Are you superficial?

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    Apr 07, 2012 8:56 PM GMT
    A lot of people here like to throw around the stereotype that all gay men care about is looks and dick size. Well who are these kinda people? Anyone here care to admit they are superficial? They surely must exist if they are the constant topic of discussion...
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    Dick size is irrelevant.
    Looks are everything.
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:02 PM GMT
    No, money is important, too.
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 07, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    When it comes to dating, sex, and relationships..who isn't? Gay, Straight, Bi....we all want someone to look or act a certain way in order for us to deem them attractive in our eyes.

    When it comes to making friends however, I can truly say that superfciality has never inhibited me from gaining awesome long-lasting relationships. Looks really should have nothing to do with who you are friends with, but for many gay men it has everything to do with it...sadly THIS is a stigma of the gay society and what makes others view gays as superficial.
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    I agree with the above. However, when it comes to relationships, there are things more important than looks. Personality and character are the real dealbreakers for me, not just his appearance. Only getting friends that you are attracted to is just too retarded for words. People who think like that you don't want to be friends with anyway, so no problem.
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 07, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    Truppensturm saidI agree with the above. However, when it comes to relationships, there are things more important than looks. Personality and character are the real dealbreakers for me, not just his appearance. Only getting friends that you are attracted to is just too retarded for words. People who think like that you don't want to be friends with anyway, so no problem.

    Couldn't agree more. I only meant superficial on a very basic scale when it comes to relationships. There has to be some sort of attraction which, usually, has to do with appearance initially. Of course an asshole personality or shitty character can be an instant boner killer.
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    Only my profile.
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
    who isn't superficial should be the question.

    I'll admit I am superficial about some things, but not to the point of being a jerk or a snob about it. It's all in how u carry urself and present urself to others. If u come off as having an air of superficiality about u and presenting urself as a snob or a whatever, then yes, I think it's a negative, but if u are still gracious and kind toward others, despite ur superficiality then It's not that bad....

    Deep down, all people have a type of superficiality about them in some way or another.
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
    klassik saidDeep down, all people have a type of superficiality about them in some way or another.

    True. Better to recognize that and deal with it.
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    Other things just as important:

    1. Vehicle
    2. Music taste
    3. iPhone possession
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    Apr 07, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
    Woolsocks saidOther things just as important:

    1. Vehicle
    2. Music taste
    3. iPhone possession


    iPhone possession ftw lol icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 07, 2012 11:07 PM GMT
    I have to admit that I'm more superficial than I'd like to be. I always thought that guys should find me attractive because I'm super nice, intelligent, caring/kind and successful (i.e. they should look past my looks [or lack there of]).

    But, when the shoe is other the other foot, I tell myself that 'chemistry' and 'physical attraction' are important; I use those criteria to 'just be friends' with guys that show real interests in me.

    In the end, I figured that maybe one day I'll meet a guy whom I find attractive/nice/intelligent/caring and who reciprocates those feelings. I don't want to settle (at least, right now). So, I'll continue to be superficial.
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    Apr 07, 2012 11:09 PM GMT
    I'm as superficial as the mirror in front of me!
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    Apr 07, 2012 11:10 PM GMT
    I wish I could say I were not superficial, but I am.

    Although in the rank order of things, dick size is pretty far down. I'd rather have a smokin' bod, great career, hot car, and hang out with the jet set rather than having a beer can.
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    Apr 07, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    I am somewhat.
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Apr 08, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    You say looks and dick size, what about age and "masculinity" ?
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    Apr 08, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    The penis does the picking.
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    Apr 08, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
    Attracted by looks first - which is subjective. What you find hot, I may not and vice-versa. However personality comes second...

    Remember that scene in Grown Ups when the ladies see that hot guy at the pool. He swims over and speaks to them...

    This thread makes me think of that.
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    Apr 08, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    Larkin saidThe penis does the picking.


    ..and the pointing icon_wink.gif


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  • OptimusMatt

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    Apr 08, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    I'm not superficial, I'm pretentious and condescending icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 08, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Dominican_Gent saidYou say looks and dick size, what about age and "masculinity" ?


    I don't discount a guy because if his age. In fact I love older menicon_twisted.gif
  • caljock2001

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    Apr 08, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    Lets just be honest here. Having a big dick is a definate plus. I won't deny that. Only other big dicked guys( and I reference a true 8" and higher) know what I am talking about. Thank God for genetics.

    My condolences for those that are 6 and belowicon_redface.gif
  • OptimusMatt

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    Apr 08, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    ^^

    Pics or it didn't happen icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 08, 2012 4:25 AM GMT
    The question isn't if somebody is or is not superficial, but how much being superficial affects them.
    I've dated guys that I'm not initially attracted to before because of their personality.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Apr 08, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    If you are human, you are on some level, on some issue superficial to a certain extent.