"I'm always interested in new friends."

  • GWriter

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    Apr 06, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    Why do people put this in their profile if they don't mean it? I'm looking for a relationship, but I really would be happy to make some additional gay friends to hang out with.

    At least two guys in my city say this in profile. They seem normal and friendly enough, so I contact them and say Hey. Both say Hey back. Then I ask very casually if they are interested in hanging out, getting a drink... whatever. No response from either. I don't think there's anything on my profile to indicate I have a) a psychotic disorder, b) bad breath, or c) leprosy.

    So what gives? If you are busy, just say so. But why ignore someone when you make a point of saying, "I'm a really friendly guy always looking to meet new people"? icon_neutral.gif

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    Apr 06, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    Because they suck at life. Ignore them.

    Seriously. I think most people that put in this in their profile, don't really know what they are looking for and just put something. If you are lucky, you'll find someone who's actually looking to meet new people.
  • GWriter

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    Apr 06, 2012 10:18 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidNo sure .. if you lived near me and asked me, I'd say where and when. Maybe there is an age factor.


    Haha. These weren't guys in their 20's; both were at least 35 I think.
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    Apr 06, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    The meaning of 'friend' seems to have expanded from what it once meant to include what we used to refer to as 'acquaintance'. Maybe they mean nothing more than 'online friends'.
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    Apr 06, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    I'm sure if their profiles weren't complete fakes, they would have jumped at the chance...sucks for them.
    Have some pity brotha.
  • Generaleclect...

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    Apr 06, 2012 11:00 PM GMT
    "I'm always interested in new friends... whom I find sexually attractive, and wouldn't mind me putting the moves on them someday. (No fats, fems, plz.)"

    I think you missed that part? icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 06, 2012 11:35 PM GMT
    Probably they only care about online friends.
  • GWriter

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    Apr 06, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    Thanks for the replies everyone. As for just being online friends, I'm not sure how that would work if they not only don't want to meet, but also ignore my messages!

    Ah well, I think I like Truppensturm's answer the best... just forget about them. icon_biggrin.gif
  • ciizer

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    Apr 07, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HERE There has to be at least an intellectual and emotional attraction, not physical.
    ... i agree with T

    Well, i cant speak for these guys, but when i arrive at a point where i do not reply anymore is when i feel that there is a lack of chemistry in terms of conversation. perhaps it is a clash of personality, when the other party starts to be bitchy about others or have too strong of an opinion which gives off negative vibes, i tend to stray away. I guess everyone has their motives and preference.

    As for you GWriter, i'm sorry that you were ignored, but it is not easy to say "No" to someone who is innocent, maybe by not replying your invitation would be less of a disappointing outcome although it is a pretentious one. icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 07, 2012 12:35 AM GMT
    Has anyone ever actually gotten a date via this site?

    Because all I do is strike out.
  • bishop65

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    Apr 07, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    Hey, if I lived near you, I'd like to hang out. Just sayin'. Some people are just flakes--that's the nature of living in Web 2.0.
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    Apr 07, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    And I would take you up on that.
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    Apr 07, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    I think most people like a little bit of general 'chatting up' before they meet up with someone, regardless of what the meet up is for.

    The idea is that they're OPEN to finding new friends. Not that it's first come first serve.
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    Apr 07, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    "I'm always interested in new friends."

    Translation:
    Looking for hot guys I can potentially date/fuck/rob later. icon_lol.gif

    A comical example, but yeah.. These guys are just being dishonest and have some type of criteria when it comes to new "friends". I wouldn't put too much concern into this. There are lots of higher quality guys out there. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 07, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    Guys fill their profile with buzzword fillers in an attempt to make themselves attractive to guys they find attractive. It's really easy to make yourself sound like a perfectly grounded, friendly, open-minded and kind individual. All you have to do is, write down those words, even if you're absolutely none of the above.
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    Apr 07, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidGuys fill their profile with buzzword fillers in an attempt to make themselves attractive to guys they find attractive. It's really easy to make yourself sound like a perfectly grounded, friendly, open-minded and kind individual. All you have to do is, write down those words, even if you're absolutely none of the above.


    OMG - I HATE dudes who pull that shit!!!!!

    Anyway - I enjoy cookies, bacon and revealing underwear. I really am just looking to meet artists so that I can support them with financial aid and canned goods. I am laid back and masculine and discreet and out and proud and normal and just like everyone else and completely myself and down to earth and shy and outgoing and serious and funny and smart and fancy and special and Gods little spark.

    It's ok as long as balls don't touch.

    No HoMo.

    would you be liking to have relationshop with me sexuly Hunny????

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    Apr 07, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    Possibilites are abound. They could mean it for their real life, as well as their cyber life? Maybe they're busy trying to fill the space between reaching out with the limited time online with the long hard hours it takes to forget how hard it is to find somebody? Some guys are just naturally flakey, and as a rule of thumb I say, "If they're dumb enough to ignore me or make time for; then I shouldn't worry about them being in my life." Bring the positive thoughts, people and energy in. Let the harmful, negative and distant ones go and stay away. Focus on how you're looking for someone.
    And there you are.
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Anyway - I enjoy cookies, bacon and revealing underwear....[I stopped reading]


    sup brah

    cookie2cookie?

    do you get into madeleines?

    into choco chipping?

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    Apr 07, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    Cash said
    would you be liking to have relationshop with me sexuly Hunny????



    STOP IT IT'S NOT FUNNY IT JUST FRIGHTENS ME WHEN YOU DO THAT icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    I'm always interested in new friends.
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    Elusium saidHas anyone ever actually gotten a date via this site?

    Because all I do is strike out.


    yep. it was good. def worth it. i wish distance weren't an issue icon_sad.gif but it is. wonderful guy though. a definite amazing catch.
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    You dont need gay friends. Ive gotten along just fine with out any. All my friends are straight, now if i happen to meet someone who is gay and we become friends so be it. But its pretty much like a straight woman and a straight guy just being friends.. it often doesnt work.
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    RuggedRanger15 saidYou dont need gay friends. Ive gotten along just fine with out any. All my friends are straight, now if i happen to meet someone who is gay and we become friends so be it. But its pretty much like a straight woman and a straight guy just being friends.. it often doesnt work.
    Good point. Sometimes it can work out. They could be great in pairs or small groups, but not all them are good groups. What have they bonded over? Are they any happier in their lives; or just in the moment.... ?
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    GWriter saidAt least two guys in my city say this in profile. They seem normal and friendly enough, so I contact them and say Hey. Both say Hey back. Then I ask very casually if they are interested in hanging out, getting a drink... whatever. No response from either. I don't think there's anything on my profile to indicate I have a) a psychotic disorder, b) bad breath, or c) leprosy.


    Just guessing, but based on this paragraph, maybe you're moving a little fast? If your second e-mail suggests a meet-up, that might be too soon for a lot of people. There are a lot of fakes around here. Maybe take a little time getting to know them online first before you suggest meeting in person.
  • TonyToneTC

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    Apr 07, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    What is the deal with some men who is online and don’t even want to be friends or chat or communicate with any of the members here on Realjock? Some of us want advices, sharing information, wisdom, learning about ourselves plus others as well and getting to know one another. Is it that difficult to handle when people are trying to reach out for help or whatever? First of all, don’t join any social website if you are not going to interact with people. I am always open to anyone, and love making new friends. icon_cool.gif NIZHONÍ YAA’...Naadleehé ał’ą́ą́n dah nohłíiníígíí