So called "Straight guys" who won't date but will only have sex w/ guys?

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    Apr 02, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    I met and have been fooling around with this guy (and I am sure we've all come across one of these guys) who claims even though he fools around that he's straight because he still dates women and says he would NEVER date a guy but will only fuck them. icon_eek.gif

    I just want to be like dude if you're in bed with guys and your enjoying it and it wasn't just a one time curiosity thing then you're not straight you're at least bi get over it. I feel like its him just trying to make excuses for himself because he's not comfortable.

    What do you think?
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    Apr 02, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    I think these men arent worth my time. Anyone, gay straight or bi, who puts me in the category of "fuck but not date" does not deserve to sleep with me.

    If he is straight, he is sleeping with guys because women wont, and that is just sad. It would be like you having sex with a woman because a gay man wouldnt put out for ya.

    There I said it.
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    Apr 02, 2012 6:52 AM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI met and have been fooling around with this guy (and I am sure we've all come across one of these guys) who claims even though he fools around that he's straight because he still dates women and says he would NEVER date a guy but will only fuck them. icon_eek.gif

    I just want to be like dude if you're in bed with guys and your enjoying it and it wasn't just a one time curiosity thing then you're not straight you're at least bi get over it. I feel like its him just trying to make excuses for himself because he's not comfortable.

    What do you think?


    Yes. They are daft. They are not worth your time.


    Im gonna make I sure I avoid these types. I seem to keep finding them, or they come to me. Last weeks one was just such a cocky cunt. So no more.

    We deserve better.
  • Will123

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    Apr 02, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    I'd say maybe human sexuality is more complicated than Straight/Gay/Bi - He's obviously Bi because he enjoys both, yet the cultural connotations of being into other guys isn't exactly welcoming so he prefers to refer to himself as straight. He may only be able to get along with female personalities for relationships --but he also enjoys the physical aspects of being with a man.

    Got to feel sorry for people like that -- doesn't seem like they will ever truly be satisfied with who they are with.
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    Apr 02, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    Bipolar Bisexual, that guy probably is.

    And I am more than willing to return the favour of fucking the socks off that kind of guy, if only to let him know at some point that I've probably given him a better time stuffing his ass than he'll likely get from plowing Rhoda-Jane Rottencrotch's loose-lipped maw.
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    Apr 02, 2012 8:25 AM GMT
    lately i had my share of these types, they vary from the i broke up with my girlfriend and i just want to take it up the ass to know how it feels but i am straight kind, to the i want to see your dick but would never do anything sexual with another guy type. But of course they are straight (is there a font for sarcasm?). icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 02, 2012 9:26 AM GMT
    Think about it this way: there are likely some types of guys that you wouldn't be interested in dating, but would be fine with sexing, yeah?

    So for these "straight" guys, it's like that... they're just not romantically interested in guys, but don't mind sexing them.

    Sexuality is a lot more complicated than the simple "gay/straight/bi" labels we've made up for it.
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    Apr 02, 2012 9:32 AM GMT
    thenes saidSexuality is a lot more complicated than the simple "gay/straight/bi" labels we've made up for it.


    Labels are for cans, not for people.
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    Apr 02, 2012 9:33 AM GMT
    having many Bona fide straight mates over the years, I can tell you they don't do such things. But..............our half brothers the bisexuals, or pseudo straights if you like do; the confusion they create.
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    Apr 02, 2012 9:50 AM GMT
    turbobilly said
    thenes saidSexuality is a lot more complicated than the simple "gay/straight/bi" labels we've made up for it.


    Labels are for cans, not for people.


    labels do give us a foothold in a complex world. And any movment that has a impact develops an identity-or-labels- in the public mind.

    Thats why we have Bona Fide Homosexuals, to remove us from the sins of the bisexual, and pseudo straights, as many for political reasions want to blur the line, by labeling all bisexuals as gay and shoving us all under the one banner/label; when they are not! Thus their sins are not ours; yes we need labels, as the gay communities has never been one.
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    Apr 02, 2012 10:08 AM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI met and have been fooling around with this guy (and I am sure we've all come across one of these guys) who claims even though he fools around that he's straight because he still dates women and says he would NEVER date a guy but will only fuck them. icon_eek.gif

    I just want to be like dude if you're in bed with guys and your enjoying it and it wasn't just a one time curiosity thing then you're not straight you're at least bi get over it. I feel like its him just trying to make excuses for himself because he's not comfortable.

    What do you think?


    Not sure what the problem is here... he wants to fuck but won't have a relationship with guys. He's been honest about it. If you don't like it, don't bend over for him...

    Next!
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    Apr 02, 2012 10:55 AM GMT
    You can run into this type in any age bracket, socio-economic level, race, etc.
    When I first came out I met what I thought was a great guy at the gym. We went to lunch,, made a date to meet and banged the hell out of each other.

    He then told me that was going to be 'it' He was a VP at a big Mutual Fund house and planned on getting married to a woman and having kids, but wanted to have sex with me or someone 'like' me every week or so just to keep the pipes clean..whatever that meant.

    I actually went along with this for about 5-6 months and then realized that I was NEVER going to find a long term relationship while I was the FuckBuddy of this nutcase.

    I did ask him once if he was bi and he waffled. I then asked him the big question. "What or who do you think about when you masturbate alone?"

    The answer was cock...GAY GAY GAY

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    Apr 02, 2012 12:32 PM GMT
    Why does this guy need your labeling? So what if he doesn't think he's gay...
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    Apr 02, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    Well, these are the guys I prefer to hook up with, actually. I get along really well with bi guys too. I won't go into the whole labeling thing but I find that many openly gay guys bring their needs, wants, and baggage to the very first date/hook up. That's why you see the "no drama" comments on all the sites because of the attachment that happens when a guy is really attracted to you.

    Gays look for love. When I meet these guys, its about the hookup and physical chemistry. As we get used to each other, your personalities start to show a little too. If you look at it as a potential friendship (not a "needship"), it keeps things light versus you feeling "used". Friends w/ benefits is the seed for a good relationship, not all these empte coffee shop dating events. Every person you interact with is a potential friend, if you know how to be patient and how to be a good friend. You build a little trust and once you cross the trust threshold, all bets are off. If you two have good chemistry and trust, the worst you'll have is a good friend with benefit... that could turn into more later.

    But no. What we do is we see a guy, knowing he's closeted and just wants to get his rocks off. We hook up. It's great. He goes back to his world and we start to feel lonely and want true love. We start thinking about him a little more and we like the texts we get from him when he wants to hook up. We get our little girly hearts involved because we think we deserve love and desparately want to cuddle and blah... its one big fugging disaster. We've lost a good fuckbuddy and potential friend with benefit, yet we're still lonely. Then come the "Is it just me?" "What did I do wrong?" "I hate bi guys" posts. Rinse and reapeat....

    My two cents.
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    Apr 02, 2012 1:16 PM GMT
    Chainers saidI think these men arent worth my time. Anyone, gay straight or bi, who puts me in the category of "fuck but not date" does not deserve to sleep with me.

    If he is straight, he is sleeping with guys because women wont, and that is just sad. It would be like you having sex with a woman because a gay man wouldnt put out for ya.

    There I said it.

    Agreed. Although fortunately, perhaps because of my age and less attractive appearance, I've never been bothered by these alleged straight guys who treat gays like prostitutes. And even if I had been approached, I hope I would have had the self-respect to walk away.
  • Aquanerd

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    Apr 02, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    Sounds like there is a difference of opinion of what "being gay" means.

    If you compartmentalize sex and love, then I can see how someone that enjoys sex with other men, yet doesn't have romantic feelings for men can consider himself Straight.

    If you are not interested in him for anything other than sex, then who cares. If you only have sex with guys that have emotional and romantic feelings for you, then you have a problem.
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    Apr 02, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    There's a lot of those guys here who are confused in my opinion and/or don't want to come out and say they're gay and instead opt to just say that 'guy's asses are tight' or 'girls can't be as rough as guys' or some crap like that.

    I'd never want to be with a guy like that ever, and sadly the idiotic gay community where I am just gives in to that because they just want sex...
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    May 02, 2012 8:33 AM GMT
    Confused nasty crap. I have had too many of those guys, And not many good ones, nor support. icon_sad.gif

    Keep ignoring... keep excluding, ignoring. be happy, and evil.

    Its all people seem to be able to do, well I hate it. rock off. icon_sad.gif