I'm just going to stay single forever!

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    Apr 05, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    I'm a college guy and I'm so sick of guys constantly putting me down and screwing me over and playing games... I am not by any means a hard person to be around and am caring and would give anybody the shirt right off of my back, but for some reason guys just can't see that. When I was younger before I came out I wasn't really into the dating scene and was much happier, now that I'm out (contradictory to what you'd think) I am much more unhappy now that I've been trying to get involved with guys.

    You ever feel this way?
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    Apr 05, 2012 6:04 PM GMT
    nope
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    Apr 05, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    got an issue, heres a tissue
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    Apr 05, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    Me too! icon_mad.gif

    single fo life dawg
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    Apr 05, 2012 8:08 PM GMT
    Probably smart if you keep running into people who are screwing you over. Get your life together, do things you like to do. This need to couple up is kind of stupid anyway, but maybe while you are out enjoying yourself being single, down the road a bit, you might find a mature guy who actually has his life together too and things will click.
    I never get the need to go from one relationship to another, never taking months or years off to break, breathe and grow. So many people need to have a partner and they keep following the same screwy patterns. Good idea to give up on dating and let yourself enjoy life as a single man.
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    Apr 05, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    Hey collegedude, dont beat yourself up mate, I used to think and feel like you do, and i still do sometimes. I'm not sure if this is how you feel exactly, but i used to compromise myself just to care for others, but in return, people called me annoying and so on. As a result, i became more and more reserved. perhaps i was trying a little too hard just to get acknowledgement of my existence. in the end, still no one cared. it wasnt easy at all.

    right now, i am slightly more mature than the old me and i began to reflect on what happened to me before. to my realization, i was expecting others to treat me the same way as i do to them, it is not wrong. but having expectations onto others is not right either.

    truth is, no one will really look out for you except your family and some good friends. I'm not sure how this is going to work for you, but there is really no one else that will be there for you other than your family and close friends, they are the only ones who will look out for you and care for you. instead of caring for those people who will put us down, we might as well invest such energy to someone who will appreciate it, right? it took me 15 months and 8000 miles to realize that.

    I cant tell you exactly what to do about as i believe we are both in different settings and places. and i wish you good luck, drop me a mail if you still find it hard to cope with.

    and staying single forever? well, it is not so bad once you get used to it, no drama, just live the life you want to live, it is quite blissful sometimes to be honest. take care!
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    Apr 05, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidProbably smart if you keep running into people who are screwing you over. Get your life together, do things you like to do. This need to couple up is kind of stupid anyway, but maybe while you are out enjoying yourself being single, down the road a bit, you might find a mature guy who actually has his life together too and things will click.
    I never get the need to go from one relationship to another, never taking months or years off to break, breathe and grow. So many people need to have a partner and they keep following the same screwy patterns. Good idea to give up on dating and let yourself enjoy life as a single man.


    This....

    I find everthing goes in cycles. Sometimes you need to take a step back, relax, and just see what life brings your way. Enjoy that with or without a partner at your side.
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    Apr 05, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    You will know it when the right guy comes along. When he does come, treasure him and love him like you've never loved anyone before.
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    Apr 05, 2012 9:49 PM GMT
    Take a chill pill and wait it out
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    Apr 06, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    well why dont you stop concentrating on boys and concentrate on you, but keep trying even if you keep failing a million times eventually you will score, just keep trying and don give up, and try not to go over boredicon_smile.gif
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    Apr 06, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    Claystation saidMe too! icon_mad.gif

    single fo life dawg
    Hugs* Never ever let yourselves feel this way!
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    Apr 06, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    yeh0_Oshua said
    Claystation saidMe too! icon_mad.gif

    single fo life dawg
    Hugs* Never ever let yourselves feel this way!


    hes actually dating me on the down low, it suppose to be a secreticon_razz.gif
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    Apr 06, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    archon said
    yeh0_Oshua said
    Claystation saidMe too! icon_mad.gif

    single fo life dawg
    Hugs* Never ever let yourselves feel this way!


    hes actually dating me on the down low, it suppose to be a secreticon_razz.gif
    What else are you doing you're not supposed to be that would make someone feel they should be single forever?
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    Apr 06, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    yeh0_Oshua said
    archon said
    yeh0_Oshua said
    Claystation saidMe too! icon_mad.gif

    single fo life dawg
    Hugs* Never ever let yourselves feel this way!


    hes actually dating me on the down low, it suppose to be a secreticon_razz.gif
    What else are you doing you're not supposed to be that would make someone feel they should be single forever?


    hes a little traumatize from our dating but he will be back to normal in no timeicon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 06, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    Claystation saidMe too! icon_mad.gif

    single fo life dawg


    Nope. Does not compute.
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    Apr 06, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    OP: You're young, and probably so are the guys you are trying to date. Everyone at that age is still trying to figure out what they want. In some cases, they probably aren't ready to for anything serious. They're young and they want to have fun. Just give it time. Focus on other areas of your life, but don't give up on relationships completely.

    I feel this way sometimes too, even at my age. I guess it's the lone wolf side of me. (That probably makes me sound more badass than I really am.) I just have to remind myself that I don't want to be alone forever. I've always ultimately wanted to be in a relationship. That's what makes me happiest. Finding the right guy hasn't been easy, but that doesn't deter me. I just have to keep trying and learning from my experiences as I go along.
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    Apr 06, 2012 4:00 AM GMT



    //HUGS*
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    Apr 06, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    archon saidhes a little traumatize from our dating but he will be back to normal in no timeicon_twisted.gif
    I won't pretend to know, but he's cuddle enough for a hug. Don't go breaking hearts; doesn't matter who the guy is or what he's done. Let him know what it means to be a man again!
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    Apr 06, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    that makes two of us. which isn't all that bad really, because at the end of the day all guys are manipulative asstards. we're the real winners here.
    cheers (:
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    Apr 06, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI'm a college guy and I'm so sick of guys constantly putting me down and screwing me over and playing games... I am not by any means a hard person to be around and am caring and would give anybody the shirt right off of my back, but for some reason guys just can't see that. When I was younger before I came out I wasn't really into the dating scene and was much happier, now that I'm out (contradictory to what you'd think) I am much more unhappy now that I've been trying to get involved with guys.

    You ever feel this way?


    yah
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    Apr 06, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Bmwkid92 saidgot an issue, heres a tissue


    That's funnnnnnnyyyyyy!
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    Apr 06, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    Bmwkid92 saidgot an issue, heres a tissue


    Just for clarification, the tissue is for masturbating into. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 06, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    OP, you need to figure out why you keep attracting these situations. And you need to figure out why your own opinion of yourself appears to be contradictory to how your dates see you. I'm not trying to be mean-spirited by saying this, but sometimes, it's hard to self-analyze and/or be honest with ourselves. Once you figure out why there seems to be that disconnect, you can stop feeling like a victim of these circumstances.

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    Apr 06, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    Bmwkid92 saidgot an issue, heres a tissue


    i am so using this as a quick ticket out of comforting people in pain next time just don't feel like it. lol
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    Apr 06, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI'm a college guy and I'm so sick of guys constantly putting me down and screwing me over and playing games... I am not by any means a hard person to be around and am caring and would give anybody the shirt right off of my back, but for some reason guys just can't see that. When I was younger before I came out I wasn't really into the dating scene and was much happier, now that I'm out (contradictory to what you'd think) I am much more unhappy now that I've been trying to get involved with guys.

    You ever feel this way?


    To be complete honest I kind of feel the same way man, but I just distract myself with school & tennis cuz I know that the right person will appear when I stop looking for him,so I just live my life & focus on me and my career, cuz I believe Mr. Right will pop up out of no where when I least expect it. So man just focus on you man & I'm sure that when you stop looking for a cool guy, he will find you icon_wink.gif