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Why do people put this in their profile if they don't mean it? I'm looking for a relationship, but I really would be happy to make some additional gay friends to hang out with.

At least two guys in my city say this in profile. They seem normal and friendly enough, so I contact them and say Hey. Both say Hey back. Then I ask very casually if they are interested in hanging out, getting a drink... whatever. No response from either. I don't think there's anything on my profile to indicate I have a) a psychotic disorder, b) bad breath, or c) leprosy.

So what gives? If you are busy, just say so. But why ignore someone when you make a point of saying, "I'm a really friendly guy always looking to meet new people"?

Because they suck at life. Ignore them.

Seriously. I think most people that put in this in their profile, don't really know what they are looking for and just put something. If you are lucky, you'll find someone who's actually looking to meet new people.

AMoonHawk saidNo sure .. if you lived near me and asked me, I'd say where and when. Maybe there is an age factor.

Haha. These weren't guys in their 20's; both were at least 35 I think.

I'm the kind of guy who gets along with almost everyone whether or not they're gay. Gay men are just like straight people who can't just date whoever they get a boner for. There has to be at least an intellectual and emotional attraction, not physical.

The meaning of 'friend' seems to have expanded from what it once meant to include what we used to refer to as 'acquaintance'. Maybe they mean nothing more than 'online friends'.

I'm sure if their profiles weren't complete fakes, they would have jumped at the chance...sucks for them.
Have some pity brotha.

"I'm always interested in new friends... whom I find sexually attractive, and wouldn't mind me putting the moves on them someday. (No fats, fems, plz.)"

I think you missed that part?

Probably they only care about online friends.

Thanks for the replies everyone. As for just being online friends, I'm not sure how that would work if they not only don't want to meet, but also ignore my messages!

Ah well, I think I like Truppensturm's answer the best... just forget about them.

QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HERE There has to be at least an intellectual and emotional attraction, not physical.

... i agree with T

Well, i cant speak for these guys, but when i arrive at a point where i do not reply anymore is when i feel that there is a lack of chemistry in terms of conversation. perhaps it is a clash of personality, when the other party starts to be bitchy about others or have too strong of an opinion which gives off negative vibes, i tend to stray away. I guess everyone has their motives and preference.

As for you GWriter, i'm sorry that you were ignored, but it is not easy to say "No" to someone who is innocent, maybe by not replying your invitation would be less of a disappointing outcome although it is a pretentious one.

Has anyone ever actually gotten a date via this site?

Because all I do is strike out.

Hey, if I lived near you, I'd like to hang out. Just sayin'. Some people are just flakes--that's the nature of living in Web 2.0.

And I would take you up on that.

Well, of course you don't have leprosy.

But you do have cooties.

I think most people like a little bit of general 'chatting up' before they meet up with someone, regardless of what the meet up is for.

The idea is that they're OPEN to finding new friends. Not that it's first come first serve.

Elusium saidHas anyone ever actually gotten a date via this site?

Because all I do is strike out.

Really? With that pouty 'fuck me' look on your face? I'm surprised.

"I'm always interested in new friends."

Translation:
Looking for hot guys I can potentially date/fuck/rob later.

A comical example, but yeah.. These guys are just being dishonest and have some type of criteria when it comes to new "friends". I wouldn't put too much concern into this. There are lots of higher quality guys out there.

Guys fill their profile with buzzword fillers in an attempt to make themselves attractive to guys they find attractive. It's really easy to make yourself sound like a perfectly grounded, friendly, open-minded and kind individual. All you have to do is, write down those words, even if you're absolutely none of the above.

Ariodante saidGuys fill their profile with buzzword fillers in an attempt to make themselves attractive to guys they find attractive. It's really easy to make yourself sound like a perfectly grounded, friendly, open-minded and kind individual. All you have to do is, write down those words, even if you're absolutely none of the above.

OMG - I HATE dudes who pull that shit!!!!!

Anyway - I enjoy cookies, bacon and revealing underwear. I really am just looking to meet artists so that I can support them with financial aid and canned goods. I am laid back and masculine and discreet and out and proud and normal and just like everyone else and completely myself and down to earth and shy and outgoing and serious and funny and smart and fancy and special and Gods little spark.

It's ok as long as balls don't touch.

No HoMo.

would you be liking to have relationshop with me sexuly Hunny????

Possibilites are abound. They could mean it for their real life, as well as their cyber life? Maybe they're busy trying to fill the space between reaching out with the limited time online with the long hard hours it takes to forget how hard it is to find somebody? Some guys are just naturally flakey, and as a rule of thumb I say, "If they're dumb enough to ignore me or make time for; then I shouldn't worry about them being in my life." Bring the positive thoughts, people and energy in. Let the harmful, negative and distant ones go and stay away. Focus on how you're looking for someone.
And there you are.

Cash said
Anyway - I enjoy cookies, bacon and revealing underwear....[I stopped reading]

sup brah

cookie2cookie?

do you get into madeleines?

into choco chipping?

Cash said
would you be liking to have relationshop with me sexuly Hunny????

STOP IT IT'S NOT FUNNY IT JUST FRIGHTENS ME WHEN YOU DO THAT

I'm always interested in new friends.

Elusium saidHas anyone ever actually gotten a date via this site?

Because all I do is strike out.

yep. it was good. def worth it. i wish distance weren't an issue but it is. wonderful guy though. a definite amazing catch.

You dont need gay friends. Ive gotten along just fine with out any. All my friends are straight, now if i happen to meet someone who is gay and we become friends so be it. But its pretty much like a straight woman and a straight guy just being friends.. it often doesnt work.