Need some advice...

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    Apr 02, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    I'am new here and looking for some advice...first off I'm pretty much in the closet only a couple of people suspect I'm Bi or Gay, I even really don't know...but I have been leaning towards guys lately and I have had girlfriends in the past and I enjoyed it...I'm a masculine muscular guy and act straight, so people don't think I'm gay/bi..Well recently there has been this guy I have had my eye on that I work with him and when he started a couple of people thought he might be Gay as he kinda gave that vibe, he stares and shows a little bit of gay mannerisms once and a while...he will talk about wanting a GF and stuff related to it and he talks about sports. I'm also not 'out' at work and theres people have shown be homophobic towards this guy based on his actions and staring, this guys stares at me and has touched me on the shoulder a few times...one time he caught me off guard and i moved quickly and he said 'what you dont like being touched today'??? I have been dropping hints that I'am Bi or gay and he flashes looks when I saw something, I so want to ask him...when I talk to him I make sure I look him right in the eyes and hold it there for awhile I wonder If he's picking up on my vibe towards him??? hes cute and has a witty personality...there is a age difference though hes 23 and I'am 34..then again thats just a number sometimes...what should I do..? he has FB and I was thinking of friending him, but if I do friend him on FB I will have to tell him not to tell co workers as they may think we have something going on...any advice would help! Thanks
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    Apr 02, 2012 10:26 AM GMT
    Add him on FB and take it from there. Be conscious of the fact that you work together and that if this should go wrong, you'll still have to face him probably on a daily basis. But I wouldn't let that keep you from taking further steps icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 02, 2012 12:00 PM GMT
    Go out for a beer after work.... he sounds like a 2 beer guy and it will all come out. Don't ask if he is gay.... ask if he has ever done it with or wants to do it with a guy..... Good luck
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    Apr 02, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    robbee333 saidGo out for a beer after work.... he sounds like a 2 beer guy and it will all come out. Don't ask if he is gay.... ask if he has ever done it with or wants to do it with a guy..... Good luck

    I agree with the beer approach, something any 2 guys can enjoy together, even if their orientations turn out to be different. A beer while "shootin' the shit" as we used to say is something I've done with plenty of straight men, since I wasn't planning to have sex with any guy right on the bar anyway (for that we'd go to a leather club). icon_rolleyes.gif

    However, I do have to ask how the OP found RJ, and what made him think this was the place for such questions. Especially since the primary purposes of the site are clearly stated, fitness & health, and don't specifically include sexual matters.

    ABOUT US: RealJock is an online meeting place for gay men looking to connect with other gay men who share their interest in fitness and a healthy life. The site provides members with all the tools they need to meet other jocks who share their interests, including the best the web has to offer in profiles, photos, instant messaging and mail.

    RealJock's members can also peruse how-to advice on workouts, nutrition, and other topics from leading experts in the field, read about gay athletes who are making a difference in their sport, and learn about gay sporting events and groups in their area.


    I ask because lately we've seen a flood of brand new members whose first post isn't a question about workout routines, but rather MAKEOUT routines. And their rather lengthy stories all have very similar themes. And then we seldom see them again here. So just wondering, and maybe the OP can enlighten us.
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    Apr 02, 2012 12:28 PM GMT
    robbee333 saidGo out for a beer after work.... he sounds like a 2 beer guy and it will all come out. Don't ask if he is gay.... ask if he has ever done it with or wants to do it with a guy..... Good luck


    This!

    Both get drunk and everything will come out icon_razz.gif
    The solution to every problem is alcohol icon_smile.gif