Buy-Out Accepted...Now What?

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    Jul 14, 2008 7:49 AM GMT
    My ex from a 19 yr LTR accepted my buy-out offer. Now what do I do? The discussions have been civil so far--as has been our awkward relationship since the break up over a year ago. He wants some furniture (that's cool). Our finances are separate. We just have to split the house, and he has to move (I'll need a roommate to afford this).

    Anyone have experience with this? What is the best way to make the break clean & tidy while limiting the ill-will?

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    Jul 20, 2008 9:38 PM GMT
    Hi there. I'm also waiting for a reply... I felt compelled to post here so this thread will go on top again and hopefully be seen by the right persons to help you out. How are you? x
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    Jul 20, 2008 9:42 PM GMT
    you are lucky if your finances are separate. no worries.. When things are communal property then you are fucked.
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    Jul 20, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    I don't have any answers. My longest relationship was 8 years. 19 years is still an accomplishment even if it ultimately ended this was. Good luck there sexy guy!icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 20, 2008 10:43 PM GMT
    No experience here, just wanted to wish you good luck with all this
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:18 AM GMT
    I sure appreciate the encouragement, guys. My ex- travels a lot, so communications between us move kinda slow.

    It looked for a few days like the loan was in trouble, but now things are back on track. The "close" could come in a few weeks. He's been acting like he's concerned for my welfare (he knows it will be a stretch for me). Because of that, I'm feeling probably too inclined to be gentle & accomodating for needs he might have.
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:26 AM GMT
    That's borderline bittersweet and sad. Hope you two are well. x