and people looking for friends may be looking for workout partners. But this is not a "dating" site. If you want to date here, fine, but I might ask him, if I look in a profile and don't see anything about fitness, why are THEY here? There's nothing about this site that requires you to be into dating, just as there is no requirement that you like every sport.

    2. People in relationships aren't dead to the world. There is nothing wrong with looking at other men's profiles. The only way to tell if a man might be a good friend, workout buddy, mentor, etc, is to look in their profile. The main reason I come here is because my partner likes that I am getting bigger, and I want pointers, encouragement, etc from other gay men about bodybuilding, and how to be attractive as a gay man, as well as about relationships, sexuality, and society. I also think that from time to time I might have something to offer in the way of advice to other guys, especially the young ones. Being gay and into sports is hard, and seeing older guys that made it though college, coming out, and finding a relationship is something that I never had when I was their age.

    3. Being bitter about having people on the site who are NOT looking doesn't exactly make you look more attractive. It's fine that you are looking for potential partners on here, but please accept that this is a fitness site, and there is plenty of room for people here who have no interest in dating.
  • dfrourke

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    Aug 02, 2007 6:38 AM GMT
    ...well in a similar way...as a SINGLE guy...I had [as I am sure many do] people automatically assume I want to see naked butt and penis shots...and that I am on a website to eventually hook up...

    ...I certainly have websites I use for those purposes when I want to...but I enjoy reading the posts on this particular site...corresponding with guys I have run against...and picking up training tips to make my workouts more meaningful...

    ...so, YES, I am the guy who also reads the articles in PLAYBOY..er PLAYGIRL...

    - David
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    Aug 02, 2007 3:37 PM GMT
    Got to agree with you tanktop, nice and clear and to the point.


    Community- says it all really

  • DiverScience

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    Aug 02, 2007 3:40 PM GMT
    Agreed to all.

    Some of us wouldn't mind a date, but are largely here to talk to like minded people. I like to read and talk with people, which is good because htere are a lot more people here available for talking than there are for dating.

    I say, welcome coupled people, people looking for friends, etc.
  • liftordie

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    Aug 02, 2007 3:53 PM GMT
    my mother always told me that 'u are wasting your time if you try to put your VALUES on someone else' she is right. if an open relationship works for them then that is fine by me. a successful relationship basically is both parties getting out of it what they need. if they both agree to make it open then feelings have a much less chance of getting hurt and resentment is limited. everyone knows the rules up front. some couples keep it just between them. which is great also! once again whatever works for you WORKS FOR YOU!!
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    Aug 02, 2007 4:21 PM GMT
    This is not a dating site, it is a fitness site. Though some people view it otherwise. I wrote an email to man who seemed likable enough. He listed his likes and dislikes, but it should have tipped me off that nearly all of them could be traced back quickly enough to his sexual proclivities.
    I recieved a short, tart response in between, somwhere alone the lines of "we are not a match". Well no duh. All I was doing is saying hi.
    I'm on here for the sense of communitiy, to find like-minded men with an interest in fitness. And since I have a dick with its only little tiny brain, I like to look at good looking men. This is not an issue for me and my partner.
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 02, 2007 4:26 PM GMT
    Absolutely true.

    I am here thousand of mileS from the US. My chance of meeting/dating other Real Gay Jock is really as low as 1%. But I still enjoy , this site. I find the guys here inspiring, good look , share same interest with me. This side is the first and ONLY site I participant in. It fact it so addictive (the forum I mean), that this site is the first thing I do after my morning jog, and after dinner. Even when I am travelling I look for internet cafe , just to read the forum.

    The inspiration from this site have make me more determined to get in shape so I can at least feel that I belong with all this wonderful jock. Maybe more guys with partner should join in, so you guys can share your relationship story, fitness programs and getting in shape experience for the benefit of other. Big Joey is in a relationship, and he sure is a big inspiration and have a lot of fans here(me included).
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    Aug 02, 2007 5:05 PM GMT
    I came for the chicks.
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    Aug 02, 2007 6:23 PM GMT
    Hey Tanktop,

    I agree with you 100%. I have also come on here more so for the advice that other members of this site have given. And so far they have all been working out. I have also met 2 guys from this site that we are now good friends and exchange tips here and there about different work out and which times are the best.

    Keep up the great work.

    Later,

    Leo
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    Aug 02, 2007 6:40 PM GMT
    tanktop, right on!!

    I still think some people are unclear on the basic philosophy of this sie.

    John
  • jc_online

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    Aug 02, 2007 7:23 PM GMT
    McGay- you crack me up!
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    Aug 02, 2007 7:55 PM GMT
    Right on. If I can add a furthermore, the site is literally branded a gay fitness community. Since the Internet is also my career, I have a bit of a nit to pick with those who allege that if a person is on the Internet in any sense at all, then it follows that they must be looking to meet guys. This ain't Manhunt.
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    Aug 02, 2007 7:59 PM GMT
    Ya, one problem there tanktop. There are no gay dating sites!

    I mean let me throw out a hypothetical here. Say such a site exists. For the sake of allegory let's call it Gay.com. We fill l it with a bunch of guys looking to date, converse, and hook up. Just listen to the sound of that. It is ridiculous, it would never work.

    oh.... it's really a site?... sorry, my bad.

    Part of the problem is that every gay site has a dating component practically. Though I haven't looked I am sure you can go to the HRC site and cyber-snog with Joe Solmones;e or an intern with his pic at least.

    I like this site because all that stuff is peripheral and my partner likes it for the same reason.
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    Aug 02, 2007 9:41 PM GMT
    Yeah, pretty much agree with everyone. One of the reasons I do like this site is I don't have to feel 'guilty' being on it. He's not the jealous type but my conscience doesn't have to worry about what I'm up to on here!
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    Aug 02, 2007 10:04 PM GMT
    My life has been a continuous sex party since finding RealCock. Before I joined RealCock, I only had sex 2 or 3 times a week. Now, I can't keep track. Thank you, RealCock.

  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 02, 2007 11:17 PM GMT
    OW,

    Just like somebody ask Tina Turner, I gonna ask you....when are you gonna slow down...hopefully the answer...I just getting started. Now that something to look forward for when I am in my 80's.
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    Aug 03, 2007 12:05 AM GMT
    jc_online, your positive review of my performance here has earned you a place of honor on my hot list.

    :D
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    Aug 03, 2007 12:30 AM GMT
    "ust like somebody ask Tina Turner, I gonna ask you....when are you gonna slow down...hopefully the answer...I just getting started. Now that something to look forward for when I am in my 80's"

    Mmmmm, yeah, Zak. This proud Mary keeps on rollin'.
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    Aug 03, 2007 12:55 AM GMT
    I just had an argument about the idea that every gay site is only about hookups. My experience has shown this to not be true (at least for me). I'm glad to see that I've got a little backup on this here.

    However, I will say that I've actually made real friends on Manhunt, but that's beside the point.

    As far as this site goes, I don't care about what people think it is or isn't. It's what it is to me.

    It inspires me by seeing bodies that give me a reason to try harder. It allows me to express my opinion with others with different perspectives. I can laugh at some truely funny guys who are smart, hot, and funny as hell. (You know who you are - well I know I do.)

    I get great advice, and I learn. I can appreciate a great set of unlocked picts as much as I can a great orchestral score of Korngold, a witty comment about by or about Dorothy Parker, or the suggestion of a better way to work on my serratus, etc.

    So if your single or in a relationship, open or monogomous, etc. Who cares! If you don't like what I have to say, I don't care, I'll still be here and hopefully, so will Obscenewish, McGay, Tanktop, NRG579, Crimthann, etc., etc.
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    Aug 03, 2007 12:58 AM GMT
    all my kiss are belong to you
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    Aug 03, 2007 1:21 AM GMT
    Brilliant! I forgot about AMBABTY!
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    Aug 03, 2007 1:22 AM GMT
    Sorry for the dyslexia, AYBABTU!
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    Aug 03, 2007 2:23 AM GMT
    I think it could be all things to all people.

    Mostly I love the site because it's focus on fitness to be the primary topic.

    It's sexy but it's healthy!

    I have a partner but we are pretty open. I like to flirt here but usually i'm just looking at the menu and not ordering.
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    Aug 03, 2007 5:28 AM GMT
    I don't think profiles would include designation of sexual role were sex not on the minds of many members here. Then again, maybe by position it means to ask if you're a quarterback, linebacker, etc.
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    Aug 03, 2007 5:31 AM GMT
    Wait, is this new lingo, OW?

    Is a center a top? A guard a bottom? A left wing just a confused straight guy? My world of classification is falling apart as we speak.

    Seriously though -- maybe I'm just 27, or maybe the Greeks and Romans actually had it right. Of course sex follows fitness. There is something inherenly appealing and sexy about a fit body. Granted, it shouldn't be the primary focus for a website organized toward fitness, but it's going to come up in the course of free testosterone floating about....