WTF IS UP WITH SHALLOW AND VAIN GAYS?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    This is a topic that's very fresh in my mind.

    Picture it: Toronto, Saturday night...sitting on a patio with friends with a few drinks. Your best friend and his bf just sit there and talk smack about ppl. Calling them ugly, making fun of what they wear etc. I thought to myself "Who died and made you both Abercrombie models?" Cuz neither of them are exactly model material here.

    Seriously, I thought it was a stereotype. But it seems a lot of gays do that. Is it cuz they're all insecure and need to talk shit about ppl to feel better about themselves? Or they just delusional?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    I'v been hanging with a mostly straight crowd until reciently and believe me- the straight guys do it too, i think its a lack of confidence on the haters part.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    Insecurity. The need to put other people down to makes one's self feel better.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    Interesting. Cuz 95% of my friends are straight and they never talk like that.
  • okcomputer201...

    Posts: 132

    Apr 10, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    Damn you're hot.

    Don't give up on the gays! You'll break our hearts icon_sad.gif

    Was that shallow? icon_redface.gif

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidInsecurity. The need to put other people down to makes one's self feel better.



    I think that is probably the case with gay men. My straight friends, on the other hand, when I am at a straight bar and see them criticizing the fat chicks and ugly Bettys, I think they truly do picture themselves as Brad Pitt or Tom Hardy and not the beer belly, double-chinned guys they really are and feel they can do better than the women they find so undesirable.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Only straight friends here and I never hear that kind of shit.

    But it could be the crowd I hang with. Other then the chicks around me/us, I don't have any friends that give a shit about cloths and, other then staying healthy, feel the same way about their bodies....not clean shaved, waxed, trimmed ect... So, no clean cut "pretty boys". We'd be the one being made fun of...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:21 AM GMT
    Iceblink said
    DudeInNOVA saidInsecurity. The need to put other people down to makes one's self feel better.



    I think that is probably the case with gay men. My straight friends, on the other hand, when I am at a straight bar and see them criticizing the fat chicks and ugly Bettys, I think they truly do picture themselves as Brad Pitt or Tom Hardy and not the beer belly, double-chinned guys they really are and feel they can do better than the women they find so undesirable.


    I don't think our two thoughts are in conflict. By criticizing unattractive women, your straight friends are really saying "I'm better than them. I deserve a hot woman." They're still putting someone else down to make themselves seem better. They're just doing it in a different way than when gay guys put each other down.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    Honestly, I've never experienced that. Although all my friends are straight (have only two gay friends, but I rarely see them), they never criticize anyone. I think the reason could be that these people are highly educated. Now, I'm not saying that uneducated people are crude, but education does help open one's mind.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    sweetyork saidHonestly, I've never experienced that. Although all my friends are straight (have only two gay friends, but I rarely see them), they never criticize anyone. I think the reason could be that these people are highly educated. Now, I'm not saying that uneducated people are crude, but education does help open one's mind.


    That could be very true. The one who kept calling ppl ugly is not educated at all. And a very old school thinker. He also thinks it's okay to hit women.
  • runnermtl

    Posts: 129

    Apr 10, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    Gays are people. Some people are shallow and/or vain. That is all. Thank you.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    wonofakind saidInteresting. Cuz 95% of my friends are straight and they never talk like that.


    I agree never heard a str8 guy discuss stuff like that. How is it that you hang with them?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    Duhhhh... it's people doing that, all over. Gay, straight, bi, whatever. No sexual orientation or identification has a lock on being vain, shallow, cruel, or plain old obnoxious.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    Depends - is your Best Friend and his BF Hot???

  • stratavos

    Posts: 1831

    Apr 10, 2012 2:58 AM GMT
    runnermtl saidGays are people. Some people are shallow and/or vain. That is all. Thank you.


    indeed. Also, just because someone is not saying it, does not mean that they are/are not thinking it...

    I know I've been guilty of talking like this, and it's pretty tough to resist the mob mentality about it.

    Generally, it's a pretty big turn off icon_sad.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    Cash saidDepends - is your Best Friend and his BF Hot???



    Better yet, post pics so WE can judge THEM!
  • Generaleclect...

    Posts: 504

    Apr 10, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    Straight guy: "Damn that girl's a dog. I wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole."
    (Wow, that guy is so shallow)

    Gay guy: "So this fugly guy had the nerve to hit on me the other day..."
    (Wow, gay guys are so shallow)

    Generalizations are bad, blah blah blah...
  • ATXnative

    Posts: 240

    Apr 10, 2012 3:04 AM GMT
    wonofakind said I thought to myself "Who died and made you both Abercrombie models?" Cuz neither of them are exactly model material here.

    Seriously, I thought it was a stereotype. But it seems a lot of gays do that. Is it cuz they're all insecure and need to talk shit about ppl to feel better about themselves? Or they just delusional?


    HANG ON HANG ON

    you are clearly the delusional one OP.

    Because you just implied that Abercrombie models, in and of themselves are entitled to opinions about other people and styles of clothing... which is entirely false. That would mean you think highly of 16 year old high school boys, and twinks trying to look like 16 year old high school boys.. which also would explain WHY you think all the gays do this, because you hang out with the ones who suck. Which coulllllllld potentially mean, that by association, you suck.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    The juxtaposition of the OP's headless, naked torso and a rant about shallow, vain stereotypes is just a teensy bit ironic, no?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    This is not uncommon at all in gay bars, which is a big reason I rarely step foot in one. Luckily, where I live, the "straight" bars are actually quite mixed with both gay and straight, so I never feel the need to subject myself to a gay bar. Ironically, the gay bars are the ones that are the least tolerant of diversity.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    Yes, it's insecurity. Guys like this don't deserve my attention or time of day.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    "Hurt people hurt people." Whether you're gay or straight.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    WFT IS UP WITH GUYS WHO WRITE THREAD TITLES THAT SUGGEST THAT THE CONCEPT OF VANITY AND SHALLOWNESS IS LIMITED TO JUST GAYS?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    intensity69 saidDuhhhh... it's people doing that, all over. Gay, straight, bi, whatever. No sexual orientation or identification has a lock on being vain, shallow, cruel, or plain old obnoxious.

    You got that right buddy.icon_exclaim.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Apr 10, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    they will burn in the lake of fire