KCBjr1979 saidI have been at my current location for about 3 years, on and off for traveling . I have met a couple of gay guys that seemed to be cool and became friends. Background of Richmond , VA - guys seem uptight , cocky and self involved . It is hard being the new guy and most guys here don't really give off a "gay" vibe . Now , my question is how do you find out who is gay and who isn't if you were at a gym or just out. Main thing is at my gym , I get looked at , some you will catch staring while you are lifting . Do all men do that - size others up or see what others are doing or would you think they are gay ?????? I never was good at figuring out who is gay unless the signs were pretty extreme ( fem, at a gay club/bar ).
I'll weigh in here because I grew up in Va Beach - Richmond.. so I feel you. Its super hard to know who's gay around you because everyone is so conformist or just afraid to be gay.
Richmond has some gay bars, but maybe I"m bias because I think the men in NYC are 100x hotter
Humans learn by looking at other people. The gym is a really good example of that. They might not be gay, maybe just seeing what you are doing. Especially if they think you are doing something new or just wrong.
My advice is stay away from the cocky and uptight homos. I see them all the time struting down the street with giant sunglasses, a man bag, and a scarf when its 75 degrees outside. It's so obvious their super insecure that I have to laugh sometimes. The VA variant of that is just what you described...