Coming out help

  • clcgman

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    Apr 09, 2012 5:59 AM GMT
    srry kind of long had to get it out if u can help please I need it and if I spelled something wrong srry.

    I'm 18 granduating high school and in 9th grade I came out to myself and I am open at school if u ask I answer kind o thing I don't go around anonsing it but who dose realy. Any way I have tryed to tell my perents and got told to go to my room and not talk to them then my mom keeps tryin to get me to date girls ewww and I'm tiered of hiding it but they r verey homaphobic and I don't know how to tell thim but I would like to be able to date and not have to always say I'm going to dances with girls or to the movies bymyself.

    In jr high when I was still confused about my sexuality they cought me looking at pics of nude guys I told them I was confused and didn't know what I was and they just yelled and yelled about how I was lieing and I wasn't realy confused I was just trying to get out of talking about it. I know My dad loves me and I don't plan to tell him because it's for the better right now but I want to tell my mom and don't know how.

    Ever scense that day the cought me I feel happy and romantic with a guy but then I remember my dads face and how he looked at me as if I were the was a discrase and I dont know wat to do. I think if I tell my mom some how then I will be better. I don't expect them to jump for joy when I tell her but I just would like to be able to date and have a life without being having to hide from my family.
  • clcgman

    Posts: 33

    Apr 10, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    Srry so long please help idk wat to do
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    Apr 10, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    Get OUT of Hanford! ASAP!
  • Hulse15

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    Apr 10, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    Try talking to your mom. Maybe that will open up some doors. I know it's hard. But you have to remember to love yourself and know that you are very special!

    I came out at 15. It was difficult at first. But you know your parents love you. It will pass. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 10, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Do you have any support outside of your parents? Friends or extended family?

    Would they kick you out if you came out to them?
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 10, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    Your rents already know dude. They caught you looking at nude guys, and you express no interest in girls. They know, but are just in denial. That's what close minded people do. Just continue to be yourself if it is safe to do so. They will accept you eventually, and if they don't then you will find a whole world of people that do when you are able to head out on your own.
  • Buddha

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    Apr 10, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    Are you sure you'll be graduating?
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 10, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    buddha_the_god saidAre you sure you'll be graduating?

    LOL shhh



    ....sorry icon_lol.gif
  • clcgman

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    Apr 10, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    1) yes I know I'm graduating

    2) I don't show intrest in girls but I have took girls to all the highshool dances

    3) Im out at school so I do have friends that know

    4) i don't care if they don't know so to say just don't want to date some one and have to hide it u know wat I mean
  • clcgman

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    Apr 10, 2012 4:14 AM GMT
    Any more advice
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    Apr 10, 2012 10:52 AM GMT
    well you seem to have made the first step in trying and accepting who you are..

    Maybe spend a weekend at a friends and leave your parents a letter...asking them to take time to think...and if they want to be partof your life they don't have to like it, but have to accept it and to call yo when they had time to think...

    just an idea
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    Apr 10, 2012 11:10 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    buddha_the_god saidAre you sure you'll be graduating?

    LOL shhh



    ....sorry icon_lol.gif


    LOLOLOLOLOL