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Hey guys!

So I'm a senior in college, deciding between pursuing a PhD in biology or being a doctor. I really want to go into medicine and have been accepted to med schools, but now I'm getting worried about being able to find someone.

I know that I'll be rigorously training for the next 8-10 years depending on what type of medicine I want to go into, and afterwards (again depending on what type of medicine I'm in) I will probably be busy with my job. I know that almost all professionals have a certain degree of involvement in their jobs, but doctors in particular get a bad rep in terms of not having enough free time for loved ones (at least from what I've heard).

So, I guess what I'm asking is if you met a guy who was a doctor with a busy lifestyle would that be something that turned you away? I know I can't base my life choices on what guys would think of my career, but I also want to make sure I'm not throwing away romantic possibilities in the future by being a doctor.

Thanks for reading and any and all advice/opinions/suggestions are welcome!

I work in aviation, which also demanding in terms of travel and seldom spend time at home (just booked a plane ticket a few minutes ago for yet another trip).

Fortunately, this trip is to go see my boyfriend.

So yeah, if you stick it out long enough, someone will eventually date you even if your career is nomadic.

Go for it! Definitely a turn ON. It shows that you have the potential of having a stable career in the future, are responsible and can take good care of your guy. You're heading in the right direction.
So for now, my advice to you would be that you focus on getting that PhD and worry about the dating bit later. Things should sort themselves out eventually, as long as you stay focus not let your job get in the way of your personal life too much.

Cheers (:

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Oh thanks a lot for the fast responses, guys!

I'm happy to hear you are all pushing me towards it - it really makes me feel better

Turn on ! They make shitloads of money

mdtennisfan saidHey guys!

So I'm a senior in college, deciding between pursuing a PhD in biology or being a doctor. I really want to go into medicine and have been accepted to med schools, but now I'm getting worried about being able to find someone.

I know that I'll be rigorously training for the next 8-10 years depending on what type of medicine I want to go into, and afterwards (again depending on what type of medicine I'm in) I will probably be busy with my job. I know that almost all professionals have a certain degree of involvement in their jobs, but doctors in particular get a bad rep in terms of not having enough free time for loved ones (at least from what I've heard).

So, I guess what I'm asking is if you met a guy who was a doctor with a busy lifestyle would that be something that turned you away? I know I can't base my life choices on what guys would think of my career, but I also want to make sure I'm not throwing away romantic possibilities in the future by being a doctor.

Thanks for reading and any and all advice/opinions/suggestions are welcome!

I dated a doctor many moons ago, and agree that there are a lot of constraints on their time, and also a lot of unexpected long days which can put a lot of pressure on a relationship - its all about quality instead of quantity..

Many evenings were spent with me just listening to him talk about his day, giving him a shoulder rub and cuddling after making sure he ate.

Random days I could be nearby I bought sandwiches and waited in the hospital grounds for him to show (or not) and have lunch..

It can be frustrating, but ultimately I'm sure its worth it - I'd still be with my doctor if he hadn't moved interstate for a better position in a bigger hospital.

Make sure you're staying in shape while you work toward M.D.

Hot is hot. Not is not.

Only if he "plays doctor' at home!

You are never throwing away any romantic opportunities because of your job. As long as you know how to make time and spend it wisely with whoever you find and as long as they understand your situation then there shouldn't be a problem. Would I date a doctor? Yes. I get what they have to do and understand that they're jobs are very demanding. Comes with the territory.

Time management and priorities is what it all boils down to.

Pff yeah

Depends on YOUR time management skills. I tried dating a couple of medical students and didn't work out. Relationship wise I am not a low maintenance guy ...

I dated a guy who was already a doctor and had a totally different schedule when compared to mine. He was on the board at the hospital, also into cycle racing on a traveling team limited to the warmer times of the year and weekends only. He had family in a few other countries that he visited yearly. But he was the most sensitive, sweet and caring man I ever knew.
What I am trying to say here is, don't let your career goals bring down your love life. While I am sure it is tuff to go to school for 8-10 years as planned, you might catch on quicker and finish sooner than that time period. I know someone who completed their PhD in 3 years. So I know it is possible!!!

Everyone is different and sometimes personalities mesh when you least expect it. If you meet someone and it gets serious, Just lay out the ground rules for your school/work times and if he is flexible and understanding, that will be the first trait you must look for in the guy you choose to be in your life, he will make compromises to support you in that way. Maybe, just maybe you will meet someone who is in your school or hospital?? You never know, right? Go out and be the best at what you do or want to train for, and you will most likely attract people towards you. I wish you the best while you are training and studying. Life if too short, don't deny yourself love if it knocks on your door.
Unfortunately, my relationship ended after a year due to a long distance issue: Vancouver-Atlanta. But it was wonderful while it lasted.

You should pursue the line of work that really makes you feel actualized.

Don't be swayed by other people and especially dating or romantic relationships when it comes to what you want to do with your life. You'll more than likely regret that decision much later in life.

^^This.

why do so many people waste time with detailed comments on obvious sock account posts...

It's all about what you really want to do. Don't let our opinions persuade you unless you're heart is so split that you absolutely NEED to flip a coin in order to figure out the rest of your life.

What kind of genius reconsiders a career in Medicine cause how it effects his outcome of getting laid? Is that you Gregory House?
Seriously though, first pursue a career you honestly love regardless of anyone else. Secondly, date and commit to a guy who loves you for your and all aspects of who you are. That means if you're a Barista, Pornstar, or Doctor; he'll stand by YOU, and your money and career will be yours and only things he will love and understand cause he loves you that much. <3<3

To answer your question as a medical student... yeah, I would date a doctor, obviously...

definitely would date a doctor (probably even prefer one). we'd be such a power couple! lol

It sounds glamourous, but its not.

Which is why when I'm cutting people open next year, I guess this is just a sacrifice I'll have to make.

From my personal experience I would more than likely not.

A large portion of them are way too left-brain for me, closet Republicans, closet homosexuals. The interesting part to all of this is that so many of them develop an over-inflated sense of worth yet they're too afraid to be open about their political views or their sexuality.

Since they tend to perpetuate a false image, they tend to be sneaky and very good at hiding themselves. That simply doesn't work for me.

Your profession should definitely be irrelevant to your sex appeal.

Of course your relationship will suffer because your patients entrust you with their lives, and won't expect your dating/relationship schedule will be in the way.

You just have to find an understanding partner if you pick medicine. If you lack the drive/conviction, please do something else.

Doctor or not. The important thing is to know what you want and go after it. Having dated a doctor and long distance(a seemingly double whammy) he was probably one of the best things that could have happened to me. Tho time the amount of time spent together was short, each visit was cherished. Ultimately it comes down to making time, being available and not just saying "I love/like/enjoy you". Tho luck/love wasn't on our side, I wouldnt hesitate to do it again.

Make your own decision and screw what everyone else thinks or will think.