How do you deal with someone who's lying to you?

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    Apr 02, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    I don't know if its my P.I training or just life experience but I guess i'm somewhat intuitive, although I feel we all have it. A vibe that for whatever reason, someone is being dishonest to you. I've been in contact with men who lied about their intentions (they were looking for friendship/dating) yet always wanted to meet me at their place after 11pm ( nice try guys) lied about their jobs, if they're in a relationship or seeing other people, and the list goes on and on. Anywhos back then, I always enjoy breaking them down until they realize that i know they're full of BS

    however now, I decided that even though I know they're bs'ing I have better use of my time than to entertain it. I just walk away

    So how do YOU deal with people who lie to you? and what types of lie will cause you to drop the person altogether?

    Thank you and remember to be aware is to be alive =)
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    Apr 02, 2012 11:43 PM GMT
    gut and intuition are used interchangeably from what i can remember and thanks for the compliment =D
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    Apr 03, 2012 11:55 AM GMT
    Drop immediately. Not worth time or effort.
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    Apr 03, 2012 12:13 PM GMT
    Sometimes...I walk away...most of the time...I let them know, they did not get away with it...
  • bmoney1

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    Apr 03, 2012 12:31 PM GMT
    Do not deal with liars. It will never end up the way you want it to.
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    Apr 03, 2012 12:46 PM GMT
    It depends on who's lying. If it's someone about whom I don't care or someone who doesn't have any significance in or impact on my life, I generally don't give a rat's ass if he/she lies--as long as I'm not prejudiced or injured by the lie. People lie all the time, and trying to figure out if they're lying to you is counterproductive and a total waste of energy. With the people I love or with whom I share a special connection or relationship, my expectations are completely different. I do care a lot when they lie, and my reaction to their lie would depend on how material the lie was. I do rely on my instincts, combined with the facts available at the time, to determine whether someone is lying and whether the lie is significant enough to warrant an adverse or remedial reaction on my part.
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    Apr 04, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    All good answers and yeah the most painful and aggravating situations are when a very close person to you is lying and you know they are and they continue to do so lol
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    Apr 04, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    I firmly believe in the old saying:

    You will rise or fall to the level of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

    Stay away from the ones you've experienced. Based on your profile, you sound like a grounded, smart and ambitious guy. Start hanging around exclusively with people like yourself!
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    Apr 04, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    Don't deal with liars. I let them leave.
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    Apr 04, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    Leave
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    Apr 04, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    You call them out on there Lies
    regardless if you think it is something petty
    or something large or over the top

    live by the sword--- die by the sword
  • FRE0

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    Apr 04, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    If the person who is lying is someone you have to deal with from time to time, such as perhaps a relative or coworker, sometimes you can just ignore the lies and not trust them. Keep giving them more and more rope until it becomes inescapably obvious that they are lying. Then, don't directly confront them. Instead, act as though you are confused and misunderstood and have them explain the inconsistencies without directly letting on that you know they have been lying. Make them get tangled up in their own words without appearing to be doing so intentionally. If you are clever, you can cause them to embarrass themselves in such a way that it doesn't appear to be deliberate.

    Most people don't have good enough memories to lie consistently.
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    Apr 05, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    FRE0 saidIf the person who is lying is someone you have to deal with from time to time, such as perhaps a relative or coworker, sometimes you can just ignore the lies and not trust them. Keep giving them more and more rope until it becomes inescapably obvious that they are lying. Then, don't directly confront them. Instead, act as though you are confused and misunderstood and have them explain the inconsistencies without directly letting on that you know they have been lying. Make them get tangled up in their own words without appearing to be doing so intentionally. If you are clever, you can cause them to embarrass themselves in such a way that it doesn't appear to be deliberate.

    Most people don't have good enough memories to lie consistently.


    That was me back in the day. I would set them up to the point where they dig themselves into a hole and watch them suffer trying to crawl out. Those were the good ole days. I can do it discreetly but I always enjoyed giving them that look that said "YOu messed with the bull"

    but yeah many people do not have a good memory to stay consistent with their lies