I always topped before now I want to bottom

  • jsd8675

    Posts: 23

    Apr 10, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    Because of my Physical attributes I have always been seen as a TOP...

    However, a few years ago, a guy I know topped me.

    The sensation was incredible.. it really was. And I want to explore this part of me.

    Unfortunately I am seen as a Top/Jock.

    Are there any dudes who would respect this and possibly properly teach me how to be a bottom? I would like to enjoy both, but I literally have no experience.

    I want to experiment.. but.. being a masc top type it is a little embarrassing to me to want to be topped by a dude whose position I used to fulfill.


  • TheBizMan

    Posts: 4091

    Apr 10, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    No, sorry.. you can never be a bottom.

    Just kidding! Why would you be embarrassed...let me guess, you'd feel emasculated? If you like it just do it! There are aggressive dom bottoms out there. But I guess uttering the words "fuck me harder" makes it appear as though you have to be sub.
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    Apr 10, 2012 7:53 PM GMT
    Why does it matter if you're a top or bottom? If you enjoy bottoming, then go for it--there's no shame in that. From my own personal experience, I can tell you that there are tons of hugely muscular and undeniably masculine gay/bi men who enjoy bottoming and they don't really care. I have found that there's absolutely no correlation between masculinity and one's preference for being a bottom. Have fun!
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    Apr 10, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    Hats off to you for your honesty. It's attractive to others.

    Good luck and have a blast.
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    Apr 10, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    You seem to be carrying shame around about bottoming.

    As someone who has taken the reverse journey ... starting out as a verse/bottom 20 years ago but now am pretty much exclusively top... there is no meaning to the positions themselves than what you actually ascribe to them.

    Perhaps you might want to pursue this with someone who likes to "flip fuck"... where you alternate in being top and bottom. Then you might find that it's "equal", and get over the issue...
  • jackthejock

    Posts: 395

    Apr 11, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    I used to only like to bottom and my BF used to only top, but since we've been together we've booth been open to trying switching it up. Now I'd say I bottom about 2/3rds of the time.
  • RyanChase

    Posts: 317

    Apr 27, 2012 9:08 AM GMT
    Just make your move to be the bttm once...
    I'm vers, and that's what i've done.

    It can be awkward the first time you make that move, but you gotta remember it's only awkward for you. The other guy has no idea.