Who Initiates the Second Date

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    Apr 03, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    This has always baffled me. You're doing the whole online dating thing and you're invited to meet for drinks, dinner, whatever. Who's supposed to initiate the second date (if there will be one)- the invitee or the inviter????
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    Apr 03, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    Why not take it up yourself to do it? Why wait for response, if he says no then oh well if yes then great.
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    Apr 03, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    You should, if he doesn't before you. Ultimately its either he want to go out on a 2nd or he does not. Sometimes theres that awkward moment when you wait for him to ask you, while he waits for you to ask him.
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    Apr 03, 2012 5:29 AM GMT
    and.... we're back in HS! icon_rolleyes.gif

    #firstworldproblem
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    Apr 03, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    i_VAN saidWhy not take it up yourself to do it? Why wait for response, if he says no then oh well if yes then great.

    +1

    Why does it matter who asks?
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    Apr 03, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    i_VAN saidWhy not take it up yourself to do it? Why wait for response, if he says no then oh well if yes then great.

    +1

    Why does it matter who asks?


    Because if he asks, I know he's at least genuinely interested himself at that moment, not just polite.

    It secures insecure people. Duh.

    ... We haven't all been MOTD.
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    Apr 03, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    willocdh saidThis has always baffled me. You're doing the whole online dating thing and you're invited to meet for drinks, dinner, whatever. Who's supposed to initiate the second date (if there will be one)- the invitee or the inviter????


    The man does.icon_idea.gif
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    Apr 03, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    I always just do it first
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    Apr 04, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    Why does it matter who initiates it? You shouldn't hesitate to ask for a second date if there's mutual attraction. We lose too many opportunities because we look for protocols and SOPs to follow when there's really none.