Intimidated of me?

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    Apr 07, 2012 11:15 AM GMT
    A few guy/girls I chat with for a number of years told me that they had a crush on me for quite some time (it only took about 2-5 years to tell me) and the reason why they never told me is because i was intimidating and still am today..................my straight homeboy even told me he liked walking with me cuz i'm his bodyguardicon_question.gif

    I have a stoic expression and i'm normally in deep thought when i'm approached. I like to think about what kind of message i'm portraying before putting it out there, even though it's not absolute.


    but at the same time, I give free hugs....I have a free hugs shirt. Intimidated by me? Come on...............
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    Apr 07, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    I evidently have intimidating look about me as well (inherited from my mother... icon_evil.gif ) You may have it worse considering that you're bigger than me, lol~
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    Apr 07, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    You look like the 'stereotype' of tough but in your black and white pic your face looks really sweet icon_smile.gif

    Like JP said you should smile more icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 07, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    Final_Fantasy saidI evidently have intimidating look about me as well (inherited from my mother... icon_evil.gif ) You may have it worse considering that you're bigger than me, lol~

    Your picture doesn't give off 'intimidating', but it definitely gives off 'smart and serious'.


    Thank you~ Of course I wish I could keep on the face that I have in my main pic as people see me in person, lol! My grandma told my cousin and I once "You boys need to start smiling at the ladies as they walk by~" (I started smiling, but little did she know...)
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidYou look like the 'stereotype' of tough but in your black and white pic your face looks really sweet icon_smile.gif

    Like JP said you should smile more icon_biggrin.gif
    I agree with this statement!
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    I get told I look mean and intimidating too. Somebody even said I look like a pitbull. My supervising teacher when I was doing my student teaching told me not to smile for the first semester.I don't know what your profession is but sometimes intimidating can work for you.
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    I had a student over the summer tell me that I am quite scary when I'm not smiling. I told my students during the regular semester this and they died laughing. Most of my students are completely not intimidated by me. I sometimes wish they were because I feel a bit like Rodney Dangerfield - "I get no respect."


    Hah!

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    Apr 07, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    I've been told I have an angry look on my face! icon_sad.gificon_eek.gif But I'm not an angry person. Thats just the face I was born with.
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:38 PM GMT
    I look intimidating most of the time, it's almost like my mouth is stuck on frown. However, my friends know I'm not really intimidating. They know I look intimidating to strangers though, so they make me walk in front of our group when we hang out at night. icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 07, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    I'd hug the stuffing out of you - but I can't promise that I would try and sneak in a little butt squeeze! ;)
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    Apr 07, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    I have the same problem. It's something that's natural and nothing I can really change about it. I think it makes me look very unapproachable.
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    Apr 07, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    mortal12 said

    but at the same time, I give free hugs....I have a free hugs shirt. Intimidated by me? Come on...............


    It's because you're big and don't smile. That typically does it.
  • CarbGoggles

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    Apr 07, 2012 9:04 PM GMT
    I get this a lot too. My friends all seem to have a "first time I met you" story. I think I just have a mean look on my face all the time. I guess it's better than gay face HAHAHAHA!!!
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidFor professors I think you get more respect if they like you more as someone who they can approach as a colleague, friend, and superior at the same time. I've noticed that most of my professors and instructors who are much more friendly and less intimidating have more successful students.


    This is very true... being engaging on a personal level seems to lead to greater interest by one's students in the course material. It's been a long time since I've taught, but it worked for me.

    I wasn't sure whether I was supposed to be flattered or dismayed when a couple of my students said I looked like Ricky Martin, though. (yeah, it was a LONG time ago... in one of my more in-shape periods)
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    Thanks.

    Not to toot my own horn... (well OK maybe I am a bit...)

    I think I have a good rapport with everyone - which is why I was just promoted to the head of my division. I'm still a bit nervous about it, but excited at the same time.

    Sorry, I think I just made this thread about me. - Let's get back to the OP.


    OP, I don't know you, and I can't presume to know your personality, but I do know that sometimes it's the non-verbal cues that people are picking up on. If you are nervous or lack confidence (like me), sometimes people may misinterpret it that you are closed off or not-friendly and be a bit intimidated.

    This may not be the case since you like to give free hugs, but, I am learning to be aware of the non-verbal cues I present to people.

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    Apr 07, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    Thanks.

    Not to toot my own horn... (well OK maybe I am a bit...)

    I think I have a good rapport with everyone - which is why I was just promoted to the head of my division. I'm still a bit nervous about it, but excited at the same time.

    Sorry, I think I just made this thread about me. - Let's get back to the OP.


    OP, I don't know you, and I can't presume to know your personality, but I do know that sometimes it's the non-verbal cues that people are picking up on. If you are nervous or lack confidence (like me), sometimes people may misinterpret it that you are closed off or not-friendly and be a bit intimidated.

    This may not be the case since you like to give free hugs, but, I am learning to be aware of the non-verbal cues I present to people.

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    Apr 07, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    Well I know from another post that the OP is a fighter. It can be intimidating when you punch people in the face.
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:20 PM GMT
    Coach Mike - your biceps intimidate me and hypnotize me all at the same time... icon_eek.gif

    (I mean that in a good way) icon_biggrin.gif

    lol
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    They're just to disguise the fact that I'm only 5' 9 1/2".
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    Apr 08, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Cool cool. I'm glad im not the only guy with this problem. I don't like forcing smiles so pretty much all my smiles are genuine. It's very easy to make me smile or laugh and give me a hug and i'll melt down(making a huge mistake revealing this lol).

    I think it's when I go into "detective" mode that I build a barrier because i'm so focused it's like tunnel vision so I don't let anything get to me. and sometimes people just bother me wrong place wrong time. If you see a bull charging don't get in front of it lol

    but I will try to give a friendlier vibe when I meet new people especially dating wise.