Rules of Dating

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    Jul 13, 2008 11:52 AM GMT
    I am newly single after being in a relationship for two years. I may have forgotten some of the basic rules of dating. I need some refreshers. When is it a good time to either give your phone number or ask for theirs with out looking like a freak or stalker? Share any of your nightmare dates too. Dont want to head down any wrong roads. How do you get out of a date that is going badly? Please share your thoughts!
  • GQjock

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    Jul 13, 2008 1:18 PM GMT
    Rules of engagement are as follows
    To answer some of your questions

    Give your number or ask for his when you get into a private engaging conversation
    doesn't matter where it is...when you're interested and when you can tell he is too
    by how he gets fairly close to you when he talks
    looks you in the eye
    and seems genuinely interested in what you have to say

    Getting out of a date that is going badly...
    depends on how and why...
    if you're just not interested or you see that he isn't just be honest and say thanx it was nice meeting you
    ... but if he's an ass etiquette need not apply
    this is where cellphones come into play
    I once was unfortunate enough to have met a guy who was as cute and sexy as hell but was so tweaked out on Coke that he couldn't string two sentences together
    RING* "Oh sorry my dog got behind the wheel of the lawnmower and accidently mowed down one of my neighbor's kids. Gotta go but it's been fun. See ya."

    It's all playing by ear and how you feel things are going
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    Jul 13, 2008 1:26 PM GMT
    just remember that you have to take things a step at a time. Newly single people seem to always for get to take a step back and not jump right back into a realrionship. Even if u are happy to be out if your last relationship you need time to mentally heal before plunging headlong into anotherone.

    I also agree with the above advice and want to add that dating is a full contact sport and the rules need not apply. Do what feels right to you and things will work out how they are supposed to.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 13, 2008 1:34 PM GMT
    I tend to agree with that was said above... I think you are already on the right track, your "thinking" about what is appropriate or not. I would take some of what your going to hear in this thread, consider it and apply it to your personal circumstances, I think you will do well.

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    Jul 13, 2008 3:04 PM GMT
    Usually the exchange of numbers has already taken place prior to the date. At the end of the date is usually when you throw in something like give me a call or I'd like to do this again do you care if I give you a call?

    Avoid talking about past relationships on a first date. If you catch him talking about a recent split thats a red light in my book. It can quickly turn into a therapy session and thats not what you want. You want someone who has exchanged the luggage for a balanced life. Talking about a recent split is an indication they aren't quite ready to foster a new relationship. Could be a great new "platonic" friend but on that first date talking about a recent lover is a deal breaker for me.

    Someone who plays with their cell and keeps either texting, calling, and answering. They may be sending you a signal by doing that. It's rude as hell but it's as clear as it can get they aren't giving you their complete attention. I have ended a date when this has happened in the past.

    How to get out of a bad date? Depends how bad it is. Someone playing on a cell like I said is a good example of ending a date. If you want out of a date try it yourself. If it's boring as hell and the conversation is strained a date like that is manageable. Finish it out but don't say give me a call or lets do this again when the date is over. If you just can't stand the guy and really feel like you can't see the date all the way through be polite, direct, and honest. Just tell them you get the feeling they aren't enjoying the date either so you are going to do both yourself and them a favor and call it a night. Nice meeting you. If you were the one who set up the date pay for it. If they set it up offer to pay half and half the tip. Keep it simple, and get the hell out of there LOL

    Go home or a club where your friends are. Roll your eyes and swear you will never do that again and within ten minutes start flirting with a hot guy and exchange numbers and try it all again icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 13, 2008 5:21 PM GMT
    They haven't changed at all!! Just keep this in mind, NEVER be afraid to approach someone, at minimum what do have to lose? NOTHING yet EVERYTHING to gain!! Have fun!!
  • DCEric

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    Jul 13, 2008 6:03 PM GMT
    GQjock said
    I once was unfortunate enough to have met a guy who was as cute and sexy as hell but was so tweaked out on Coke that he couldn't string two sentences together
    RING* "Oh sorry my dog got behind the wheel of the lawnmower and accidently mowed down one of my neighbor's kids. Gotta go but it's been fun. See ya."


    Dog not really drive down kids? You not tell me truth. Oh.

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    I couldn't stop myself.